kids with depression

United States
February 18, 2007 12:27pm CST
i am a 32 year old mom with two kids ages 15 and 12. my girl is 15 my boy is 12. they both have depression my girl has bipolar. i need some help on how to help my kids. my daughter looses control so much that i dont know how to control her. she gets made if i tell her to go to bed and flips out. the dr said to try to just give her way buy how is that helping her in the real world she has to know she cant always have her way. my son isnt so bad he just has depression and i see him crying sometimes for no reason. if you have any advice i sure can use it.
2 responses
@Eamerial (21)
• Portugal
19 Feb 07
Looking at your other topic, where you describe your problems with your boyfriend... well, i would say (as an answer to both your other topic and this one).... leave your boyfriend. A lack of a stable home will be a horrible influence toyour children's mental state. Depression is common in teenagers, but that's because they usually don't feel loved... if they are living such a stressfull situation.. it won't help. He may be crying for you too. Show him your love and your care, without being paternalist. As for your girl. Is she being medicated? She should. Bipolar is dangerous to oneself and you should be carefull. Go to another psychologist, or even to a psychiatrist to get a second opinion. What you describe could also be a mild case of autism.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
yes my girl is on meds right now just getting her to take them is another story right now. and i do show my kids love we always do something just us no one else at least once a week so they have there time with me
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
If i can reccomend something, i would personally have you put them on herbs, the best infact is st johns wort, you can find it at any grocery store in the medicine isle. It's totally herbal, it's amaxing, and works better than any antidepressant you can find. Your kids also seem to be acting out (Well your daughter) i think it might be her anger with your boyfriend, and previous abuse... you can't let them see that, because if you do you'll see that those kids will think it's normal, and you don't want them getting into harmful relationships in life. Don't give your daughter whatever she wants, don't let her have her way. or you'll have one totally uncontrolable kid, and if that's the case you don't know what uncontrolable is yet. Set the rules down, explain them to her. If it's just about bed, or eating, say she doesn't want to do either, let her say up for a couple of nights for as long as she wants, then wake her up a couple of hours after she crashes, force her to stay up for a full 12 hours or more if possible, you'll show her that with everything a person does there comes consequences. she'll learn, start understanding you. It'll be okay, don't you worry.
• United States
23 Feb 07
thanks, i heard alot about herbs and stuff just dont know where to get these herbs, with bipolar rules are very hard for her.we do have rules but when she gets in this state she cant handle it really, its not her fault .the staying up thing she does this anyway. she will stay up till 3 am get up for school at 6 am and it doesnt seem to affect her. i do put her to bed but when we all go to sleep she gets up.
• Canada
2 Mar 07
yeah i used to have the same problem, i have a cousin with bypolar and she uses herbs as well, you can get any of the herbs at most regular grocery stores, their in with the vitamins and what not... i hope it all works out for ya hun. it usually gets worse with menstration, so watch for that too.
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