How to Handle the Ex-Stepmother
By cyntrow
@cyntrow (8523)
United States
February 17, 2007 4:20pm CST
My oldest son is getting married. He and Misty have been engaged for almost a year and they plan to marry next summer. Misty has asked me my advice and I thought to put it to all you mylotters.
My ex-husband, my son's father, has an ex-wife. My son spent a good portion of his life with this lady and actually refers to her as mom. She and I have also developed a friendly relationship over the years. The problem is that she and my ex are now exes. My son wants her at the wedding and as part of the family. Misty is concerned about the animosity between the parties involved. My ex and I are not friends, but we are our son's family. Where should the other ex, whom my son considers family fit in to the equation?
What would you do????
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@lauriefnp (5111)
• United States
22 Feb 07
This is about your son and his future wife, not about his father. I would have your son speak with his father directly about this. He should tell him that he wants his entire family sitting in the front pew of the church and at the family table at the reception, including his biological parents and his ex-stepmother. He should make it clear that he loves his stepmother as family, and that his father's animosity and immature behavior is not welcome and is not going to be accepted. He gets one wedding day, and it's not too much to ask that all of the adults involved suck it up and be civil for a day. He should make it clear to his father that this is the one thing that he and his bride want more than anything out of the day. Good Luck, I know that these family situations are always difficult.
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@lauriefnp (5111)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Good Luck! This makes me glad that I don't have children and an ex to deal with right now!
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@kabella50 (309)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I would let the son have his wishes respected and the adults involved should act as adults and make merry for the sake of your son.
