Do you guys think its ok to borrow things or let your children borrow things?

@devideddi (1435)
United States
February 15, 2007 11:55am CST
I love the idea of borrowing a cup of sugar from a neighbor. It's neat to think you have a whole neighborhood of potential grocery resources when I am in a pinch or forgot something. And I don't mind at all when someone asks me. Now the bigger things I am not so comfortable with. Last week my daughter borrowed her friend's expensive digital camera and I just wish she would hurry up and give it back before it breaks or something!! A few years ago my son lost his favorite video game that I paid almost 50 dollars for because the child he let borrow it moved unexpectedly taking the game with him.
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• United States
15 Feb 07
my grandma had an old saying "NEVER A LENDER OR A BORROWER BE!"Guess what most old folks know what they are talking about!If you must borrow always make sure to give back!
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@kaydee10 (268)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
Your grandma is right about that. When you borrowed something you make you sure to return it.
@brokentia (10391)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I don't like to burrow things and I don't like lending my things out that I would want back. If a neighbor wanted to borrow a cup of sugar or a few eggs...I am ok with that. But I certainly would not expect them to pay me back. But I also would not go to the neighbors to borrow a cup of sugar or a few eggs myself. That is just me. If I don't have it...I am going to the store or I am not making it. As for lending out games, books, etc...Nope, don't like doing it. There have been many of times that I have let someone borrow something and it didn't come back or it was ruined in the process because it was returned. However...there is a person that we have let borrow movies and is very good at returning them. But that was after stressing that my partner always refuses to lend out movies and that I trusted it would be returned. So, I have never had problems with this friend. Other than that...nope...I don't like lending things out or borrowing from another myself.
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@davido (1623)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I seems to like that, i am always afraid of getting to use something quickly -borrowing- cause if it get damaged the time it is with me! cause it has happend to people that i know, a guy burrowed a generator and a day before that i was in the house of the owner of the Gen and his brother was complaninig about the Gen that it is not working very well, unknowingly to the guy that burrowed it it broke down even before he could use it, well he has to repaire it for relationship purpose. So ones got to be content if it cant be done then forget about it situation will sort itself out.
@KwokFist (73)
• India
15 Feb 07
Well one should never borrow if one cannot return it. Its like making a promise which one cannot keep. So if a person borrows something from another person he should be considerate enough to return it. Kids must be taught to do the best with what they have and not borrow. Some learn the bad habit of keeping stuff that doesnt belong to oneself. After when u borrow or lend ur expected to give back or recieve back.
15 Feb 07
I don't believe in lending..as in loan until it is returned back to the owner... A very good friend of mine..ask to borrow money from me,it wasn't a lot of money.100 dollars in US currency. i was reluctant to lend him the money..not because i didn't have the money .but because i would loose a friend if i lent it to him...but i did give him the money .he couldn't pay back on the days he kept on promising he would pay..it went on for 6 months..i told him it was not important..i didn't needed it.. and not to worry about it .i even said i don't wanted,have it as a gift, he said no he will pay soon as he puts it togather..now he wont call round .or telephone .or return my calls or emails,he has been ignoring me for the pass 7 months,my other friends see him regularly, this was what i was afraid of,because same thing happened to my father when he was lot younger .and he told me .i always remembered his words,,he would say..eat drink spend a fortune on family and friends..but never do business or lend money to them.because thats when you will loosen them..
@Shaun72 (15961)
• Palatka, Florida
15 Feb 07
I don't blame you a bit I would be very mad if I had bought something for a son or a daughter and someone browed it and then never returned it
@smkwan2007 (1036)
• Hong Kong
15 Feb 07
Yeah, everyone likes to own things he is fond of. If he want a pair of sneakers, try to buy a set himself, why borrow from someone? I never borrow things from friends or my family, because I don't want people blame me behind my back. But I need to borrow one finally, that is funds from the bank to purchase a new home when I get married. The payment for a house for me is very expensive. I just don't have so much pay for the it, so I forced to borrow loans from the bank. In fact if you borrow from the bank, you become a slave for almost the rest of your life, because a very large part of your monthly will go to the bank. I don't like to borrow anything from anyone especially money.
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@gotcho0O (1257)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I think there's nothing wrong about borrowing things. Like for example, borrowing a book to somebody. Be sure you'll return that book the way it is. But when it comes to a cup of sugar? That includes knowing that it's ok if there's nothing in return. It's just depends on how nice your neighbor is. About what happened in borrowing and all with your children. Just remind your daughter to return it as soon as possible because you're afraid of breaking it or something. And your son, tsk tsk, remind him to choose the right person whom to trust. The bottom line is, it's all about a person's attitudes.
@ranmy1 (71)
• India
15 Feb 07
I always want to be in the lending end. I love to do that. Maximum I dont want to say no to whoever asks me and whatever it would be. It is a kind of satisfaction U get after giving something to who are in need of it. Hence it really doesnt matter to borrow and lend until it happens between the people who likes it.
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• United States
15 Feb 07
I think that it's OK to borrow if your an adult. When borrowing make sure you take care of the person's merchandise and if it's money make sure you pay it back when you say you will. I do not allow my kids to borrow things. I have had them borrow things and they were broken or lost and I had to pay for them. I don't do that anymore.
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@msqtech (15075)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I think short term borrowing is fine and low value items are okay but your son learned a valuable lesson and so did you about where to draw a line.
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• United States
15 Feb 07
I agree that it is ok to "borrow" things like a cup of sugar or anything like that as no-one (at least I wouldn't) expect you to bring it back. Expensive things that is completely different. I would not borrow anything that could be broken or let kids borrow them. Accidents happen and you would be responsible.
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@Willowlady (10659)
• United States
15 Feb 07
It would seem wonderful to be able to borrow and be borrowed from. You must keep in mind that the word borrowed means to be returned. So that sugar you borrow, you return a cup or bag and it is all good. So following this you pick who and what you allow to be borrowed from now on. Big ticket items are the difficult thing. Must be recourse if it becomes damaged by the borrowed. Communication is the key in this procedure!!
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@wolfie34 (26772)
• United Kingdom
15 Feb 07
I always find it's best to test the water, i.e dip your toe in the water when loaning things to people, always loan something that you don't expect back, I know it sounds negative but I have learnt my lesson in this, mainly with money but the principle is still the same. If you are going to lend someone something, NEVER lend them anything expensive and always look it as a 'give away' it is the quickest way to arguments and loss of friendship. If you do get it back, then great, the trust has been established and then you can start lending other things knowing that things have been returned previously! Just an idea, works for me, then you don't lose much and you also find out who your or your children's friends are!
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@alantae (243)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I think it's ok to borrow everything but money. And deal involving money is a bad deal if you ask me. But I have no problem with someone borrowing something from a friend or neighbor. Why not? I mean it's right there, and if they're willing to let you borrow it and save some money, then by all means I would do it. Alot of guys in my hall swapped books this semester because some of us took Chemistry and need to take Physics and vice versa. It's a good way to save alot of money.
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@mergl81 (195)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I think it's okay to borrow things that are not expensive. I always get nervous when borrowing expensive things anyway so I'd rather not. Also if you are going to let someone borrow something make sure it's someone you can trust. I don't mind letting people borrow stuff.
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@arunfij (39)
• India
18 Feb 07
I think kids should never be allowed to borrow or lend any thing
@merkava (1225)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
My friend made an enemy of me because of this. He borrowed a lot of expensive gadgets and never return it unless I ask him to. My other buddies got tired of his laziness and lack of ethics that they began to brand him as "the salvager." That pissed my friend off and her returned a few of my stuff. Sadly, most of the stuff he returned were already broken. It's ok to borrow stuff from friends but you have to be responsible for it and return it ASAP! I have a rule when it comes to letting people borrow my stuff, "you loose it or break it, you pay for it or replace it." All my real friends now my commandment.
@gemini1960 (1161)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
borrowing small things like salt and sugar or any condiments worth nothing ..but i think borrowing expensive things are not good..especially if it got lost on the process...it hurts when we are going to pay for the lost one especially if its not ours,,so maybe we should beware or cautioned our kids to do that..
@emarie (5447)
• United States
16 Feb 07
well, when you're kids you do like to let your friends borrow stuff and vise versa. i only let certian friends borrow stuff from me, hey, they've even borrowed money at times, but i knew these people would pay it back or give back what they took. we never had too much expensive stuff so it was more like DVD's and CD's for us. tell your children if they let someone borrow something of theirs its their own responsibility to get it back and if they don't, you're not going to get them another one, if they want another one they have to buy it themselves. and i'll tell my children that as well. there's nothing wrong with shareing and letting people borrow your stuff, just make sure you can trust the person enough so you know they'll return it to you safely.
• Netherlands
16 Feb 07
I never borrow things from others. I personally can't do it. I have lended things out before but it was very seldom. I tink that for me it is the point of going to get things for myself and do for myself.