"C'mon STUPID!"

@Ambur25 (1007)
United States
February 13, 2007 10:58am CST
Omg... I was in Wal-Mart this morning and heard a mother scream at her son "C'mon Stupid!!" O.o! I wanted to crawl in a hole just having heard it! The little boy was walking along behind his mother, and he stopped to look at some cookies. The mother, on her cell phone, put the phone to her chest and screamed at him like that. The little boy had such a horribly blank look on his face, never looked at her, he just walked away from the cookies and caught up with her. What's up with parents calling their children stupid?!?! Or any other name like that!! Don't get me wrong, I've called my kids names. JOKINGLY. But never a name like "Stupid" or "Idiot" Or something like that. I've told them they were acting stupid! Lol. Or the funniest, I call my youngest son "Chubs" sometimes. Because he's 5 years old, and doesn't weigh over 40 lbs! So it's kinda funny. But parents that call their kids stupid, or idiot, or anything of that nature??? The kids are going to grow up thinking their stupid! It kills their self-esteem. And I witnessed it first hand with this little boy. He wasn't happy, and walking through Wal-Mart looking around. He only stopped to look at cookies Mom! Just tell me to come without being so rude! GeeeeeeZ
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60 responses
13 Feb 07
I think that is terrible. It is so bad for a child's self esteem to call them names like that, even if it is justified and in this case it certainly wasn't. It is no surprise that children behave so badly these days if that is the way that they are treated by their parents.
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@Madruga (137)
• Romania
13 Feb 07
Yes , that`s very true . A child is raised by his parents and his 7 years from home comes from there . If he was unhappy and baddly understand , why should he smile ? OR to who? And the bad part is that this child wil become like his parents...
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
13 Feb 07
Wow I don't know what to say - there was only one stupid person and it wasn't the little boy! Add uncaring, insensitive, bad-parenting to the list. Poor little boy. Hopefully he gets more effective parenting from his Dad and also hopefully the mother just calls her poor little son stupid the odd time. I shudder to think what she would call him if he actually misbehaved.
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@emeraldisle (13143)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I'm sure you know if she does this in public it's probably far worse at home. Emotional and mental abuse can be far worse and more long lasting then physical abuse. It's also harder to prove. So many people don't realize how words can cut into a person and leave scars that they will never get rid of. Some parents have no idea the damage they inflict upon their children. I doubt that mother ever will and even if someone had said something to her she wouldn't have realized what she'd done wrong. For some it's too ingrained to put others down. Maybe it makes them feel better but it's a poor way to treat others.
@healer (1783)
• India
13 Feb 07
this is a nice topic hehe i like kids and i just wonder when parents say bad words to their kids. My parents never did that when we were kids heheh lucky us might be my parents are very religious and they showed us how to be a good person and respect one another. Big or small respect them all..
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• United States
13 Feb 07
I know an individual whose father use to call him "knucklehead" all the time in a very demeaning, derogatory manner. At the age of 19 this guy was sentenced to life in prision without the possibility of parole. Now, the name calling did not cause this guy to commit capital murder, to which he plea bargained down to first degree. The name calling indicated the father knew there was a serious problem with his son, but he did not do enough about it. So, if you see a parent regularily verbally abusing a child, know that the child possibly does need serious help as the parent may have good reason for the words. It is just that the words are not an appropiate or effective response.
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• United States
13 Feb 07
I hate it when I see parents treat their kids like that in stores or out in public. It's sad to see. Kids are gana be kids and it seems like parents don't have the patience for it much these days.. atleast from what i've whitnessed.
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• Canada
13 Feb 07
It is just plain wrong how some parents. If this is how they act in public, imagine the name calling that must happen in private. I feel so sorry for her kids.. and her husband for that matter...
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• Canada
13 Feb 07
I would hate to be that kid..... People theese days ! geez....
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13 Feb 07
You know, my younger sister and her hubby adopted two boys. They had their whole lives, and ours picked through, bit by bit; under a microscope. Their finances; their characters; friends, parents. Their childhoods...it was like taking a degree or six! And quite rightly, too! It was an important step, for all involved. It's such a shame that there aren't the same tests in place when someone wants to be a natural parent! Some people need this, don't you think?
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
Childhood experiences can greatly affect a child's growth. He would learn to hate and most probably he would lose his self-esteem. I think parents should encourage their kids in their every endeavor so that the kid would learn to develop self-confidence. If a kid seems to be doing wrong, it's not proper for parents to shout and call bad names to their kid.
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• United States
14 Feb 07
Another thing I might add is he wasn't doing anything wrong. Being slow. Gimme a break that is what kids do. He was looking at cookies. She should have left him at home if that was going to bother her.
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@vokey9472 (1488)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I can tell you first hand that the pain of being called awful names by the people who are supposed to love you the most, never goes away. My father called me stupid or would ask "dummy, don't you have a brain up there" while rapping on my head. Some people will grow up to be just like their parents and call their kids awful names. Others will grow up vowing to never be like their parents and over indulge their children and then you will have some like me who are struggling to find that balance between over indulgent and horrible. I can tell you it makes me MAD to hear parents belittle their children or to see them push their kids around. I have almost gotten into altercations with parents for standing up for their kids. I see it as my moral duty to step in and stop emtional/verbal/physical/mental abuse if I see it happening. I almost got beat with an electrical cord once for stepping in front of a small child whose mother was about to spank him with it at WM. The kid had picked it up somewhere in the store and was just carrying it along with him and then the mother noticed and started yelling at him in the fabric department about touching things and told him she was going to "beat his butt" and grabbed him to spank him with the cord. What could I do? I had to stop her. She told me to mind my own business and I told her to give me the cord or I would call the police (there is a police satellite at my WM) and report for child abuse. Anyhoo...I doubt I saved that child from a spanking at home, but at least that mother didn't abuse her child in the store that day. I just wonder why people have kids if they are not going to love them.
• India
14 Feb 07
I think parents should be a bit more moderate to their offspring cause behavior like this puts a lot of pressure to their kids... they remain afraid every time that their parents gonna scold them... and in adolescence this behavior creates a lot of complex in their children... it also give birth to lot of hatred...
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@destroyer (785)
• Pakistan
14 Feb 07
I agree with you! calling children names like stupid, idiot or moron does really damage their self esteem! they might even take on this habit and start calling others names. It was very wrong of that women to yell at her son like that, there are other more gentle ways to get your kid to comply.
@skygirl85 (119)
• Italy
14 Feb 07
i think it is very bad thing to say in general, above all on children, and our children
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@volcom (161)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Wow how sad this is pretty bad. The poor kid only was looking at cookies and then out of nowhere his mom calls him stupid? Also I bet she beats him too if she acts like that to him in public then just think what she does when she is not in public. I am sure she does things much worse. I know how you feel on this too I remember when I was in first grade we lived in an apartment and always in the nex room we could always hear their mom hitting and screaming at their kids. I still remember how he yelled "I hate you mom" and I also remember how he was always really quiet and how he always had bruises ect on him it was pretty sad.
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I find it distressing just how many parents are "inadvertently abusive" towards their kids. There are probably those who'd argue that either they were "just kidding," or they "didn't mean anything by it," but stuff like that does affect a kid's self-perception. When I was little, my dad would often call me "clumsy," even though I never got the impression that I was any clumsier than other kids. It lingered with me, though-- in much of my earlier adulthood, I stayed well clear of any kind of activities that might require coordination, thinking I'd be "too clumsy" for them.
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@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
14 Feb 07
OMG... that is really ridiculous... you are definitely right... words like that will kill the child's self-esteem gradually and he will grow up to think that he is really stupid... i don't understand why parents have to use words like that to their child... don't they realise the effect that those words will bring to the child??? it will leave a deep emotional scar forever which is not good for their growth...
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• Philippines
13 Feb 07
kids can remember everything clearly they dont forget that easiuly it gets stuck with them never call them stupid idot or otherwise lke what you said they will have a low self esteem in life when they grow up or if other kids start calling him that way it will really hurt the kid
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@Alaifiya (78)
• United States
13 Feb 07
That is really mean,thats not fair with the little boy,making fun or calling names really kills the self esteem and also the kids lose confidence and will always think that he is stupid thats why his parents say that,rather the parents should always have positive attitude,ya you get mad sometimes when they dont listen or behave but this is no way you treat your kid.i feel sorry for that kid
@burgoonster (3760)
• Canada
13 Feb 07
I Think That Is Very Bad Way To Treat A Child. No Child Should Be Called Stupid In Any Matter. Childern Are Way More Senstive Then Adults By A Long Shot. I Agree With You On What You Said As Well It Is Very Rude And Espcially A Walmart Where You See Lots Of Families Go To And Lots Of Kids Too . Thanks For Brining This Up It Will Help Us Alot By People Relzing How Stupid They Can Be
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@kittyloki (140)
• United States
13 Feb 07
that is horrible. I would never call my daughter stupid like that.
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• United States
13 Feb 07
There is nothing in the world that gets under my skin more than that does! it's horrible calling kids names like that. They'll grow up with a major complex and serious issues. I hope one day he realizes how stupid his mom is. :(
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