would you "parent" your parents?
By carissa765
@carissa765 (1097)
United States
February 15, 2007 8:38pm CST
If your parents were no longer able to physically take care of themselves, would you take care of them? Or would you send them to "the old folks home"?
SENARIO: If your parents got old and your mom or dad could no longer take care of one another, what would you do? Your mom and dad keep falling and having to call you or an ambulance. They are not as steady as they used to be, and they have trouble driving and getting places without someones help. Doctors appointments are becoming more abundant, and more difficult to get to...
Would ou take it upon yourself to take care of the people who raised you and took care of you most of your life?
Would you find the most expencive home for them?
Would you feel comfortable leaving them in the care of other people who you do not know?
Me personally I would have them live with me before I would send them away, it would be the least I could do. I men they raised me, took care of me, and helped me out of a lot of jams in my adult life. Right now my mom can take care of my dad, because he is the one that is going downhill, but if it becomes too much I would not let either one of them go to a home...
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5 responses
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I guess it would depend on what was going on in our lives. I have 5 kids, so if I had to take care of my mother right now along with all these kids, she would probably BEG to go to the old folks home...lol
Of course I would take care of her....if I was physically able to. :-)
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
23 Feb 07
My dad would be the one to beg, and I only have 2 kids.. lmfao
@msmonkeyfeet (789)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I wouldn't hesitate to take care of my parents if they needed it. The only reason I'd send them to a nursing home is if there were medical reasons why I wouldn't be the best person to take care of them or if I myself couldn't physically handle taking care of them and someone else could take care of them better than I could. I'd only want the best for them of course and as much as I'd love to take care of them if I wouldn't be the best person to do it then I'd have to admit that and seek help elsewhere.
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@missybal (4489)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I don't have to parent my parents yet, but I do with the grandparents and one great grandparents and none of them at in a home and I would never put them in a home unless they had problems that really needed fulltime assistance. If they can do the basics like go to the bathroom themselves and get their own water and cold food then they don't need to go to the home. Also as long as they don't have any medical problems really I feel homes are too expensive for someone who doesn't need all that additional help and in my family we all take turns and help out and everyone is much happier. My great grandmother would hate us forever if we put her in a home and she is the healthiest of all the adults in my family along the lines as never had any medical problems other than old age.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
That's a big issue here, it was then our moral obligation but it seems that as time goes on it's somewhat fading.
Here in the Philippines a part of our value was to pay respect and take care of our elders(parents/grandparents). But now, at the passing of the twentieth century and the new millenium, sons and daughters, seems to ignore their obligations. They wouldn't care about their oarents anymore, they put their parents on some care-giving shelters for others to tend for them. Their reasons was that they are to busy for work to look for their elders, they have to cope up with the new fast-paced world!:(
But I, no matter what happens, will take GOOD care of them. For they are the reason why I came to this world and gave me a chance to share my life with them. And I still believe on one of our traditions, "strong family ties."
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