A twist on an old question......

gender equality - Is there truely gender equality in this world?!?
United States
February 16, 2007 4:20pm CST
We have all heard the questions of weather a woman's place is at home or at work...... well how about men?!? Is a man's place at home or at work? If it is ok for a woman to be at home or at work does the same hold for a man? If a man decides that he does not want to work and that his wife should is that wrong? Is it worse than if a woman does the same?
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Everyone thinks badly of my son because he stays home with his two boys ages 3 and 8 months. He doesn't have a high school diploma or a drivers license and they live way out in the country. His girlfriend has a license and she loves to work. She has a job working with disabled adults and she really enjoys it. It works for them. Her family doesn't really like my son because they think he is lazy. I feel that people need to do what works well for them and it shouldn't matter who works and who stays home. I think one day he will eventually work outside the home but if he doesn't, I don't have a problem with it.
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Thank you. Yes, he is considering getting his GED from home. I guess they give you the books and they call you once a week to see how things are going. If I was him, I would consider getting a job as I watched the two kids for only a few hours tonight and I just about went insane. I don't know how he does it.lol
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• United States
20 Feb 07
That is great that he stays home with his babies! Has he ever thought about going back and getting his HS Diplomia? That would be a great thing for him to do and that may get the in-laws off of his a$$. It sounds as if this arangement is the only arangement that will work for now in his situation, so it is great that it works and he is the stay-at-home-dad!! Thank you for the reply and have a great day!!
• United States
21 Feb 07
Since you are the one that knows the sting of the double standard since I bet it would be no problem if your son's role was reversed, I will give you the BEST RESPONSE!! Once again brendalee thank you for the response and have a great day!!
• China
21 Feb 07
I think that it is depend on who can earn more money. my two idea: No.1 when one(man or woman) at work can enough support their living: if man can earn money than woman ,man should at work and woman be at home.On the contrary,woman should at work and man at home. No.2 when one(man or woman)at work can not support their living: They should all go to work.
• United States
21 Feb 07
Great idea! If the man makes more than the woman then the man should work, if the woman makes more than the man then the woman should work. If neither one can be an island on their own then both should work. Great household economic plan!! Thank you for the response and have a great day!!
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
8 Mar 07
There is nothing wrong with a Mr. Mom!!! I have a very good friend that is a Mr. Mom. Or...a Dad that stays home to take care of the kids. His daughter i diabetic and was suffering to the point of having seizures. So, since his wife actually earned more money than he, they opted for him to stay home and take care of the children. I see nothing wrong with that! I think it was an awesome and a well made decision. Because she earns more money, why should she have been the one to quit working to care for the children? And you know, he is a pretty darn good dad too! So, more power to you men! If you can be a stay home dad and let mom work because she would earn more, then I see no problem with it!
• Ireland
16 Feb 07
When my husband and I got married, I was the one with the best paid job. After I became pregnant it was a very difficult decision as to which of us should give up work to take care of the baby. He suggested that he himself should give up work and I agreed, then I had second thoughts. I don't know why, but I just felt that it was the man's place to provide for his wife and children. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but that was a long time ago.
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• United States
18 Feb 07
It is rather wierd how in this enlightened age we still have some of the old standards of life. Thank you for the response and have a great day!!
@cerium (691)
16 Feb 07
It's not the same. Males are tougher (physically) than females. They are supposed to be the ones responsible for getting the money. While I think that work for women is very important, sometimes you'll just find that they have to stop working (like when being pregnant). That doesn't happen with men. I think that it is a responsibility for every man to get the money, while women getting money is a plus, but it's not their responsibility (they shouldn't be blamed if they didn't). May sound backward, but that's my opinion.
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• United States
18 Feb 07
Thank you for the opinion. It seems as if it is backwards but it seems correct as well. I think that your thinking is right it should be the man's job to provide for his family especially if there are children involved and the woman working should be viewed as a plus, an addition to the household income. The world today says there is equality but there is truely no equality as true equality is never an actual reality atleast not till man can give birth. thank you for the response and have a great day!!
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