Confronting GROWN CHILDREN with DRUG ISSUES
@texasclassygal (5305)
United States
February 13, 2007 8:30am CST
I have a grown daughter that in the past in her teenage years had serious drug problems which I proceeded to place in her the best drug treatment facilities in our town to deal with the issues. Today she is grown and has a family of her own, but at times I notice that she has similar tendencies as though she is doing the drugs again. Do I confront her about them or allow her to act the way she does and perhaps do the drugs, especially since she is raising my granddaughter now. What would you do?
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Yes I think you should confront her. do it when she is in a good mood. you tell tell just her reactions. If shewas doing it she could go back to doing it. I hope not. just sit down and have a heart to heart talk with her.
@joyderful1 (94)
• Singapore
14 Feb 07
I'd rather use the word 'care-front'. Approach with care. Call her to arrange for a time with her, at a nice quiet place or even at her home.
In the meeting, begin with light chat. When you think she's relaxed, say something like, "Honey, I feel we are both adult enough for me to talk to you about this; do not feel that I'm trying to control you nor tell you what to do; I may be wrong, but ... (proceed to say what you noticed that may have triggered her use)"
You will know by the way she either listens or else tries to raise her own emotional defences. If it gets too highly charged, you don't need an answer. At this point, you both may need the space, so say, "I feel this is upsetting you a great deal. I care for you, so, I'm going to leave now. When you are in a better state of mind to talk, call me. You've worked it out before, and I know you will work it out again." Leave her then.
I believe you have her on the side of recovery with this treatment.
Good luck.
@Devinarun (387)
• United States
14 Feb 07
i think it is good that you go n find out whether she is doin it again as it will affect her family and others also.being her mother you ahve all the right to go n correct her on this.
@kabella50 (309)
• United States
13 Feb 07
yes you ask her.for one thing if she has fallen back into that way of life she thinks she's covering her use up and if you confront her she will realize that she can't hide it from you and that may help her stop before she gets carried away.I know that may siund like wishful thinking,but I have been where she is and being on the low is key to getting high so yes,ask her ,even if she lies,you'll know and she will know you know.You're a good mom and there is only so much you can do.The treatment works only as long as the person chooses to let it work.It's all choices,so see what happens and good luck.
@mrfee1000 (1)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Wow thats crazy. I think im going to do more research on this.
