my husband is not a good provider....

@soriano (112)
Philippines
February 14, 2007 11:11pm CST
hello, i just want to share you this dilemma of mine. i have a husband and a kid about 3 years old. at first my husband is a good one, well he's really a good person, its just that he is not a good provider, i mean he doesnt have a work so i have to be the one to earn for us. aside from that he is also a very jealous one. so i sometimes i think of calling it quits. what do you think is the best thing to do? do i need to tell him whats on my mind?
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
i think you have to tell him whats on your mind before its too late for both of you to save your relationship, especially that you have a kid,
@soriano (112)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
thanks you for the response. i'm glad you understand what i feel
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
welcome, i want to be mad at your husband but i guess it wont do any good anyway.
• Canada
15 Feb 07
You should always keep an open relationship with the one you love . You both need to tell each other what is on your mind just because there is no way for each other to know unless you tell each other . He may not do anything if you tell him how you feel but on the other hand he may feel really bad that you feel this way and will do everything in his power to try and make things better , so when you look at it this way , you dont' really have anything to lose . Right now you are not happy anyway and this way you might have the chance to be happy with your life and not find all the pressure on you when it comes time to pay the bills . Best of Luck !!
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@lonewolfnan (4366)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
Lack of communication is one of leading reasons for divorce.If you can not talk to your husband,how can you share with him? Isn't marriage a lesson in give-and-take or are you only allowed to give??If you do nothing,how will this help what you are feeling?? They key is COMMUNICATION Good luck
@peni88 (469)
• United States
15 Feb 07
i think that you need to talk to him about this. it shouldnt be all on you to provide for your family. make you decision to call it quits after you talk to him though, that way youll know where things stand. also is he jealous that you have a job, or is it the men at that job? thats all i can think of to tell you.
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@thebestmom (1104)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
This will depend on why he doesn't have a work. If he continously looks for one then you do not have to complain. If he just doesn't like to work then you have to tell him. Or you can also have him help in the house, while you work outside