Do your parents or in-laws help you out financially or they don't?
@ladymoonstone143 (1507)
United States
February 16, 2007 12:05am CST
Being both only child, my husband and I are the apples of our parent's eyes. Sometimes this is not good because we are the main focus of their attention. They always wanted to help out (which is good esp during tough times) but if it is too much, I just feel so guilty. One time, when my husband was waiting for his job assignment, my inlaws paid our car insurance and car payments several months in advance without our knowledge. We never want to ask for anything because we know they are saving too for retirement etc. Or just getting stuff for us and we just get it in the mail or being delivered to us. I know we are lucky to have parents who are thoughtful but on the other hand, I just feel guilty. Nowadays, the recipient is their grandchild. Whatever she needs or wants, they already anticipate it and it will just come unexpectedly in our doorstep. That is why I never mention any problem no matter how tiny to any of them because they will think more of it. I always say everything is fine and they don't like that answer too.
Did you experience this kind of situation? How do you handle this?
1 response
@Zamboni (160)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
my ex is an only child and his mom is the same way.i grew up at a young age and more or less fought on my own financially.there were times when i needed help in all aspects but was to weak to ask.my father knew when i needed help and would just do things out of the blue.if your inlaws didnt have the money to do it for you guys they wouldnt.we all have hard times in our lives and even when we dont ask for help there are others who like or should i say love to help people.just as long as you show your appreciation then take it as family being family.i didnt get to have a family there for me so your lucky.one day they might need you.
@ladymoonstone143 (1507)
• United States
16 Feb 07
That is what my inlaws always say and so does my mother...that they are helping and it gives them happiness. We always show our appreciation to them and sending them sincere thank you notes all the time.
Thanks for your comment.
