Should gay couples be allowed to adopt children?

Ireland
February 19, 2007 2:54pm CST
There is currently a debate in Ireland about this issue. In the media it is being argued they should and to be honest nobody is willing to go against this popular opinion even though i know that many people are against it as Ireland is a pretty conservative country. Personally , it doesnt bother me becuse they'd still have to go through a really stringent vetting process. What do you think?
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@rosie_123 (6117)
19 Feb 07
I have no problem with it all, as long as they are in a stable, loving and secure relationship. I am in England, and it is discussed a lot here too. There is no guarantee that any couple,(tsraight or gay) will stay together forever, so I don't see a problem, as long as stringent checks are carried out just as they are on any couple.
@mfrancq (1808)
• United States
20 Feb 07
You know, when it comes down to it..people are people, no matter what. Meaning, no matter their orientation they are still people capable of love and nuturing. However, being someone who grew up in a home with a gay mother and her partner..I must be honest with you and say that it was very difficult. This tends to be very confusing for a child because all their friends have mommy and daddy...and there you are with mommy and mommy. It makes no sense to a child. In my case I was also forced to lie to all my friends, could not have them spend the night..due to my mothers fear of them finding out, and spent my life with hardly any social activities. I was taught to lie and be withdrawn at such a young age, and it has effected me up into my adulthood. I am not saying this would always be the case. I am just saying, it is difficult for a child to comprehend and understand the situation.
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Why should a gay person choose to marry someone that they have zero attraction to. Why should a person choose to marry someone whom they can never be in love with. THis is a harmful position to hold. Gays cannot become straight, they can only fake it and faking it doesn't last forever. In the mean time, families are torn apart because of someone's desire to be what other people think they should be.
@HerbLady (10)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I don't mean to sound anal, but I don't think that gay's should be allowed to adopt children. God created the family with a man and woman for a reason. I think that this alternative relationship is going to have a psychological impact on any children in the relationship. Even though this country is supposed to be so accepting of different lifestyles and cultures, that is not the case in reality. These children will suffer at the hands of their friends as well as other insensitive adults. These children are going to be the rulers of the future and I think there are going to be severe repercussions for this alternative lifestyle. I have watched firsthand as my daughter, who has chosen this lifestyle, endeavors to raise a son and a daughter. I have never seen two more anxious kids that are worried that they will grow up to be gay. It is heartbreaking. So even though these couples may be well-rounded individuals and give the kids all of the love they can handle, I think in the long run our babies will suffer psychologically.
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Well, although you have aright to your opinion, I have a right to mine, and I have facts to back mine up, and not religious rhetoric and outdated psychological mumbo jumbo. First of all there have been countless studies that show no link to any harm coming to children raised in a homosexual household. Second of all, there is zero ties to growing up in a homosexual household and homosexuality. Thirdly, religion has no place in the law, so any talk of God creating family is foolish in this discussion, because not everyone believes that. Finally, it doesn't sound like you are overly supportive of your daughter, and I think that is a shame. I wonder if you have frequent talks with your grandchildren about the evil ways of their mother, please tell me I am wrong about this thought, perhaps despite your beliefs you endevour not to get involved and NEVER discuss your beliefs on the matter with your grandchildren.
• India
20 Feb 07
In my opinion gay couples should not be allowed to adopt children.There will be a lot of discrimination against the child and he may not get proper childhood.If they are allowed to do so,what if the child grows up and asks "Who is my mother"??
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Sorry but your reasoning is flawed, every adopted child will eventually ask "Who is my mother?" and every adoptive parent struggles with how to answer that. As for the discrimination issue, well you'd hold a child back from a loving home because of what people outside the loving home would do? That's worse then the discrimination they may face at being the child of homosexual parents.
• United States
20 Feb 07
No gay people should not be able to adapt children because its just wrong. it wouldn't look right to see to see two men walking around with a child
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
And why not? Sure you think homosexuality is wrong, but why are your views more important than others? Can you demonstrate how homosexual parents would harm the child? If not I think you have no case. You can't just say that a person can't do this because they belong to this group, that is discrimination without cause. If you can demonstrate that homosexual parents would harm a child in any way then yes you could be justified, but alls you are saying is that you think its wrong. You are not even giving a reason at all as to why its wrong.
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Gays are Men that have a heart of a woman ...They should be allowed to adopt a child..They are more caring in the real world..I know some gay people and they are very sweet to children..I believe they can equally care for a child just as well as a real parent. This people can never bear a child and they can never feel what a woman goes through in case of child birth but I know they would want to know and feel how it is to be a mother to a child they can call their own.
• Sweden
20 Feb 07
I agree with you. But the only problem is that the kids will get bullied in school for having Homosexuall parents. Then they will have problems later in life and so on. Otherwise I think Homosexuals should be allowed to adopt any child they want as long as they haven't done anything criminal or something bad. //Lelle
• Argentina
11 Mar 07
look..i'm lesbian :O and i'm not thinking about adopt a child ,maybe in future..but i think that , that have to be possible for us. We are people like u. And it like the single mothers who wants to have a baby.. why don't we can have one too? =)
@pendragon (3351)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I know plenty of straight couples who shouldnt be allowed to have the children they got the easy way.Honest loving couples ,who would make good parents, should be able to adopt, orientation notwithstanding.
@k1tten (2320)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I don't see why gay couples couldn't adopt. It is a safe home where the child will be loved. It doesn't matter if they have 2 mums or 2 da's.
• United States
20 Feb 07
I don't see why they shouldn't be allowed to adopt. Their are a lot of kids who need homes. And their are a lot of gay couples that want children. I think if someone is willing to take a child and love them and take care of them then it should not matter if they are gay or not. I don't think with so many children in the system with no homes and no parents we should be so picky when it comes to whether or not a couple is gay. A gay couple can love and care for a child just as well as any other couple.
• United States
20 Feb 07
I think they should absolutly have the right to adopt. Being gay does not mean they do not have the loving and nurturing it takes to be a parent...when I read about some of the people who have children and abuse them, neglect them and exploit them, rarely if ever is it by a gay parent...They require licences for driving, for hunting and fishing, and in some countries even to own a tv or radio, yet we allow people to have children without so much as a second thought....
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I think they should be allowed to adopt children as long as they have the capacity, integrity and if they are stable enough to take care of the children.
20 Feb 07
i dont see why gay couples couldnt adopt children...i mean if a couple are in love, and they will love the child it will make no differance
• India
20 Feb 07
why not aren't they human beings Can't they also have Parental feelings. So why do we be moral police for everything- we are humans and not god to decide life for others. Come on- we live in the 21 st century and still have age old inhibitions. Grow up
@dublinda (135)
20 Feb 07
Yes they should be allowed to adopt as at the end of the day, these children just need to be loved and brought up in a stable environment and I fail to see what someone's gender has to do with their ability to love and nurture a young child into adulthood. I do not think that Ireland is now as conservative as it once was, The people have moved with the times and are more open to change now then they ever were.
• Indonesia
20 Feb 07
I think no. It depends on necessary.
• Canada
20 Feb 07
I definitely think they should! I honestly don't see why there's all the fuss about Gay couples. They're still people and they should be afforded the same rights as everyone else. Unfortunately, religion has placed such a stigma against gays and lesbians and I really don't think it's right that they have to fight just for the right to get married, or to adopt children. Things like this are what straight couples take for granted, that they can marry if they like, or they can adopt a child if they like, yet if they hear about a gay couple doing that it's frowned upon. I personally think if a gay couple want to adopt a child, they should be able to. So many children need a home to call their own and a loving family to go to. Why is it so important that families have to be mom and dad??
@xParanoiax (6997)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Of course they should be allowed to adopt -_- in ANY country for that matter. It still annoys me here in the U.S. not all states let couples of different orientation adopt. I mean come on, people are people..in fact people who're gay seem to have an inclination to be NICER than people who aren't..that's just how it seems to me, anyway. I haven't yet met a someone who was gay and a jerk.. Besides, psycologists should be able to tell people that having gay parents doesn't harm children, it could make them more open and tolerant to people who'redifferent, but since when was that ever a bad thing? People are just paranoid about the subject. They're all silly about it.
@bindishah (2062)
• India
20 Feb 07
I dont see any reason as to why gay couples should not be able to adopt.There are single fathers and it has been seen numerous times that they can take care of kids as well as women. So if one man can take care of a child alone two men is definitely a good option.
• India
20 Feb 07
why not if that is how they choose to live their life then it is all good and well. just because it isn't their biological child doesn't mean they won't cherish hjeir son/daughter fo as long as they live.