Should men and women also be equal in a relationship when it comes to money?

Of course they should. She shouldn't be spending all the money on their dates. It makes me feel like the guy she's dating is some sort of freeloader that would rather have her spend money on him, instead of treating her out to things. I think she should drop him fast because if he's not willing to pay for outtings, then he's not worth it.

If they are living together then it should be 50/50 but if it is dating I think he should pay most of time if he is trying to impress her. I think she should talk to him about it because she probably would hurt his feelings a lot more by just breaking up with him and he does not know why.

honestly it depend on situation and depend on how much money idividual have.and also mitual understading matter a lot good topic man like it cheer

I don't understand why she would allow 2 years to go by without saying something about this. It seems she has ideas about how things should be, yet has allowed the opposite to happen for two years? My question would be to her, why now? I think they should talk and should have long before now. I by no means think he is a freeloader or anyone is necessarily in the wrong. But why allow something that bothers you go on so long without having a conversation about it?

I think the money the man makes he gets to spend however he wants...and the money the woman makes she can spend it however she would like...and split the bills....that seems like a great way for me....unless one is a stay at home parent..then they should get an allounce!..and a decent one too....but not too over the top!

Well, I was just wondering why she allowed to let herself spend for everything (or shall we say spend much more than the guy). I guess the guy would have gotten used to this and must be thinking that it's okay for her to do this. In the case of the guy, I was wondering why he didn't even try to at least ease her girlfriend's financial burden by helping her out somehow. I think they coexisted, until the time that the girl realized that her spending for the relationship is giving negative effects. I think they should talk about this because they allowed each other to play such roles in their relationship. I pity the girl because maybe she loves him and would like to please him. If the guy loves her, then he should listen to her and help her out. If he doesn't do that, then there are many fish in the sea.

well, naturally especially in my culture, it is definitely the guy who always has to spend in a relationship... i just wondering why she has to wait until 2 years before she realises it and want to have a chat with her bf... i think it is a little bit too late... it is not a money issue anymore but a principle issue... it looks to me that her bf is a freeloader and t rying to make use of her which is not good... i will definitely give him up if i have a bf like him...

In relationships there should always be equality thats what love is all about caring for each other i think that if the couples are both financially equipped then the financial responsibilities can be shared between them..

I agree, I think just cut out all the extra outings etc. Maybe then can make an arrangement to where 1 time she pays, 1 time he pays? It's terrible that money can affect our relationships, but it does. I'm in that situation too. I live with my ex husband...he makes me pay half the rent, which is ok, but it's way more than I can afford and I have a child also whom I don't get any child support for. Anyhow, he is insistant that I pay half otherwise I am just using him. I have been with him for 17 years now off and on. He made 3x the money I made at 1 point too. I treat when I can and he does treat me also to dinner etc.

I feel that, in a realtionship, each should contribute the same percentage towards things. I mean that each should contribute say 10% of their earnings towards things they share. So, if the girl makes $1000, $100 would go in the pot; if the guy only makes $500, he would contribute $50. That way, the burden is the same for each and relative to their income, not determined by the cost of activities. It makes it easier to budget, too.

i'm a conservative type, and i believe, if they're still dating, and not married yet, the guy should spend more. but if it's the other way around like in your friend's case, the best approach here would be for your friend to talk to her boyfriend about it, so that there will be no miscommunication in their relationship. it's not right to just break up with him without discussing things over. It becomes a different story once they get married, because there will then be a total commitment to each other, and that they will work out every aspect of their married life, be it financial, or dealing with other concerns of their family life.

in this kind of relationship money doesn't matter too much...you were only spending during dates and occassions...it is not actually a problem... you were just in a stage of getting to know each other better...it is your choice not to spend or bear the expenses...what matters most if it continuously to happen when you got be married... where money matters most....thinking that you will have kids to raise...are you ready to bear that responsibility alone?....you definitely have to decide...its not a game to play....

I personally feel it is a man thing when both go out for everything But the story which you are putting forth tells me that the boy is simply enjoying at the behest of the girl who cares more for the relationship but I feel the girl should stop spending for the boy

for me.. on my own opinion.. i thinks it better to talked to his bf..say what she feel and and what she think about it.. be natural to open the topic..no things will be solved if she gonna zip her mounth and don't speak out..it a matter of good communication and how she deliver it to his bf.

Ofcourse man... why should she always pay.... moreover according to me, what do I feel is that they should be equally paying rather it wouold be preferable if the boy pays more , and he is supposed to, afterall no matter what the girl earns, but she defintley is the boy's responsibilty

I would probably get upset if he expected me to foot all of the bills and if they stay together it will probably stay that way if she doesn't say anything. She needs to talk to him about it. She might make more, but it shouldn't mean that she should pay for everything. Even if he picked up the tab once in a while that would be nice. I never expected my (now) husband to pay for everything, but he did. A relationship isn't about money, but if they love each other. If it is bothering her that much, she needs to get over it, move on or talk to him about it. He might not understand that it is upsetting her. I'd talk to him first, before making decisions to break it off. That is going to hurt him way more than just asking why he isn't pitching in with the bills. If he gets mad that she talked about it, they might be better off seperate.

Well!in the situation you have presented I think the girl is right!Since both of them are earning they should share the expenses in every way!I think she can convey her situation to her boyfreind in a polite way instead of keeping all her complaints in her heart and seething inside!If the boy rectifies and takes more responsibility it is well and Good or else it is no use being with someone who is shrinking away from responsibilities!Correct me if Iam wrong!

I can understand why your friend might be a little frustrated if she is the one always spending when they go out. I don't think it is enough to break off a two year relationship unless there are other things she is unhappy with in the relationship also. Maybe her man doesnt have the excess money? And in that case why go out when they both could do with the extra money in their pockets? I dont agree that it is a natural thing that a guy always spend in a relationship.. Why would it be natural? Because women are women and men SHOULD spend?? I dont agree with that.

As we know that in a relationship, usually guys are the one who spend when go out with their gf. It is still alright if the gurl spend when go out with their bf once in a while. But in my opinion, since the salary of the guy is lower than his gf, i think they should cut off some of the unnecessary expenses. The guy should take initiative to pay when go out with her gf. If he really does not have much money to pay, i think it is better for him to talk or communicate with her gf earlier before they go for any occasions. Your friend should talk to her bf and solve this problems together but not break up with him whitout giving him any reasons. She should directly go in the main point when talk to him but your fren shouldn't hurt him and too direct when talk about this problems.

I think your friend should be honest to tell her boyfriend about her concern of spending more on their dates. The boyfriend might just think that it is very much fine with her when she spends when they are going out, because she is not actually complaining about it. Money matters is important in a relationship. If this is not resolved at this stage, it can even be worse when they get married. But there is also no straight rule that the guy should just be the one to spend in a relationship. Its a matter of talking to each other on how they can actually split the expenses, so as to how they can save together. In our case, my husband is the one who saves a lot and I do the spending most of the time. I do pay for all the expenses in the house because that is the formula that works for us. I'm the type of person who doesn't know how to save, but knows exactly how to spend. My husband is in turn the one who saves for our family so we compliment each other. Your friend should talk to her boyfriend. I don't think it's a wise idea to just find another guy who can provide for her more. Is it the only thing she needs in the relationship?