do you think all moms know best?

United States
February 19, 2007 12:38pm CST
i don't have a pretty relationship with my mom. she tends to be overprotective, strict and unreasonable. she thinks that everything she says/makes me do is the best for me. she pressures me with everything, and tries to force me to do stuffs that she wants. i dont think she knows the best, what about you guys?
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Moms usually do know best but can also sometimes think they know everything, which is not always true. Me and my mom have a great relationship, although she can be overprotective also I just tell her to let me do it then I'll tell you if I should've done what you said. I don't know the whole situation but it kind of seems that she wants you to do what she wanted to do and maybe never got the chance to. I think only you know whats best for you, if I were in your shoes I would just tell my mom to let me figure things out on my own, and then tell her wether she was right or wrong.
@kagandahan (1327)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
when i was single, i felt my mom was very protective of me.she won't allow me to go out sometimes,she would pressure me also to study even harder.but when it was time for me to have kids,i then realize the importance of what my mom have been doing to me all the time.she just wants me to be the best of what i can be.she wouldn't want me to get hurt.just listent to your mom and just tell her how you feel.you will just to meet halfway,compromise.
@lifeiseasy (2292)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I have the feeling that you and you Mom are having a little difficult time in seeing eye to eye and this happens all the time ...doesn't mean that you dislike your mom or she dislikes you ...A mom always wants the best fot their children and having already been there done that we just want to be able to past that on tho our kids so they won't make those mistakes... maybe try talking to your mom and expressing to her that not everything in your life has or will be like hersw and that she has raised you to be a responisble adult and to let you think things out for yourself...but you and her need to talk ...maybe she doesn;t realize how you feel and she needs to see that she is hurting you that way ...hopefully after you and her have talked you can become friends again....
• United States
20 Feb 07
Moms are human, so no ... I don't think "all" moms will "always" know best. But I think they do their best with what they have, and they generally mean well. Their methods aren't always the best though ;) as you seem to have figured out already!
• United States
21 Feb 07
Of course mom's don't always know best, they are after all human and humans all make mistakes. Your mother sounds kinda like mine actually. I think some of that is how mothers can naturally be. They want the best for you, wants to be in your life, etc.Although sometimes they just go about it the wrong way and are overbearing. Stand up for yourself, but also know when to pick your battles. If it's something trival, try to just bite your tongue. Maybe get her to attend events or participate in hobbies that YOU enjoy, so then she's still doing something with you, but it's actually something you want to do!
• India
23 Feb 07
Try building good relation with ur mother ... because mother's love is eternal , selfless .... no words to describe ... if u miss mother's love , u r missing something very imp in lufe. ..
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
19 Feb 07
As much as we want to deny this it almost always ends up that really do know what's best... Most of the times we want something and we never care to listen on what she has to say, sying that she's just overprotective or maybe she just doesn't want me to have fun or maybe she's just thinking negatively...But then probably 8 out of 10 circumstances, when we look and think back, we'd probably say, good thing I listened cause if not I'll probably be doomed for not listening to her advice... I don't know about your personal experience but as for me it does work that way... Sometimes we think we know a lot of things and are mature enough to make our decisions but mothers have gone through a lot more than we are aware of and they only try to advice for they have already been there and back... But I do not think ALL moms know best, but majority does.
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I'm only 31 but can tell you that my parents did what they could in my best interest. I know it is hard to see that now but in the furture you might. There are things they did that I sometime question or there are thing my wifes parents did that we both questions. But we cannot forget that out parents are human and make mistakes. I would suggesting making the best of things. This might sound harsh but your mom will not be around forever and you won't always be around her. Cherish the time you have now to spend with her. I hope things change for the best!
• United States
19 Feb 07
Moms do what they think is best but i agree they are not always the best. I am a mom of two grown children and I tried my best to be a good mom. Can't say that I was but sometimes they do say now that I am. Now my mom I could say otherwise cause she can be very abusive about things she says especially about religion. You will have to grin and bear sometimes and go on.