Other people feeding your kids

United States
February 18, 2007 6:01pm CST
We were at a restaurant the other day and someone we know tried to give my 4 month old daughter caramel sauce. I quickly covered her mouth and said "she can't eat that". Then the lady said not even a taste. My husband said no way we don't even give her fruits or veggies yet, and we are going to start out with veggies so she doesn't only like the swet stuff. What would you do?
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• United States
19 Feb 07
i think the fact she did not even know you or the child is a bit crazy when she goes and offers your kid food! It is like we teach or kids not to take food from strangers and thn she goes and offers your kid caramel sauce! My father in law pretty much did this also. he gave my daughter ice cream while she wearing a pretty dress. i told him not to because shewould spit it out cuz it was cold. he did it anyway and she ruining the dress because she spit the ice cream out just like i said she would.
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@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I hate it when other people try to feed my children. I mean they dont know if they have alergys or not. I know what I want my kids to have so I just tell them no thank you.
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@freak369 (5123)
• United States
19 Feb 07
It's your kid, you do what you feel is right. Even if it were a family member, they better ask me before they give my kid something - regardless of the age. What really irks me is that people never stop to ask if it's ok or if they child has any food allergies. My son refuses to eat ketchup and a friend thought it would be funny to try and prank him with it. She told him to close his eyes and open his mouth - he was about three and a half at the time. She grabbed a french fry, loaded it up with ketchup and shoved it in his mouth. Needless to say, he spit it out and started gagging on it. I picked up the squirt bottle of ketchup, squirted it all over her shirt and face and asked her if she liked it. She was in complete shock. I grabbed my bags, three five dollars on the table and walked out. That was the last time I talked to her.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
People are nuts. That was totally inappropriate for someone to try to feed your baby anything-- and especially caramel sauce. You did the right thing. I'd be peeved even if my own mother tried to do that!
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• Canada
19 Feb 07
i would of been upset to. i just tell people no she can't eat that and if they say come on it won't hurt i say it's my kid not yours. someone had tried to give my daughter big hard candies that she could choke on when she was just 12 months. i was not impressed. who knows what people are thinking when they do that.
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• Canada
19 Feb 07
i forgot to mention about the candy thing. after i said no she then proceeded to tell me ya i gave some to my son at that age and he choked. we had to take him to the hospital. so if she allready knew that why do it to someone else. didnt' make sense to me.
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@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
I HATE it when adults would offer my children candy,especially strangers.....we spend their entire childhood telling our kids to be afraid of strangers and to NEVER take candy from them and than some idiot walks up and offers it to them,destroying all we've tried to teach them in a blink of an eye....
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@puma_nz (1001)
• New Zealand
19 Feb 07
The same as you.. I dont like it when strangers do that.. They dont even know you OR your kids! How do they know that your Baby doesnt hve any allergies or something??? Good onya!
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@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
Even if you know the person,the child could still have allergies that they don't know about.....a person should tend to their own children and let the parents o others do the same....JMO
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@puma_nz (1001)
• New Zealand
19 Feb 07
If I did know them, Then they would know about my kids allergies.. That doesnt bother me.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
19 Feb 07
OK, now that is just very nervy. That lady needs to learn about babies, allergies, and why its important not to feed someone Else's kids. Even if your baby could eat it. What makes her think its all right to give a baby something without asking the parents first. How does she know your baby isn't deathly allergic to caramel and could die from just a taste. I would have said a few more choice words to that person.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
She told me, my grandma always gave us tastes of things before we could eat them. Well thats your family not mine!
@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I would have done exactly what you guys done. Someone doing that just really makes me mad. I hope you knew the lady because if it would of been a stranger i would of knocked her head off lol.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
19 Feb 07
i would have to say the same thing you did. i have 3 kids and i have never had this problem thankfully. if some one i know asked we just tell them no.
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• United States
19 Feb 07
I hate it when people try to do that! (even though I don't have kids yet, I've spent enough time around family and such.) I think that it completly undermines the parents authority when they don't ask permission! I would have done the exact same thing, especially with her being only four months old. When I was at a family reunion one year, my aunt had her 6 month old baby girl with her, and they were both staying with us. Well, my grandmother was giving her sips of coca-cola from her drink, and that seemed fine. However, when we went to check on the food or something and came back, she had given her one of those bigger size bottles filled with coca cola!!! It was too late though, she had already drank it almost all gone. And guess what? That kid didn't sleep for three days straight!! That my friend, is why you nip those types of things in the bud, exactly like you did!
@dawgmart (74)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
i totally agree with you... what that waitress tried to do could have made an effect on your child (like preferring sweet food only) that you have to deal with in the long run, not her! and whats the deal with her trying to feed your baby? i mean she could have given it to you and have you given it to her, regardless of what the food was. i sure wouldn't let some person i dont know just come up and try to give something to my son, especially food!
@imadriscoll (2230)
• United States
19 Feb 07
First of all I think that you did the right thing and I just really wanted to comment on what your husband said. I think it sounds like the two of you have decided what you do and do not what your child to eat and you're on the same page. It's so good that he back you up, so that you were a united front. My husband's also very good at this ... I think that if your husband agrees with you, it's hard for other people to try to disagree with what you're doing.
• United States
19 Feb 07
I would do the same no one should do that to someone elses daughter.
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@nelltx (277)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Isn't that the most irritating thing! This happened when my kids were little also. My father was the world's worse at giving my kids things I didn't want them to have. I would try to say something, but I was "overruled." One day I was at a store & a lady wanted to give my daughter a sucker. I told her no that my daughter wasn't old enough for suckers (she was 8 months). The lady was so insistant! I kept telling her no thank you, finally I walked away. When I got out to my truck, my daughter had it in her hand! I just about came unglued! I assume that since I had my daughter in my arms, she had put it in her hand when I turned to walk away. I took the sucker from my daughter & went right back in to confront this woman. I let her know that my daughter was allergic to strawberries (the sucker was strawberry) and that she was in the process of being tested for diabetes. I wanted to really lay into her, but I just couldn't. I told her that parents say no for many reasons, not just to be mean & that she should respect what the parents say.
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@gsworld (35)
19 Feb 07
Yeah I think you did the right thing. The person should have at least asked you beforehand; I think it's nice to be offered food! But yeah, seriously, for a baby only 4 months of age, this is unacceptable.
19 Feb 07
4 months is much too young to be giving a child that kind of thing! You did the right thing covering her mouth up.. Best way to start her on the healthy things like veggies, get her used to them. Theres too many kids that will not touch veggies these days and opt out to eat junk! Start her off as she should go!! Lynn-Marie
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• Nigeria
19 Feb 07
I do not think that it is right that other people should feed your kids but it depends on the closeness of the two families and the interaction of the families for families that are close it is okay but not for far apart families..
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@shywolf (4520)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Wow.. it really was not right for her to try to feed your child without your permission. At lesat she shouldn't have pushed the issue once you'd said no, although it doesn't sound like she pushed it very far. I can understand now wanting to start your kids on sweet stuff. It's not good for them. I know. I had too much sugar when I was a young teen, and now I'm suffering for it terribly and can barely handle sugar at all. I'm most likely becoming diabetic, and I know that I ate loads and loads of sugar. So I'm glad that you are starting your kids on veggies!
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@meeias (193)
• India
19 Feb 07
I never allow anbody to feed my baby. If I am sure that they are such a good men then i allow it.
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@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
well i would have done the same thing you did and not let them feed my children with stuff i dont let them eat.
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