i am a younger woman with an older man

HA! You are funny. It does help to laugh it of though. We kinda make it our thing that he is "so big and grumbly" i say when we get old i'll put candy on the lawn to lore kids on it and keep his stick whith in reach so he can shake it at them! thanks i loved your reply in fact i may need to read it over in the future.

Well, one is from him two are from my first marriage. He's decided i should stay home ( agree financially it makes no sense here to pay for child care) i would love to go back to college i've asked what he's thought and my mouth kinda dropped at "i'll think about it" I've talked to him about his belittling me he kinda doesn't see it the same as i do. the one day we got into a fight after i seriously asked him if he felt we were equal in this relationship. he said fine i'll stay home you can go earn the money. i said so i can go earn my rights to you? he said well you go fix the car. i said so again i can go earn my rights here. he just looked at me blankly. HE is man me woman. that is how i feel sometimes when he gets that way that he's sucha throw back when it comes to this stuff it'll never cross his mind that he's not the center of the universe. and i do love him and we don't fight too much.

This is your boyfriend and not your second husband, right? How long after leaving your first husband did you start a new relationship? I have found that a person should take time out for themselves and work on themselves before going into any new relationships. It sounds to me like you need to work on your self esteem and feeling better about yourself. You should definately found a way to go back to school if you really want to. Don't let a man that is not married to you try and dictate what you should do with your life.