mother in laws?

However much the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are good people, there is bound to be friction between the two. It stems from the fact both love one person - the son for one and huband for the other. The mother cannot let another person (the wife) love her son, whom she has brought up for so many years. The daughter-in-law on the other hand feels that she deserves all the love of the man in her life. If seen from either angles it is correct. It is in the hands of the man to see that there is a balance in the relationship. But whatever said and done it is always better for both the in-laws to not live in the same house. Experience has shown me this. I know this from being a son and a husband.

we're ok,but i keep distance in some things to save myself of compromising some decision makings in the future.

MOst mother in law cannot get along with their daughter in law. There is some sense of jealousy that her son loved his wife more than the mother. There are also good mother in law. She prepares medicine and health foods after the daughter in law gave birth to a child. Some daughter in law hates their mother in law. She does not consider her a relative and she wants all the love of her husband.

Indeed an interesting question!!! I would say a 'yes' of sorts...my MIL is not someone who is easily pleased or happy. It is very difficult to gauge her reactions or feelings. It is one thing, when you know what to expect from someone, and totally a different ball game when you dont what she is expecting. Thankfully, we live in different cities. We have a cordial relationship, and I prefer to remain distant from her, both emotionally and physically...She tends to get jealous about how loving a husband I have...who also happens to be her son! Ideally, she should feel happy that her son is happily married..Alas! it doesnt work that way!!! :( Anyway, I am happy as long as I am not hurting her feelings and as for her hurting me? I no longer, let her hurt me anymore!!

Yes, very. And it will continue to be an excellent relationship just as long as we live 2 provinces away from each other! :)

Sometimes I have problems with my mother-in-law but I always thought it weird when people speak of their in-laws in a negative way. I treat my mother-in-law as if she was my own mother. I may not agree with her in many ways but I love her as if she was my own. I always advise female friends to get use to the idea that mother-in-laws are now part of the family. I have a friend who is about to get married, and her soon to be mother-in-law made a comment that she did not like. She felt irritated. I asked her what if its her own mother who made the comment. She hesitated and her answer was she would not be irritated. I asked why, she answered because its her mother who made the comment. Same comment only different persons delivering the words. So what's the difference? Because you treat the mother-in-law as if you would treat a stranger. That's the difference. So why not built a relationship out of love and respect. If you could treat your friends with love and respect why not the mother of your husband or wife. I know they could be a handful but one day you will be an in-law yourself when your children are all grown up and married. Even if they do drive me crazy sometime or even a lot of times, I try to see them thru the eyes of my wife. And my wife now have a loving relationship with my mother. So why the animosity towards the mother-in-law?

adam's a million miles away from his parents. He's going to introduce me to his family when he goes home.