Do you think it is okay to tell other peoples children what to do?

United States
February 15, 2007 8:52pm CST
If the perents say that it is okay do you think you would step up and tell their child to stop doing or to do something that you felt appropriate? I feel that even if someone gives me permission to reprimand their child I will not do it because it is not my place to do so... And I feel that if someone is to do that to my children with permission or without, it is judging how I parent my children.. How do you feel about this? Do you feellike you are getting judged? Do you reprimand other peoples children?
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@KrazyK8 (190)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
i think it is ok to correct the behaviour of another persons child under a few circumstances: - the child is in your care - the childs behaviour is extremely inappropriate - the behaviour effects your or your child directly - you have their permission - there is a saftey issue other than that i would try to refrain from it unless it is completely needed. Some people get very offended and others have their own ways of doing things and may get upset.
• Canada
16 Feb 07
I would never tell someone else's child what to do UNLESS that child was interfering with me, or with another child in my care. If someone was about to do something dangerous or disruptive I'd say something, but otherwise, it's up to the parents, not me, to discipline the child.
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• United States
16 Feb 07
Thanks for that... Would you try telling the parents what they should and should not do with their children? I mean if the parents were there and letting them drink 2 or 3 pops a day and such, would you tell them they should not do that or would you just let it go and say it is none of your business?
• United States
16 Feb 07
Thanks for that... Would you try telling the parents what they should and should not do with their children? I mean if the parents were there and letting them drink 2 or 3 pops a day and such, would you tell them they should not do that or would you just let it go and say it is none of your business?
@missybal (4490)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I would even if i didn't have the parents permission because someone ought to expecially if what they are doing could get them hurt. Also if they are screaming their heads off I would tell them they need to quiet down. Maybe it is sort of like judging them as a parent in the eyes of the parent but it all really depends on the situation if I would speak to the child, or just have a little talk with the parent.
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@pendragon (3350)
• United States
16 Feb 07
If one has been left in command of children, the children have to be able to trust you enough to take care of them which may include reprimands.I have been on trips with other parents and their kids, and it's no judgement if I see something going on with the kids that another parent does not, it's simply a matter of sharing a collective responsibility.
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@pratu0708 (126)
• India
16 Feb 07
I myself have a child so if her friend, playmate, classmate is up to unnecessary mischief and affecting my child i would definitely tell the child what was wrong and definitely bring it up with the parent. it is not always about your parenting, sometimes children pick up habits and choose to do them when parents are not around, such things should definitely be reported to the parents and for all you know that parent might even thank for bringing his attention to it. we as children have done such crazy things that our parents would never believe that we were capable of such mischief. I would expect the same thing in my child's case from the other parent as long as they were not harsh with my child.
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I would definitely correct a child if the parent had given me permission to do so. A parent cannot be watching a child every minute of the day and I think that if a friend saw my child doing something wrong, I would be glad to have them correct the child and to let me know about it. We are too concerned with our own image than we are with how our children are turning out. I say that children need to get used to the idea that if they misbehave, someone is going to correct them, whether it be mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, or the next door neighbor.
• United States
16 Feb 07
I would if the parent wasn't there but not like I would my own children... What would you do if the parent was there...? Would you try telling a parent what they should and should not do with their children?
• Canada
16 Feb 07
Sorry don`t know what happened there . I responded about making pizza and somehow I got here . Again I`m sorry
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• Canada
16 Feb 07
I buy the already made pizza dough, its normally in the Frozen Foods section in the grocery store . All you do is roll it out to fit a pan , make sure you flour the board or counter so it won`t stick . I always put my toppings on before I bake it . Actually on the back of the bag it comes in the directions are there . The dough can be made into Pizza dough or French Bread , there are directions for both . It only costs me 99 cents . If I make pizza I can make 2 Lrg size . But the French bread I use all of it for 1 loaf . I hope this is useful . Enjoy your pizza !!!!!!!!!!!!
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• United States
16 Feb 07
For some reason or another, I have raised a lot of womens children. I also have 2 of my own. Yes, I would correct someones child, without a second thought, with or without permission. Expecially if I do not see the parent doing anything about it. If the parent has a problem with it, they can tell me and I will stop.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
17 Feb 07
As a parent of five i have no problems in talking to other children about in approperate behaviour and i would certainly hope that if my children were in the same situation i would like someone to speak out to them . My children have a lot of other children that come to my home and i think that i have the rite to speak to them if it`s warrented
@emarie (5442)
• United States
17 Feb 07
i'm asume if i let someone else tell my child what to do my children are in their care. my sister says a have authority on my nephew when he's at my house. of course if i saw a child doing somthing that will harm them or threaten their life and the i might say something to either them or the child. it really depends on the situation you're talking about too.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
I think it is always a different situation when they are family, but I agree.
@dbeast (1495)
• India
16 Feb 07
i would only be right on our part to correct the children when we are given the permission by the parents themselves.it woul be bad to see a child doing somethng wrong and even with us knowing that it is wrong and to continue to do so.if we feel it is difficult to do so we can try speaking to the parents on what to do and what can be done to correct the children from their wrongs.this should all be done in the good will of the child.
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@quispy (572)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I do correct other peoples children, and personally I usually don't mind if someone corrects mine. Remember the saying "it takes a village to raise a child". Also, if the children are in my home, they need to abide by my rules. Most of the time, when my childrens friends come over, their parents are not present. Most of the children's parents that come here are told straight out "I am going to treat him as my own, if he does something wrong I will correct it and I expect you to do the same when my child is at your house". I have never gotten a negative response yet. One parent, who has 3 children that regularly come over, knows my rules and of course is fine with them. Unfortunately, her kids do not have ANY rules at home, so they find it frustrating to be here, unfortunately. I have timed those kids out many times, they are better here now, but she still has no control.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
I feel sorry for her, believe me I know what it is like to not have any control... Fortunately I do have control now.
@proxyt47 (32)
• United States
17 Feb 07
yes,it is a way of showing that you care.
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@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
Well I think that this is a touchy subject. Even if people tell you it's okay..they may resent it later...so it makes it difficult. I think it would depend what the child/children were doing...I would say something if I felt someone needed to step in...etc...
• United States
16 Feb 07
I occasionally run a daycare out of my home and have to discaplin other peoples children all the time, I don't seem to have a problem with this because I am being paid for it and when they are here for me to take care of it is my job to keep them safe. I do however have a problem getting on to my friends children when they are just visiting or we are out somewhere, at this time I am not employed to watch them so I feel that it is not my place to do this. I know that I don't care for other people getting on to my children unless of course it is something like an emergency situation.
• United States
16 Feb 07
I do, partly because I work with children and it is my job to correct any misdoings. However, I don't do it in public. I think, as long as the parent gives you permission to discipline their child, it's ok. I wouldn't feel like I was being judged because I can't always correct what children are doing. Things happen.
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• Switzerland
16 Feb 07
If the other parent is close to you and you know them really well, then, it does not matter. After all, you are helping out a friend. But, if they are relatively new to you, then it is better not to get involved.
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• United States
16 Feb 07
The only time I have HAD to do this was working at a toy store. Sometimes parents wouldnt pay attention. Their kids would be like on things they shouldnt or doing things. Sometimes they wouldnt even have parents, young kids under teens would run through the store. We had to tell them to stop or they would hurt someone. That is probably the ONLY time I have told kids that werent mine what to do. Sure it was part of my job but hey.
• Canada
16 Feb 07
NO because that is they're parents duties as parents, to tell they're kids what to do.
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