Leaving the Nest-How are old were you?

United States
February 15, 2007 4:16pm CST
I know that there is a lot of discussion now about some young adults moving back home with mom and dad in times of financial difficulty and divorce. However, I am curious to know at what age people make the big leap from the comfort of home with mom and dad into the world of living on your own. Personally, for me I did leave home to attend college at 18 then I returned home to work and go to school in the evenings. After obtaining my degree my parents encouraged me to stay home as I embarked on my first professional job. It worked out very well. As a result, I did not leave my parent's home until the age of 26 when I got married and moved into my first home. What about you? How old were you when you left the nest? What were the circumstances?
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43 responses
15 Feb 07
Finally I left home when I was about 21 years of age, just before or just after my 21st birthday, I moved to take up work in Harrogate as I was out of work. After that move my taste of real freedom I just did not want to move back to my parents Guess I enjoyed my life too much lol Lynn-Marie
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15 Feb 07
I was 17 when I left home and set up to be independant in a grotty little room in a rented house. It was great, even though the place was little more than a single room with a sink. From there I moved on to find a small flat which i shared with a friend, and then I moved into a shared house with a group of friends.
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@emarie (5442)
• United States
15 Feb 07
i moved away from my parents house when i was 17, as soon as i graduated college, although i did move in with my sister who lived on the other side the ocean. i lived with her for about 2 years then moved into my own place. by that time i was already married with a child, so we needed our own place anyway, and thats where i am right now.
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@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I moved out when I was eighteen to attend college, however I went back the same year as there were some problems with my bursary. At the end of that year, I left home for good and ended up moving in with my boyfriend at the time. That was years ago, and I've never moved back home however my mother and I purchased a house together six years ago so we do live together now, lol. But she has an apartment in the basement.
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• United States
15 Feb 07
I left home right after I turned 18. I had a hard time with my mom growing up, and i just wanted to get out of there. So I left and moved in with my boyfriend, who is now my husband. I have much better relationship with my mom and family today, and I have no regrets about leaving so early.
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@dbcraff (162)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I left home at 19. Of course I was getting married and mt husband was stationed in CA.
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@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I had just turned 18. My mother felt that it was best because I didn't get along with my stepfather. I moved into my own apartment and have never moved back home.
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@Bee1955 (3882)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I was 15. I came from a poor family and moved in with my widowed, poorly pensioned grandmother until I graduated high school (close to her so I could walk and save bus fare). I worked 2 evenings and all day Saturday at a local 5&10 (around the corner) to help her and pay my way. My parents barely made it with my younger brother and sister living at home so my presense wasnt missed. However, I would walk home on Sunday and treat my sister and brother to an ice cream or somthing during my visit.
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• United States
15 Feb 07
I left home at the age of 19. My than fiance was working with a trucking company which screwed him over big time and left him stranded here in Kentucky. I, wanting to be with him moved out here to be with him since it would have been sometime before he would have been able to make it back to Nevada. We got married a year after I got settled. I have been home sick several times now with me here in Kentucky and my Mom in California and I haven't had to money to go back and see her. I am hoping though to go see her when it starts warming up and the snow is melted.
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I left in the fall after my graduation. I wanted out as soon as possible, and college wasn't an option at the time. I moved in with my fiancee'. It was a good thing I did because I got a taste of what it would be like to be married to him. I broke up with him shortly after that taste. I moved back home since he basically made me broke and it was my only option at the time. I stayed with them for a few years ('til I couldn't take it any longer) and got my own apartment. After my my husband proposed to me, a few months later, we were living together. I told him about my first experience with living with a fiance' and thought it would be good to see if it would work out before the wedding. Maybe the divorce rate wouldn't be so high if people lived together first. Just a thought!
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• United States
16 Feb 07
I was 19 and I moved out because I was pregnant and my mother told me that I had to leave. I am now 24 years old and I am still on my own and I did attend college and served time in Iraq since I left. What's a good age to leave the home?
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• United States
16 Feb 07
I thik the best time to leave home depends on the young person, the parents and their situation. I admire your courage leaving home at such a young age under those circumstances and also for serving in Iraq.
• United States
17 Feb 07
I left my home shortly after I graduated from high school and turned 18. I have not gone back. Knowing what I know now, I probably would have waited until I was a little older. My son is 20 and still lives with us, but my daughter who is 18 decided to move out. She's struggling but she wanted her independence. I have told her she can come back anytime she wants.
• United States
15 Feb 07
I left the nest at 17 years old. I had gotten married to my high school sweetheart, and we were off to Ft. Knox, KY. I have remained "out of the nest" ever since!
• United States
17 Feb 07
Oh, you reminded me of something very shameful --haha. I left the nest September of 2006 at the age of 39! Well, still recent actually. I had to get here to the U.S. because of my work visa. While I was still in the Philippines, I could remember not staying home only at one point (when I had to stay for a year in a dorm near my school). Nevertheless, I still went home every weekend, and for the rest of the school years decided to just commute to school because I couldn't stand living on my own. I grew up being sheltered. Also, in the Philippines, it's common that siblings don't leave the nest until they got married (sometimes even after getting married!)..we have a close-knit family structure, that's why. But still, I'm still ashamed because I could already afford to live on my own, and yet at the age of 39 still lived with my parents and younger siblings!
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
16 Feb 07
i was 18 when i got married and left home. its been 26 years, and i have 3 children. 2 are moved out, and one left at home. its funny to see that kids just cant leave as soon as i did. Its expensive, and most of the time kids go to college after high school. we just married, and had babies. our husbands worked or went to school-on their own money-not their parents!
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• United States
17 Feb 07
After college, I did go back and live with my parents for about year to work and save money. Then I took a job in another city and moved out when I was almost 22.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I was 26 when i left home...to get married. To be honest, i kinda regret that i didn't get a chance to strike out on my own (i did that last year when my hubby and i were seperated for 6 months)... but for better or worse, thats what i did...i would encourage my daughters to live a little before they get married tho :-)
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I was 26 when i left home...to get married. To be honest, i kinda regret that i didn't get a chance to strike out on my own (i did that last year when my hubby and i were seperated for 6 months)... but for better or worse, thats what i did...i would encourage my daughters to live a little before they get married tho :-)
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I actually enjoyed staying home with my folks even after i left school and started working. My older sibling, my twin and younger brother had left the nest at an early age and it was just me and my second oldest brother left at home. Only until my parents left to travel overseas and sold the house to my twin sister, then i left the nest. I think I was 22 or 23 at the time.
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I was thrown out of the family nest at 16 years old after a fight between me and my younger sister. She was the favourite and the apple of my moms eye. I moved in with my boyfriend and we were together for 4 years, but the relationship with my mom has never really healed because of the way she threw me out - 4 garbage bags and enough money to get a bus to my boyfriends house. At the same time, I'm proud to say that I've never been back. If things got tough I found a way round it. Now, I have no need for my moms home any more. I finally settled and got my life sorted.
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