space between kids

United States
October 13, 2006 12:31am CST
how long should you wait before having another child?
18 responses
@ali136 (199)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I think it's a personal choice. We weren't planning on having anymore children, but I'm 7 months pregnant now, with 3 years in between. We now want even more children, but I don't think we'll wait so long in between this time. I hate being pregnant, but I don't want to put it off because of that reason. I guess the sooner we get it all over with, the better. LOL
• United States
24 Oct 06
i enjoyed being pregnant. i hated working full time on my feet. ill probably wait another year or so. thanks for the response
@beckaboo (347)
• United States
24 Oct 06
My 1st time I loved being pregnant. This time I hate it. I'm tired and want to go to bed and this baby won't get rid of her hiccups. UGH Ali, congrats only 2 months to go!!
• United States
24 Oct 06
so close. althought the last two months were the longest for me...
• United States
24 Oct 06
This is mainly a personal choice, but it is recommended for women to wait at least a year after having a baby before getting pregnant again to allow her body time to heal. Pregnancy drains a lot of nutrients and hormones, and you want those to build back up before the next pregnancy. I have one child who is 6 weeks old, and could not imagine having another for another few years.
• United States
24 Oct 06
i dont know how my mom did it. she had my brother and i 11 months apart. i want mine close, but not that close. i may consider soon because my daughter is 7 months old. but we need a bigger place if and when we dice to add another person to the mix. thanks for the response
• United States
24 Oct 06
I don't know how she did it either! I couldn't imagine being pregnant while taking care of a young baby. I commend her for doing so! Good luck for you in finding another place and planning for the next baby. :)
• United States
28 Oct 06
thanks :) :)
@maddog108 (3441)
• Australia
24 Oct 06
i would say 2 years it gives the wife a chance to rest but makes the kids ages close so they play together
• United States
24 Oct 06
thanks for the response
@maddog108 (3441)
• Australia
24 Oct 06
no worries any time
@beckaboo (347)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I wanted to wait longer but you never know what is going to happen. :) I am waiting for our 2nd to come any day now and my daughter is 27 months. I wanted to wait for selfish reasons, basically so I could have my daughter help me out but I think it will be good for them to be close in age so they have a playmate.
• United States
24 Oct 06
definitely agree about having a playmate. we live in a 2 bdrm apt, and we are out of space. so that is a huge factor in not having any yet, plus money. thanks for the response
@beckaboo (347)
• United States
24 Oct 06
Yeah we need a bigger place too. It's getting way too cramped in here. lol
@bhchy1 (6051)
• United States
24 Oct 06
That varies from person to person..my girls are 9 years apart...but by fate...took me that long to get pregnant again.. If I had to choose..I would say 2-3 years apart so that their interest were closer together..for me this was like raising two seperate families..
• United States
24 Oct 06
i understand.. my daughter has an 8 year old half brother. so would love another one, but cannot financially do it yet.
• United States
24 Oct 06
btw-- thanks for the comment
@mai720 (329)
• United States
23 Oct 06
years
• United States
24 Oct 06
thanks for the response
@mai720 (329)
• United States
24 Oct 06
no prob
@cburtz (282)
• United States
30 Oct 06
there is 4 yrs between me and my brother and my hubby and his sister. We both kind of liked that space so now our kids are 3.5 years apart. I just could not deal with 2 in diapers and my hubby was trying to avoid 2 in college at the same time. lol.
• United States
30 Oct 06
lol i understand that. my brother and i ended up inc lasses together in hs because of that. i know exactly what you mean. thanks for the response
@ramalot (295)
• India
30 Oct 06
Three Years is enough
• United States
30 Oct 06
thanks for the response
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
24 Oct 06
My kids were 2 years apart. Although it was more difficult for me when they were both small at the same time, they were able to grow up together and remain close friends as adults today.
• United States
24 Oct 06
thats what i am wanting for my kids, but it will probably be a year or so wait for another thanks for the response
@disturbedgd (1821)
• South Africa
24 Oct 06
depends how many you are planning on having and if u can take care of them
• United States
24 Oct 06
good point thanks for the response
@senna9 (1669)
• Netherlands
24 Oct 06
I dont have any children but if I see it by my sister, it is nice if one child can walk before you have the other one, and if he can get alone on the stairs that would be great. Because it is heavy to carry a kid to bed of you are 8 months pregnant.
• United States
24 Oct 06
thanks for the response
@prasad1961 (5602)
• India
24 Oct 06
I have waited for 4 years and 4days exactly.
• United States
24 Oct 06
thanks for the response
• United States
24 Oct 06
I think that you should do what you feel comfortable doing. Some people want their children to be close in age and some people do not. And others have the choice taken out of their hands and then they do the best that they can do. I think that children are a blessing no matter when they come.
• United States
24 Oct 06
well said thanks for the response
• United States
24 Oct 06
3 years
• United States
24 Oct 06
thanks for the response
@BuffMom (2215)
• United States
24 Oct 06
2 years or more
• United States
24 Oct 06
thanks for the response
@hazeru3 (136)
• United States
24 Oct 06
I personally think you should wait at least 3 years............though myself, I've had them at almost 2 years apart to the day once already an dam now preg with #3 about th esame time span is when im due
• United States
24 Oct 06
good luck thanks for the response
@whitish (1409)
• India
23 Oct 06
3 years
• United States
24 Oct 06
thanks for the response
@happygal68 (3277)
• United States
23 Oct 06
My late husband & I decided on waiting fours years before having our second child. Partly to help out financially when it comes time for graduations and college.
• United States
24 Oct 06
thanks for response. sorry about your husband.