Where is Mr. Right??

United States
February 18, 2007 2:06pm CST
I'm Seperated now for a few months. And I have been kinda looking for Mr.Right but, I don't know where to look? I have talk to men on the net but, all they seem to be interested in one thing ....That is the last thing on my mind. I'm not into going out to bars cause, I'm getting rid of a drunk and I don't what another one!!! I really don't go anywhere by myself I normally have my kids. My question is where do you find or meet people? How do you get up the nerve to even ask a guy out?? Or do you sit back and wait for them to come to you??
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47 responses
• Pakistan
18 Feb 07
i am MR right :)
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• United States
18 Feb 07
Hehe, that can be intepreted as "I am MR, right?" where MR stands for some kind of cerebral dysfunction.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
I guess since you've just separated from relationship, I suggest that you let your heart rest. If you have kids enjoy their company before anyhting else. Meeting people online is a very risky kind of person. I guess look for a friend instead of Mr. Right Guy. Mr. Right guy is just a fictional character. Every guy that you'll meet will somehow have some imperfections in himself. With time and patience he will come to you and you don't need to look for him you'll see.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
19 Feb 07
The advice I'm going to give may be, in a way, the hardest thing to do. Wait. Don't go looking for a man. it might take another 8 monthes, it might take 4 years. I think most relationships that start when you are looking are the ones that don't last long. Youdon't wait for that person to come to you. You wait for the two of you to find each other.
• United States
2 May 07
I totally agree with this. If you put too much pressure on yourself to find Mr. Right, you're going to end up with Mr. Wrong. Don't shove yourself in a closet and expect to find him, but don't act so desperate where Mr. Right will become Mr. Right Now. The saying, "Love comes when you're not looking for it" is actually true. He'll come when you least expect it and most likely with perfect timing when you are 100% ready for him.
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• United States
18 Feb 07
I have a similar question: "Where is Ms. Right?". I have resigned myself to being single and believe I am quite happy and content with it. There are so many variables in finding and maintaining a great relationship. The problem I find is that people seem to always be changing, and if not, those are the ones who have become set in their ways. So although I may have given up the search for Ms. Right, I'm hoping to run across many Ms. Right-for-the-Night.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
You confuse him with Mr. Goodbar.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 07
That was cute but I don't want to cross paths with Mr Right-for-the-Night. Could be tiring too.
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@ddlaurie (132)
• Canada
18 Feb 07
A lot of times mr right will come around. But sometimes you have to go looking. I agree the net or bars is not the place to find them. Going out for a coffee with friends you will meet different people. Even if you volunteer in your neighbourhood might help. When you have kids you have to be so careful to find that right someone. A friend of mine has a daughter and can not find the right one either she told me she will be friends with whom she can but will wait till her child is older before settleing s=down with a man.
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• Canada
18 Feb 07
From my experience, you won't meet that special someone over the Internet. All the men I meet via the Net where not what I was looking for. Go out, have a good time, and look for men.
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@paulnet (748)
• India
19 Feb 07
You can meet your Mr. right anywhere just keep you eyes and brain open. Best of Luck
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@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Take time to be on your own and spend time with your kids. I know some say the internet is not where you meet someone, but for some it is true. You just have to be very careful about how you go about it. Just have fun and don't stress.
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
every thing happens for a reason & i believe that god has someone destined for us in our lifetime. you dont need to search for mr. right. he will just come in god's perfect time. you just have to pray & be more patient & things will just fall into place.
@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
don't look for Mr. Right...he come to you if it really meant to be. Fate will bring you together in his own way...you'll never know, Mr. Right is just around the corner? so, just take you time..enjoy your time with your kids and i'm sure sooner or later that Mr. Right of yours, will come...unexpectedly. Good Luck!
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
Im separated too and i also get to chat some guys over the internet but most of them just isnt mr.right stuff. Some do get lucky my very close friend wherein she got to meet the man of her dreams at some dating site. I suggest you just open yourself to possibilities and think positively. when you are right and ready, the man for your will come just along. that's what i believe. maybe you are just in the process of being and becoming for the man thats really for you and if he doesnt come along yet, then i think you are just fine just by yourself for now. Good luck!
• United States
19 Feb 07
Well, how did you do it the first time? I think that when Mr. right comes along, you will know what to do. Maybe you shouldn't be so anxious for him to come along just yet, wait a while and see what happens. Maybe by waiting, you are doing the right thing.
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• Indonesia
19 Feb 07
May be iam wrong .. my suggest is don't look to far .. and wait the right moment, prepare your self until that time come. Mr. Right will come to you, Amein.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 07
My two cents: Go out, Enjoy being single...You don't have to look for Mr. Right, because the Right guy will come to you when you least expect it : ) Have Faith
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• India
19 Feb 07
hey there... u know what.. there is always someone there for u. and that mr. special will find u one day. when u vl see that guy, u vl surely come to know that he is the one. u vl not eed to ask him for some outing or a date. it vl haappen automatically. when i met my girlfriend, i knew that she is the one who is going to be my life partner.u just need to wait for the right moment and he vl be there. just in front of u. all d best..
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@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
19 Feb 07
you are right man!
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@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
19 Feb 07
hi! I know what you speaking about. I raise my child alone for 4 years. I did not find the right man for days, for long weeks, for long months, for long years. I was sure sometimes, that it is good. And from a few points of view it was really better to live with only my babyson, than with a man. I was free, I felt. Sometimes I was very sad, and cried a lot, why can not I meet a simple man. I did not have any special requests, I only wanted to put my head to a strong shoulder. I wanted a man who can repair things in the flat. Though I repaired, fixed more than other women, but it was not simple, it took a lot of time and effort, more than a MAN need. (sorry for my english). There were men who liked me very much, and they wanted to be the part of my life. But they were so different from me. But sometimes I was alredy at the point to make relationship with them, though I knew they are not the RIGHT. All of them was my collegue at my workplace. And once my boss employed my RIGHT MAN. Now we live together for more than 2 years. ANyway I tried the blind dates. I do not have good experiences, so I would not suggest it to anyone... You said you are seperated for few months. Do not be shy if you like somebody, but I think the RIGHT MEN do not wait for being asked... So, I waited for them...for more than a few months. But if you are unpatient... The most couples know each other from friends, and from work. The right man will come in the right time, just do be patient. The right man should be similar than you, so you should not go those places you never go, just because to meet Mr.Right. But maybe I am wrong. I can say only my own experiences... Take my best wishes.
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@emmanola (482)
19 Feb 07
It depends on what you mean by "Mr. Right". I bet there are few sincere men and women who are qualified to be Mr. Rights and Mrs. Rights. On your part I could see some challenges. Your status as "separated" may seem to scare away some well-intentioned men who may truly be Mr. Right. Some men may just conclude that once you couldn't endure with a man in the past it's possible for them to have to be "dumped" sometime in future. Children is another issue. I'm not saying this to spite you but just to help you to better understand the challenges you face as you search for Mr. Right. I feel the best way to get a Mr. Right is for you to first assess yourself and be sincerely convinced that you're fit to be a Mrs. Right. I mean, begin the search from within! Beyond this, follow your own interest and you're likely to meet men who share similar ideals. You don't have to change your lifestyle otherwise you'll end up with a man that is less than a Mr. Right. Do you believe in God? Then pray and take action looking up to our heavenly Father to guide you. I wish you all the best.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 07
there will be no more mr. right but just mr. maybe, you can never tell when or where. But one thing is sure, if you pray and ask our lord for a good man, then I'm sure it will come. There is no permanent in this world, but changes. Just pray for a good man, and god knows who you need.
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@KrazyK8 (190)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
I use a site called plenty of fish and though I have not met mr. right yet I have made a few good friends. I also have a child 24 hrs a day 7 days a week and I find it difficult to meet people and I hate bars as well for meeting ppl. It is hard to get the nerve up to ask a guy out but you need to remember with all the bad things that have happened in your life him saying "no" does not even compare. You can sit back and wait but it helps to take initive too. Mr. Right is not going to suddenly walk in to you livingroom while your are lying around watching soap operas!!
• United States
19 Feb 07
ok..i just have to say... the end of your answer was really freaking rude!! Do u know her? What makes YOU THINK she sits on her a$$ all day? she just got out of a bad realtionship..and she was asking where to meet people..she didnt say hey look..i dont do anything i sit on my bum all day and do nothing for 3 kids..i never leave the couch..and i love soaps.,.I see no where that this information was told..so i think u really owe her an appology..
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I think she meant to be metaphorical and was referring to a generic "you". Let's face it, more of us sit idly back than to aggressively pursue situations, regardless of what situations they may be. I know I definitely should be cleaning house (for starters).
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@spr1967 (208)
19 Feb 07
I know you said its afew months of being separated and have kids, but what you wanna do is get a babysitter and go party for a a reasonable time... good luck in your search
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@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
never look for the right guy, it will come into the right place and time.. thru god's will. goodluck!
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