How I CHOOSE my BEST RESPONES!

United States
February 16, 2007 11:32am CST
I have been meaning to get to them for a while now, but I did not have that much time. However, since all the discussions lately have been about that issue, I felt I should get a move on it. EllusiveButterfly had it correct in her discussion, I just had more unresolved discussions than I was aware of, sorry everyone that it has taken so long. I have one page left to get to, and they are perhaps my most famous discussions, but I have not finished reading all the great responses, and I don't want to pick just anyone. In general, I usually pick the response that made an impact on me, or others in the discussion. Sometimes, it is just because it was so unique and unlike all the other discussions. Also, I tend to go for the person who really comprehended what I was writing about, because that meant that they probably found my words interesting. Then, there are those responses that just stay with me, and I go back and read them over and over, so, going back to the discussion a lot later, I know exactly where to find it, and that when the discussion is finally over, it is most likely my pick for best response. Now, as Sawsen also mentioned in her discussion (a few days ago), I did mark a best response by accident, and it was a very popular discussion, so I apologize to anyone who was offended and wondered what made me pick the one that I did, when it was hardly significant. Thank you everyone for responding to my discussions, and I hope that you think my methods are fair. For those of you that do respond (diligently), you have probably been marked...
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@Sawsen (793)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I still have many unresolved discussions, but it's going to take me a while because I have to go through pages. I also agree that it takes time to choose the best response because people put take time to post and put their best effort into it. When I choose a best response, I also consider the same factors that you consider. I try to find the person who has best help my solution, or who has best understood my discussion. Sometimes I don't always find a best response, but I give the person who I think tried their best the best response.
• United States
17 Feb 07
Yes, that is true. Sometimes, the discussion will sit for a long time, so I have to decide. Also, I think that rating a response is important. I like to rate them pos, even if their idea is different than mine. The only time to rate someone negative, is if they are spamming, or using foul language, etc. I
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Thank you for informing us. Communication is a good thing so that everyone is on the same page. I think that you have the right idea about best response. Just don't be in a hurry on it. Some of us are on dial up and work outside the home. We get to you sooner or later so picking a best response within hours of starting a discussion is just too much I think. Best response means the discussion is over in my eyes. You will do fine and find that you will grow and adjust as you are here awhile and we await every discussion you will do! Thanks for the ratings, it is nice to know who does this. I too rate anyone that responds in accordance to the guidelines.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
Don't worry, lol, I try to give many people a chance to respond, and there are some that I didn't want to finish, but it had been so long, so I finally decided to, and they were interesting topics, it is just that no one found them. I have seen a few, that are after a few hours, but that is just too soon to decide, because as you said, it closes the discussion.
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@edigital (2709)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I found that keeping my discussions unsolved for many days will hinder increased earning flow, so I every week on holiday read all responses and judge by myself whose response can be choosed as best, I prefer first from responses given from my friends or buddy list. I check who has given response with some advise and with some new information against my posting etc. If anyone read responses against his/her discussions then automatically mind will hint whos response seems better then can justify best response. Sometime I choise best from 1 response as the discussions have 2 or 3 months but only 1 answer so I choice the person as best respondent who responded it.
• United States
17 Feb 07
I see, well, that is very interesting. I generally go down the list, from the first to the last, so that I do not forget to respond or rate a person. But, we all have our own ways and it is good to understand how others also pick theirs.
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Good morning WesternValleyGirl, You present yet another good question! I first signed up w/Mylot in October. I asked one question, answered a few, then encountered computer troubles which prevented me from accessing sites that require cookies. So, I didn't return to Mylot until the issue was resolved, a full four months later. My first question received a few responses before I disappeared, but not much activity. Then, this moring (again - four months later) the question got a couple more answers. Had I chosen a best answer back in October, chances are probably pretty good that the question would not have stimulated any other answerers. So, in addition to how we choose best (which can certainly be difficult among so many good responses), when to choose presents another dilemma. I haven't chosen a best answer yet, but I suspect the criteria will be: how thoughtful, and how helpful the answer is. I believe that I'll tend to choose answers that represent the greatest help to the greatest number of readers. I also believe it's relevant to choose a 'BA' that clearly indicates that the reader read and understood the question, and made a sincere attempt to explore the ramifications of both the Q&A. Now, whether or not the process of choosing will give me more grey hairs remains to be seen ...Ugghhh! I'll let you know when I cross that bridge.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
Yes, and as always, you have a very explicit and comprehensive response. I have read your question and have no idea how to respond...I have been thinking about it also, but I don't believe I will ever have an answer, perhaps, I should just write that for you. And, I feel that you are a very organized person, and that is why you are waiting for the truly best response, I have a sort of complex organization, as you can see, and wish it were a bit more put together, but sometimes, we are who we are...
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Based on the types and number of questions you've posed, you are clearly a very thoughtful person. I have no doubt that you will make your choices wisely!
• United States
17 Feb 07
Thank you, I try.
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
16 Feb 07
That is quite a detailed method of determining the best response. Your discussions are usually interesting. They are always well described and pertinent. No-nonsense.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
Thank you, and so are your responses, which is why I mark you as best response a lot.
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• United States
17 Feb 07
Also, is that a real place? In the picture (the avatar)? Or like a Thomas Kincade type of thing...
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
Well i for one think that this is an awesome way too go about choosing your best responses and i must also thank you for a great reminder as i really need to get alot done myself. Like trying to get all my unresolved discussions resolved already ... LOL! God Bless!!
• United States
17 Feb 07
Thanks, I hope that everyone is ok with it. I try. I think that there are a lot of people here, that also give best responses fairly, so we all appreciate it.
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• United States
3 Mar 07
I mark everyone for responding to me a +, unless it was a one word or off the wall. As far as best response, well I choose different ways. One way is, the best answer in my opinion. But, sometimes it is really hard for me to choose, as there were lots of great answers. So, I may choose someone that has chosen me for a best response. Sometimes, after quite awhile of waiting, only one answers. So, I will give it to them. I used to mark best response right away, but now I wait, as it wasn't fair it seemed to do it too quickly. Because of my high numbers, I try to stay on top of things the best I can. One day I may just work on best responses. One day, some postings and replys. Another day, answering other posts, first my friends list. I may go back and forth checking on who to give the best response to, also.
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Yesterday I noticed that I had 3 pages of unresolved discussions! I determined not to do anything else until I choose best responses. Three of them only had one response, even though they had been out there for a few months ... so obviously those were really easy to choose best response!! :) Then there are those that have page after page of responses! One thing that I look for when choosing a best response if I'm hung up between a few is to see if the user has come back to reply again. If one has and the other hasn't, it makes me feel as though they are really interested in the discussion and may have even spent time outside of MyLot trying to think of another point. That kind of time deserves recoginition!
@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
24 Feb 07
Because I haven;t much time but I don't want let the discussions without choosing best response I try to do 1-2 every some days.After all I don't start new topic every day so it isn't so hard for me.Always I have at my mind be fair but I admit that I choose few times for I welcome and encourage a new friend, the feeling when you get your first discussion is great(always is but th first little more).About you I come to see your topics and response to any more I can and I find you always very fair.
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Thanks for the post, because I never knew what they meant by unresolved discussions. I thought it had to do with the number of responses or something. Then I noticed one with a lot of responses, so I figured that couldn't be the issue. I've been trying to figure it out for a while, and now I know! So thanks again for the post. I basically pick my best responses the same way that you do. I also apologize for not having done them all - I really didn't know there was a way to keep track. Now that I do, I'm going there now to rectify the problem!
• United States
23 Feb 07
That's a good way to choose your best response. That's very close to the way I think about it too. I chose your response as my best response for my topic about brandy. Yours stood out, you weren't on anyones side, and what you said was true and fair to the situation. Out of all the responses, yours stood out.