how to trust when he lied not just once, nor twice, but lot of times.......

You may feel that you love him, but he is disrespecting you and your relationship. You have to think enough of yourself and realize that you deserve to be treated better than this. Reading his e-mail and text messages is one issue (he may consider it to be "spying", but that is not the cause of his behavior, nor is anything that you are doing the cause of his behavior. The only thing that is your "fault" is that he has been caught. What he is doing has nothing at all to do with you. A man who lies repeatedly and is in close contact with other women cannot be trusted. You are going to get really hurt if you stay with him. I don't see any way that you can trust him.

Try to find out whether he really loves you or not. Why he is lieing? It is only to save your love affair? If you fine he is cheating you, then it is better to forget him. Time will help you to forget him.

Well... its apparant that he's gonna keep lying to you as takes a defensive stance when you show him evidence of his unfaithfulness. Dump the guy, he's not worth the heartache and pain. U will hurt initially cause I know you love him, but you have already given him plenty of chances. ALthough she is in another country, I know it hurts that he keeps in touch with him. Ask him directly to stop communication with her. if he refuses, move on. YOu will find someone more worthy of your love.

I do know how you feel but I have to say that a person who lies is not worth your love. I had a bf from 4 years that I really loved and I though that I would die if i lost him. Thats the way he wanted me to feel. We broke up adn I am now happier than I have ever been. Take a chanse and give yourself a little more than this - u deserve better!

I am not sure what you mean when you say you cannot afford to lose him. Are you living together? Is he supporting you and you have no where else to go? A boyfriend, unless you have actually sat down and agreed about being loyal and faithful, is not necessarily obligated to be exclusive. His lying to you makes no sense. His telling you the truth would simply result in your not seeing him anymore. No divorce, loss of life built together, no trauma to children. He is apparently very confident that you will stay with him. it is time that you did what he doesn't expect, and dump him. Your love for yourself must come before your love for him. You are getting into a dangerously destructive pattern in this relationship. Nothing here is your fault, but your staying means that you abuse yourself by not taking the logial steps toward getting free of someone who doesn't really care about you the way he should.

I'm really sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough time. So you are pregnant and the father is out of your life. What are you going to do? I hope he'll not forsake you even though you are apart. Such a pity that things had to end like this. I encourage you to keep up the faith and just know that there are people who actually do care about you.

You need to move on. This guy doesn't love you, respect you, care about you, or anything like that. Why would you want to stay with that? You deserve better.

If you can't trust him, and it causes fights and arguments, then you are probably better off without him. If its just you being jealous, then maybe you could take some steps to overcome this. but if you know he is lying, and you can't deal with it then maybe you should move on and find someone who will treat you fairly and with the respect you deserve.