Should trust be free or earned??

@KrazyK8 (190)
Canada
February 17, 2007 5:02pm CST
You start out a school year with an A+ all you have to do is keep it... Do you think trust should be handled the same way. When you make a friend should you give them your trust first or should they earn it? What about in a relationship?
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@vangie79 (198)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
Trust can earn in a process... In friendship: I give my trust to some certain friends whom i think are true, sincere and loyal to our friendship. It's like you are keeping a treasure in your heart by keeping those friends who are really true to you. In relationship: From the start you give your love to your partner, trust should follow. Any relationship won't last if trust doesn't exist. This will prove how much you love each other if you trust one another and you will earn respect from it.
@KrazyK8 (190)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
excellent thought thank you
@stibigirl (291)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I think that trust has to be earned most of the time, people have to grow and learn about each other before trusting and real relationships will be formed. When people are first starting out in a romantic relationship I think that it is most important to build that trust; jumping in and trusting someone may mean that you are jumping back out just as quickly.
@KrazyK8 (190)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
great point
• United States
17 Feb 07
Everyone should be given a certain amount of trust. But you can't expect to pour out your deepest secrets and your whole life story, etc. And expect someone you just met to be faithful and keep your secrets. Or lend a new friend alot of money, as you don't know if they will pay you back. But their should always be some level of trust.
@KrazyK8 (190)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
how do you decide how much trust to give a person?
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
19 Feb 07
I think many people start off in a friendship or relationship using caution and with time they develope the trust. I think is should be earned.
17 Feb 07
Think trust should be earned by all friends! I know through settting a good example Ive earned the trust and friendship of many! Infact I am still intouch with some of the people that taught me from way back in my schooldays, and I was last in school 1979! Good examples always last a lifetime,
@KrazyK8 (190)
• Canada
18 Feb 07
That is a good thought
• India
18 Feb 07
Well you can never be friends with anyone right on the first day...I mean i know you can talk to the person and hang around with them and everything but for you to be true friends i guess it takes some time....so I guess till then you should be wary but later i guess they have earned your trust...
• United States
17 Feb 07
You should always give people the benefit of the doubt, but make them earn your trust in the process. Relationships are the same way, you should never think the worse about things..and give people the benefit..but keep an open eye and make them earn the trust you give them. It's your heart - you have to protect it.
@04loviej (31)
17 Feb 07
i give all the people I know as much trust as I can, and then if they do something that is not right they loose it and it can not be earned back. I wish i could let it be earned but i just dont work like that.
• United States
18 Feb 07
free