Do you read the posts carefully before answering?I got bad answers.

@berry9 (590)
India
February 17, 2007 4:38am CST
Earlier i posted a topic about my personal problem where my boyfriend's dad insisted 10000 dollars to pay him if he must allow our marraige.i asked people on mylot "if there is a way to make that money". some misunderstood that and started answering rudely.i dont understand what pleasure some people have in hurting others.If you were in my situation would you be happy to get such answers?
4 responses
@RealIolo (1854)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I thought you got some really good responses in that discussion and you didn't respond to very many of them. Explain to those who responded in that discussion why those ideas will not work instead of just going off in a miff because you didn't like the responses. No one is going to give you 10,000 dollars and I thought it was rude of you to ask. You didn't make it out like you were asking for ideas on how to raise 10,000 you just asked for it as a gift. I am still looking for your response as to why you can not just marry your boy friend. You do not have to please his parents! You said "If you were in my situation would you be happy to get such answers?". If I were in your situation I would not have made such a post on myLot. What kind of answers were you hoping to get berry9? You say some misunderstood and started answering rudely but I say it was inappropriate of you to suggest that anyone should provide money to solve a problem you could solve without any money.
@berry9 (590)
• India
18 Feb 07
well again you got it wrong.please read that post completely before you answer.
@berry9 (590)
• India
19 Feb 07
it was just the headline i gave.but the discussion clearly said tell me how i can earn.oneday when you have a tough situation and you ask someone for ways to solve and they jump back rudely on you,maybe you will realise the pain.you have to step on the thorn to know pain.being rude is easy.
@RealIolo (1854)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Maybe you should go back and explain for each suggestion you got why it is unacceptable. The way these discussions have gone I am not convinced you are really interested in solving this problem on your own.
@CatEyes (2448)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I get some weird and rude answers too. I am sorry if you received some mean ones. I remember the discussion and it makes me sad that you must deal with this. It is foreign to me to even think like that, so it is hard for me to relate. You do have my sympathies.
@anonymili (3138)
17 Feb 07
I think some people thought you were joking when you submitted your previous post. I certainly did, I had no idea you were in India. Now I get it. Seriously if you want to be with your boyfriend and get married, it's up to him to sort out his life and earn his own money. I know it's stupid and mean of his parents to ask for $10,000, are you sure you didn't mean 10,000 rupees? Anyway regardless of the amount, if you're bf is a real man he should have a job and be able to support himself. Only then can he marry you and support you financially. Otherwise you should go your separate ways. It's tough but that's life. The reason your previous post was misunderstood was because your title implied that you wanted US here on mylot to give you $10,000 which is never gonna happen in a million years obviously :)
@sexybabe (160)
• India
17 Feb 07
well... i alwaz read posts carefully before answering them..!