Is Marriage a Necessity?

@Macthedj (630)
February 15, 2007 5:22pm CST
I have been with my partner for 15 years now. We have a teenage son together but have never seen the need to be married. We have always said that the money spent on a wedding could be put to better use on a house and nice furnishings and living the way we want to live. But the problem is the people around us constantly give us grief about being unmarried and think we should. What do you think?
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@skyblade (482)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I don't think its a necessity. If you are fine with the way you live, then thats great! I did want to mention though that if you felt like getting married but didn't want to spend the money on a wedding, there are ways to get married without spending a lot of money. My dad and stepmom got married in city hall and it didn't cost them much. Just saying.
@Macthedj (630)
15 Feb 07
Thanks for the advice skyblade, the only problem is when we do get married I want her to have the biggest and best day she will remember.
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
I don't think an actual marriage is necessary, it is just a certificate and me being a deep thinker I think I would feel better about a man being with me because he wants to be rather than because we are contracted so to speak. I think some people feel a little too secure within an actual marriage and seem to take their partner for granted, congratulations for living your life your way and it looks like your doing it ok....
@Macthedj (630)
15 Feb 07
Thankyou with another good posite response.
@trinihd (996)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I thought that in the US there were (tax?) incentives for people being married? For me that would be the only reason for you to change your status now unless the money issue changes...i.e. you inherit a large sum! Why are people giving you grief? Don't tell me they have been giving you grief for over 10 years? It's time for them to get a life and stop telling you what to do with yours!! It's never appropriate or worthwhile to give in to pressure because you never feel good about yourself or the decision afterwards. However, it sounds to me like marriage does mean something to you because you say you would like to give her a day to remember. I am just over-analyzing to think you do believe in weddings?! Put it this way: if money was not an issue, meaning you had all the cash you needed, if you would still get married then, then it's not just your friends who want this for you. And, on the other hand, if the money issue is never resolved, will you regret not getting married? Just some things to think about. Good luck!
@Macthedj (630)
15 Feb 07
Thankyou, you certainly have given me quite a bit to think about.
@Timinator (739)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Marriage was a big deal in the past, but now it isn't what it used to be, and it is not necessary. People think it is what they are supposed to do because of the tradition, but really it is stupid. People don't need to get married to prove their love. You are totally right in not getting married. It is a waste of money and doesn't help at all.
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@Macthedj (630)
15 Feb 07
Thanks timinator. Good response