An eye for an eye?

@Sawsen (794)
United States
February 14, 2007 1:10pm CST
Do you believe in an eye for an eye? Let's say someone decided to spread rumors about you at work to most of your co-workers. You find out that they did it maliciously, knowing those rumors would really hurt you. Not only were they complete lies, but they also told them to your boss. Would you spread any rumors back just to get back at that person? Or would you just let it be and wait for their day of reckoning?
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43 responses
• India
15 Feb 07
yes i believe in eye for an eye... if chances of getting vengeance are +ve in that way then i prefer eye for an eye... but if things turns out other way then i will follow any other path to get my revenge...
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@Marie2473 (8516)
• Sweden
14 Feb 07
I would not lower myself to their level. i would keep my head high and tell everyone that the rumors are fake. If i have troe co-workers/friends they will not judge me - but they will look for the truth and then they will see what kind of a person that person really is.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 Feb 07
I agree with you. Lowering oneself is useless, it won't make you feel better at all, and you will behaving the way the one you despise is. I don't think it's good to let others walk over us, but neither is to react like them.
• Canada
15 Feb 07
the best way to get back at them is to prove them wrong. because if hurl back rumors just for the sake of vengeance. your boss will just probably think you're making it up just to have revenge.
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• United States
15 Feb 07
I dont really believe this. I know I read that Jesus said we shouldnt do that anymore but love everyone. If that is true, I dont want to be like you'll get yours. But I do say what goes around comes around. And I know they will get theirs, God be the judge not me. So I dont believe its right but sometimes I agree we all want the enemy's to get theirs now. I try to not do this but its hard.
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
Whatever goes around comes around.. the day will come when these people will have a taste of their own medicine. I still believe in hard work and having a clear conscience everytime.. If your boss believes these rumors about you, then maybe its time for you to look for another job.. It would be their loss, because they let go of somoene honest like you. Personally, I could not have a working relationship with bosses who does not trust me (and vice versa)...
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@Shaun72 (15964)
• Palatka, Florida
15 Feb 07
I would let it be. I mean spreading more lies only starts more trouble and her day will came around in the end
@rosie_123 (6116)
14 Feb 07
No, I certainly don't believe in vengeance, or an eye for an eye, at all. It just creates a vicious circle, where everyone is concentrating on bitterness, and hate. I am not a religious person at all, but I firmly believe in turning the other cheek, Show some class, and dignity, and rise above whatever others are doing to you - don ot sink to their lervel, and retaliate.
• United States
14 Feb 07
My first reaction would be to give a lot of thought to all the ways I could pay them back tenfold and I would enjoy every minute of it! Upon thinking some more about revenge I remembered, from previous experience, "Vengeance is mine saith the Lord" and boy is that ever true! My personal advice is ask God's help as it is too much for your to take care of. You will be surprised at the results!
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• United States
14 Feb 07
I do not believe in continuing the cycle of hate. In fact, as long as I can make it clear that it is all a lie, then I am fine with that. This actually did happen to me before at work...and the girl was not well-liked, however, she she passed away a little while after, there was a collection going around for flowers to be placed at her wake, I did donate to it. Also, I am glad that before she passed, I had actually spoken to her civilly, even though she did not deserve it. So, it is always best to not stoop to other people's levels and to retain our integrity.
@kool78 (490)
• India
15 Feb 07
Ya i believe in an eye for an eye. Once if some is jealous of you that person will always be. In todays world when brothers kill their own brothers how can you expect others to always be good with you. If a person did the same to me it would depend on the damaged caused to me..... if the damage is minimum then i would choose to ignore and if he did it again i would make sure his life become tough for him, so he does not does that again with me. And if he caused me great harm then his i will make sure the person life becomes miserable.
• India
15 Feb 07
its totally wrong
@meganb (8)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I would just let them be, they will have their day. Two wrongs don't make a right.
15 Feb 07
I believe completely in 'an eye for an eye'. This is something that can not be missed. If one hit you, you have every right to hit them back. If one killed your friend however, you have no right to kill them, as that is your friends job. An eye for an eye only works if you get back at someone who targetted something at you.
@maddysmommy (16232)
• United States
15 Feb 07
No, I don't believe in an eye for an eye. In your example I would talk to that co-worker and ask him/her straight up what the hell is going on with him/her spreading rumors. Confront them, and be strong in your approach, not mean and nasty but firm and tell them you don't like what your hearing. Getting back at them wont work and makes you a lesser person than they are. There's a saying that goes "what goes around, comes around" so he/she will get theres eventually.
• United States
15 Feb 07
I love what sunshinecup says!! Sometimes the truth is the best revenge! Just speak the truth, and let the chips fall where they may. You didn't mention the nature of the rumor...was it a personal attack, or directed at your professional life? I think that would dictate whether I involved the boss or not. You don't want to go to your boss and say, "they are saying mean things about me"! But, you should definitely clear up any un-truth that has to do with work! You could also go to your boss and say, "I understand that so-and-so said blah-blah about me to you, and I'd like to clear it up". Just don't spent too much time on it. This person must be falling behind on their work, using so much energy to spread rumors!!
@samseiko (116)
• Malaysia
15 Feb 07
I believe an eye for an eye doesnt work in our society for nowadays. I believe we all stress on "win-win" situation instead of lose-win or win-lose....something like that. therefore i will not back stab or get revenge on someone who back stab me, so i will let it be as it is. instead i will do good to the person who backstab me unless i really had done something wrong then i had nothing to say
• United States
15 Feb 07
No !Turn the other cheek and be the bigger person thes e things have a way of comming home to roost and the people that truly matter know its not true!
• Canada
15 Feb 07
If a coworker spread malicious rumors about me, I'd be furious. I truly believe everyone has a natural reaction of "wanting revenge." Sure, I'd stew about the things I COULD say about that person in return, just because I was hurt and angry at the time. But no, I'd never really do it. It wouldn't resolve the problem, my reaction would be unprofessional and it would lower me in the eyes of my employer. I'd clear the air with my boss and, in the course, of that discussion, would let him or her know that I would be speaking to the coworker directly. I would also ask for support in dealing with the coworker and/or others, in the event that the rumors caused me any further difficulty in the workplace. That could become a very hostile environment.
@sensesfail (2251)
• India
15 Feb 07
Nope i dont believe in an eye for an eye.I'd rather go with two of favorite sayings: -Do unto others what you want other to do unto you. -Forgive and forget. Thse are the two golden rules that i try to follow.I'm not a saint or anything but i like doing them and wish others follow them too.
@gabs8513 (48703)
• United Kingdom
15 Feb 07
No I would not lower myself to their Evil Standards. I would wait for the Day of reckoning. Believe it does Come. I was bullied out of my Job 2 1/2 years ago, a job I had done for 8 years and because I got an incurable Illness they bullied me out. Well the People who did have lost their Jobs, it took 2 years for it to happen, but it happened. So you see their Day will come.