Outside of your Parents......

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@mzbubblie (3840)
United States
February 14, 2007 11:23am CST
Were there anyone who influenced your life more than anyone else? Who had an impact on your life and what was it about that person that meant something to you? My grandmother birthday is today, yes Valentine Day...She is still kicking at age 74!!!! She was the one who taught me how to cook, clean, and take care of home. She and I would have long conversations about life itself. I admire her more than anything for all she went through and dealt with on a daily growing up in her lifetime. She was the one who taught me how to be myself, how to live positive, and how to stay strong...Never settle for less and never let anyone bring you down...She even taught me how to be a good parent to my son... Looking back when I was younger, I admit, I use to take some things she said and showed me for granted. Now being an adult and a mother myself, everything that she taught me, told me, showed me, even introduced me to has all paid off...I'm so very thankful for my grandmother... My grandmother today is very proud of me and I try to see her as much as I can being she lives so far away.. I cherish her and thank her for all she has contributed in my life... Do you have any stories of someone that influenced you in your life besides your parents?
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@suedarr (2382)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
My children have had the greatest influence on my life aside from my parents. My love for them has made me strive to do better, to be a better person, to care about the planet and the society I have brought them into. Through their youthful eyes I have recaptured the wonder and the beauty that can still be found in our world despite how ugly it can appear at times.
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@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Yes, That is so true, our kids do bring the best out in us. My son is my pride and joy and he makes me who I am today. I strive to be all I can be and make his life as comfortable and positive as can be... Thank you for responding...
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@yaneeps (122)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
the one who greatly influences me today is my husband. he is my role model. he has the characteristics and qualities that i think i need, such as integrity, loyalty and credibility. i really admire him, his courage and confidence, technique in facing life, his love for his family.
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@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
That is very sweet and it's wonderful to know that you are spending the rest of your life with someone who influenced you greatly... Thank you for responding
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@shoelover (896)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
I was influenced by my mother in law. I definately did not want to bring up my kids the way she brings up her ones. I also did not want her attitude to life and family. It has made me stronger and more determined to always show my children how much they are loved and that I will always be there for them. My husband has psychiatric problems because of my mother in law so I would never do that to any of my kids.
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@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I understand that and hope all works out well for you. I know that certain things in life makes us stronger and positive..In your case the person who influenced you, actually influenced you to be a better person and live positive...that's a wonderful thing... Thank you for responding...
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@gemini1960 (1162)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
besides myparents i have been influenced by my friends...it makes me to work hard inorder to achieve my ambitons in life
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
That's always a good thing..Friends are very important in our life....thank you for responding
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• India
15 Feb 07
my husband has been my greatest influence in life. he's like my friend, philosoper, guide. my parents'influence on me were always negative. (that's what i feel now) being an only child, they (specially my mom) were always over-protective, they had an advice for everthing and would always push and prod me to aim for the stars. result being, forget the stars, i could not even climb trees without seeking their help. the only good thing i ever did on my own was marry my husband of 10yrs without their explicit approval. what a world of good that has done me really. for the first time in my life, i was free... to think, act, dress, feel, enjoy life at my own terms. my confidence, which was nil, has gradually increased to such a point that i do actually enjoy making friends (without first bringing them home for approval) and chatting with all and sundry without being tongue-tied. i've learnt the value of making mistakes in life and learning from them. i know that whenever i fall, he is there to pick me up without admonishing me. he is like the parents which mine never were. i could go on and on about his contributions to my life, but i know that by now, you are simply bored. so i'll just sign up saying that yes, i am one of those lucky few, who met someone later in life and who changed their life for better.
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@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
That's WONDERFUL....I know it is a wonderful feeling and I know you now see the big picture for self. In no way was I getting bored, I actually enjoyed your response, I know there are some people that are probably in or have been in the same situation you have been in. It makes one smile to know you were actually able to break free and just be yourself, learn life lessons on your own...and grow from them... thank you for sharing your story and responding...
• United States
15 Feb 07
My parents were great but they both worked. My grandma lived just a fewe houses away. I went up every morning and had tea and toast with her. She took me to church and taught me to sew. I became disabled a while back and she decided to teach me to crochet. She makes beautiful afghans. She turned 100 last month and is still going strong.
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@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Oh wow...Happy Belated to your grandma... My grandma also taught me to sew, even though today I don't sew. I will if I have to... Thank you for responding
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@stibigirl (291)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I had a teacher that inspired me to follow my lifes passion, film. I never thought that I could write a screenplay or even an article on film, she showed me that I not only could, but that I would be good at it. She helped me to understand the meanings and learn the vocabulary that I needed to express things that I could already see and feel in the movies that I was watching. I loved her classes, I would look through the course catalog and sign up for anything she taught. I learned a lot, not only about film, but about myself, about my own passions in life and why they were important to nurture. I love you Dawn, wherever you are!
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Awww that is very very sweet story...Dawn is proud of you. I know just reading some of these stories alone, I myself feel good to know someone who has had a part in influencing me and it even makes me think deeper as to who else played a valuable part in my life... Good luck to you and thank you for responding..
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@vanities (11410)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Feb 07
actually i havent been influenced by anyone...i dont consider my parents influences in the process of my childhood..our family is not perfect got some flaws with regards to relationships of the members involved and i seen it as i matured and have a family of my own...and i promised to my self that all that in my own family im gonna work it out well...its my ideals of what a family is perceived to be...
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
And I respect that all the way...You have to do what you feel is right and true to you to make things happen or be influenced in your life. Your family alone is learning from you..it could be the other way around...you influence them :) Thank you for responding
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@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
My very bestfriend. I have a lot of friends. Close friends, casual friends, school friends. But my one and only bestfriend is different and special. I've known her since were little girls. But our friendships heightened by the time we reached high school. Not one single moments can I ever remember that we got into a fight nor argue. We sort of complemented each other despite our differences. She has a shoulder that I could easily lean on. Her ears are always open to hear my problems. And her heart has nothing but compassion, kindness and generous to less fortunate ones. She also played an important role in where I stood right now. We know that true friends are rare and hard to find. But I'm always grateful to have her in my life.
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
That's very touching, I have a friend like that myself. I hold her dearly and close to my heart.. Thank you for responding..
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I think that a nurse that use to work over me when I started working at a nursing home had a lot of influence over me. I was very unsure of myself and I believe she helped me gain confidence. She made me feel like I was doing a good job and I think that made me do a better job.
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
That's very cool, I know she is proud of you alone.. You should always be confident with self, I'm glad you found that... Great story thanks for sharing and thank you for responding
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@MGjhaud (22304)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
aside from my parents influence, my sister. in my younger years, high years i must specify, she's the one taking care of me because i have to live downtown to study high school there. my sister lives downtown while my parents in a country side. so my sister did all what my parents should have when im with her. she taught me a lot of things, positive or negative. i learned a lot when i was with her. its helping me now as growing alone. she's living out of town now. it saddened me actually because now that i have to live alone and have nobody to lean to that immediate. my parents are an hour travel away so i cant just go home and talk to them. so there.. my sister has the second biggest influence in my life.
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
That's wonderful, it's really nice to have our siblings who truly care and show from their experiences how to instill good and positive things in our lives.. That's a wonderful story and I know both your parents and your sister are very proud of you... Thank you for responding...
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@geejoy (344)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
my friends.....they were the one who stood up by me during my downest moment....they were the one who laughed with me when times were good......they really are my sisters not in blood but in spirit...
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@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Its always wonderful to have friends like that...Those are definetly good true friends...thank you for responding
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@lifeiseasy (2292)
• United States
14 Feb 07
my grandmother too was the one who has influenced me the most ...she taught me how fry chicken like no other ,how to can pears ,and make the best pear cobbler out of them ...also to quilt and make the tops and quilt them all by hand ...I still qult today and have many quilts around ...even one that is now in Moldva ...she was always there if I need to ask a question and she would tell me like it was ...not some hyped up story ...her own from her heart and some of her own experiences in life .My grandmother is no longer on earth with me but all her meriers are still here today ... she was the greatest woman I have ever met ....
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Oh wow, your grandmother sounds like my great grandma, she did alot of that sort of stuff and I would watch her as well....She use to make my after school clothes and make quilts from scratch material... You grandmother is still in you and I know she is happy and proud of you.. Thank you for responding MsLady....
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• United States
15 Feb 07
My family and close friends were an influence to men, but I think I naturally have a mind and a will of my own and my family knows it, but they do not know how to stop me. Like they can. I am my own woman.
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• India
15 Feb 07
Besides parents, evryone does have someone who influences us, and teachers r the major ones...... The same is the case with me, I remember most of my high school teachers and also few others who were ideal persons and i often used to refer to them as the role models........
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@alawad (11)
• Sudan
14 Feb 07
so let us be care and prave. do u agree
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• United States
15 Feb 07
I would choose my grandfather who somehow managed to keep a truly crazy family together through good times and bad ,who was always there to lend an ear when he was needed Now he is gone i miss him so much!
• India
15 Feb 07
ya my gandmaa too helped me understand things and sort out problems in a very super cool way.