are you divorced?
16 Feb 07
i have never been divorced but i have immediate family members who have been through it.i think a lot of people dont try hard enough. i have been through plenty of ups and downs with my husband of 17 yrs but i always say .. better the devil you know ... lol.i dont know what makes a relationship fail , i just think in some cases it is past hurt that make people want to press on the selfdestruct button . they dont want to fight for their partner as they are not secure enough to feel they might win.
18 Feb 07
I think, for any relationship to go smoothly few most important things are, mutual understanding, respects for the partner, open space for communication and love. No relationship is perfect, you will always have problems, arguments, fights etc in all most all relationships. Inspite of all these, your relationship could go smoothly and never fails if you have cultivated those 4 things in your relationship. I think, the reason in most relationship failures, is lack of communication. Communication is the key of any relationship. Only through communication, you could start understanding other person. Once you start understanding the other person, you start respecting him/her. Just loving your partner is not only enough to keep your relationship alive and smooth. You need to understand your partner's feelings, thoughts etc. Communication is the best thing to keep any relationship grow smoothly. At the same time, it is the only thing to be followed if any relationship is not going smooth and about to fail. If you start getting feeling like your relationship with any person is just not going good and about to fail, I think you should take initiative and start communication with your partner about things like, whats going wrong, what are the things which makes you both uncomfortable in your relationship, what should we do to go smoothly in our relationship etc. Even after lot of talks and all, if you realise that this relationship is not worthwhile, its better to get separate happily instead of streaching it for a long time.