Dating: Does a person have to be physically attractive for you to date them?

United States
February 15, 2007 9:58pm CST
My mother told me today that I needed to start looking at the persons heart and not the appearance all of the time. It's hard for me to do that. So I wanted to know how other people feel about that. Does someone have to be physically attractive for you to date them? If so, why?
2 responses
@kesfylstra (1870)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Most people probably don't believe when I say this, but physical appearance is not very important to me. I think when you care for someone, they are beautiful or handsome to you. I was always attracted by a warm heart and a sense of humor and similar interests.
• United States
16 Feb 07
Well, I think you need to be somewhat attracted to that person to even START getting involved. However, your mom is correct that you need to look at a person's heart. Of course, you want someone that is a bit attractive, but if you are really just concentrating on finding that guy with the perfect teeth, flawless skin, green eyes and flowing black hair, then you have very high standards that probably won't be met. My first husband was GORGEOUS! Nice body, beautiful face, personality SUCKED! He was nice to me at the beginning...thought I hit the jackpot, but got mean. My current husband is ok. I know that sounds bad...I don't mean it to be. He's not a GQ model by any means. But, what he lacks in muscles or "great" looks, he sure makes up for by being a wonderful husbnad and father to our kids. Good luck in your search and just keep in mind that looks are NOT everything. But, I do see your point that physical attraction does get you at least introduced. :)