Will you always answer the phone?

@nicolec (2673)
United States
February 20, 2007 3:59pm CST
Ok, so we've all had our moods where we really didn't feel like talking to anyone. We really just want peace and quiet. Now let's say the phone ring. If you have caller id, you might see that it's a friend/lover/realative or whatever. Do you answer the phone and talk like everything is ok? Do you answer the phone and politely explain that you really don't feel like talking right now? Or do you not answer the phone and perhaps call them back later offering some excuse as to why you didn't answer in the first place. I will usually not answer my phone. There are a few people (like my mother) that I will answer and let her know that I would like to call her back at a later time. What about you?
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@quispy (572)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Nope, don't answer it! I'm actually in one of those moods now, and I haven't answered the phone all day! Actually, I didn't even look at the caller id to see who it was. I don't care, leave me alone!
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I have those days. Actually one time I did that where I didn't answer the phone all day. I just didn't want to talk to the person. And they showed up on my door step. I was like what are you doing here? He showed up because he was concerned about me because I didn't answer the phone. It was a nice gesture, but I was still like 'go away!'
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@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
20 Feb 07
If I don't want to talk, I don't answer the phone. I figure that it is my phone, and I am not obligated to answer it to talk with anybody. I do get in moods when I don't want to talk, or that I see a certain person calling and am not in the mood for a lengthy call (you know how some people just talk and talk). I don't feel that I owe it to anybody to explain why I didn't answer or what I was or was not doing. I always answer for my Parents, but other than that it depends. I can't stand people who call my house, find the phone busy, then turn around and call the cell phone immediately; obviously if my line is busy, then I am already talking to somebody- this is pretty nervy if you ask me. I also get extremely irritated with people who call over and over again and leave messages or just hang up when the voice mail comes on. These people need to learn some phone etiquette and exercise a bit of patience.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I think we feel the same way. I can't stand those that call the house phone and when I don't answer turn around and call my cell and then try the house phone again. How many times are you going to call before you get the hint. I'm busy.
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@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Well generally I answer and let them know I just am not in the mood, but there are a few people who just don't know when to quite that I refuse to talk to when I am not in the mood. There is this one friend, who is a nice guy and all, but he has to be the most annoying person in the world at the same time, he just goes on and on about the most inapropriate topics regardless of what I say to the contrary I do not need to know what he did with his privates last night, and I do not need to know about it when I am in a pissy mood to begin with LOL.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I have those kinds of friends to. Well, maybe not go on about what they did with their privates last night. But go and on. And it takes them like 10 years to get out one sentance. I just can't handle that some times.
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@TerryZ (22082)
• United States
20 Feb 07
If I dont feel like it I wont answer it. And sometimes you have the annyoying people who dont give they ring and ring I mean what are they thinking? They are just nervy people.
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Yah, I know what you mean about the people who just ring and ring. Leave a message, I'll get back to ya.
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@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
21 Feb 07
honestly, there are calls that i really don't answer especially when i know the number and the one calling is someone i really don't like talking to. even if they text me telling me it's them, i still won't answer the phone. there are times when i don't even text back. but when my parents, siblings and my boyfriend call, i always answer the phone. and when i feel bad or sick, i tell them that i am. i do stay online with them until the talk is through even if i am feeling bad. when my friends give me a ring and i am not in the mood, i answer the phone and tell them that i'll just tell them to call me later.
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@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
If my phone rang and i was not in the mood, i stil answer the phone and not let the caller knew that I am not in the mood. First and formost, I don't want them to feel that I am embarrassed or something. I just answer the phone as polite as posibble.
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@cabergren (1181)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I have caller id and an answering machine, so if it is important they can leave me a message. If I don't feel like talking I just don't pick up the phone. They just figure that I am out.
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• Canada
21 Feb 07
I will answer it if most of time. If i have company over or peopel are visiting i will let the answering machine if it emergencey ther is the cell phone which i will answer in another room
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@wynna1 (1291)
20 Feb 07
if i dont feel like talking to somebody i dont usually answer the phone. answering the phone when you are not in the mood for talking may sound to the caller that you're bored and might interpret it differently. Its better just to leave it ringing and if it is important then they will leave a message for that. If feeling better then you can always give them a ring back.
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@sripriya (450)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Well !Even I'll not answer the phone!I feel it is better not to speak to people in agitated mood!YOu can never pick up the words once you have spit it out!Time is the best healer for all worse situations!I would answer the person who had called when I calm down and explain my situation to him .
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
21 Feb 07
if i am not in the mood to answer the phone i will not answer, just if it's one of the family members there was a moment in my life that i noticed that the phone "took over" my life i was working 10 hours a day at a cellular company and when i left the work day i kept on talkin' at the cell phone (the phone was given to me by the company and the calls were free..so it is an easy temptation) and when i got home i checked my answering mechine and returned calls..so you understand the situation was a little bit crazy.. so at one point at my life i noticed the phone has taken control..it's like an addiction so i decided to change all that when i need some time to my sef if i am not at the mood i will not pick up the phone, afterwards when it is more convinient for me i will call back ome of the people that called me and not use an nexcuse, i will let them know that i was home but did not fell like picking up the phone..most of the people i know will understand..and i know i don't have to make false excuses..i prefer to state the situation i was at and to go on..phone can be an addiction don't you think so?
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
It's certainly not an addiction for me, but I have noticed that for some people. There phones are constantly ringing and they are always talking. So I've seen it before. I think especially for people who are in business.
• United States
21 Feb 07
If I am feeling like I just don't want to talk with anyone then I seem to ignore the phone. I will always look to see who it is as my mother is older and I never know. If it is her calling I will take the call and make sure that everything is ok but then I explain to her that I need to call her back. I figure that anyone else can just leave a message if it is important. I have learned to check the messages right away though as I did this last year and my daughters school had called, I did not check the message for two hours as I was trying to get in a nap. When I did check the message they were calling to tell me that there had been a broken pipe at the school and had to close for the day. My daughter had been sitting in the office the whole time as they could not get ahold of anyone.
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Yeesh. Poor daugther. I guess lessoned learned there!
• France
21 Feb 07
I have the perfect solution. If I do not want to talk to people, I put the answering machine on and leave an appropriate message. Like sometimes things like "This is a machine, the real person that lives here doesn't want to talk to anyone". I change it with my moods. "This is the fridge talking. The answering machine is on strike" Works for me.
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Ha! Those are great. My current message says "i'm lost, if you know where I am, leave a message"
• United States
21 Feb 07
It usually depends on the mood and who's calling. Sometimes I answer it and vent about my problems to certain frends. And then there are the other times when I pick it up and drop it right back on the receiver so that I don't have to hear the phone ring but although that's rare it happens. LOL! But if it's my mom or dad I'm totally answering it because they give excellent advice and they cheer me up.
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
You pick up the receiver and then just drop it back down without saying anything? Essentially you just hang up on them? Wow, I'm not sure I could do that. No even to a telemarketer.
@kortni (26)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
I guess i have that mood 24/7. I LOATH the phone. I try and avoid it at all times possible. Unless it's my brother, or my fiance. If i had caller ID, i would probably ignore the phone, and change my message machine to something like "i am in a bad mood, call back later" Unfortunately i don't have caller ID, so when i DO take the plunge and answer the phone, i am taking chances with who is on the other line. Booourns :(
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I like that "i am in a bad mood, call back later". I had a friend who's voicemail message was "i've locked the good (name here) away in the closet, the is the bad (name). So beware if you leave a message"
21 Feb 07
The only time I dont answer it is if it is someone that is withholding thier number! I likne to know who my callers are before answering the phone. Just that there are too many people these days withholding thier number and they are ususally people trying to sell you what you dont want in the first place! I mean how do they get your number in the first place, especially when you are ex-directory. If I am in a mood (Usually if I am tired) I dont really want to talk to anyone I unplug the phone from the wall, then plug it back in when I am ready, that way I just simply dont hear it lol Lynn-Marie
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I like that, unplugging the phone. That way you don't have to worry about whether or not to answer it. And you can honestly tell the person that you didn't hear the phone ring.
• India
21 Feb 07
some times i feel like why any one is calling me but then something i feel that i ll be happy without any phone .recently i was sleeping,at the peak of sleep suddenly the cell starts ringing and i was disturbed ...more becos it was from the office
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Yeah that bothers me to when some one calls when I am sleeping. But it's not their fault, they didn't know. And I need to learn to turn my phone off. But i still get cranky when woken.
• United States
21 Feb 07
For me, it all depends on who is calling. i have caller ID on my cell phone and if i am i a mood, there are only certain people i will pick the phone up for.
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@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
21 Feb 07
that's me, too! it all depends on who is calling and depends on my mood as well. but when it comes to calls from people i love most, i do answer them and sometimes even pretend that i am doing okey.
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• Canada
21 Feb 07
I hate the phone. It's my worst enemy, and if I could shoot it, I would. LOL. I really don't like talking on the phone. there are a couple of people I will talk to, those being my mom, my Dad, and my partner. I always know what time to expect them calling me, so if the phone rings at any other time, I leave it ringing. My friends know that if they need to get in touch with me they'll find me on MSN Instant Messenger or they can email me and they know I'll get it within the hour. I'm not sure WHY I don't like talking on the phone to be honest. I guess to me it just seems a little weird to be listening to someone's voice and not being able to see their face. Yes, you can call me weird any time now lol.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I think there are a lot of people like you. They just don't like sitting there and talking on the phone. It seems to me to be more of a man thing than a woman thing.
@carolscash (9497)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I do have caller id and there are several times that I don't answer the phone. If I don't feel like talking then I don't answer and I never make excuses for not answering unless I have a reason for not answering other than I just don't want to. I feel like we are entitled to our privacy and if that means not talking when someone calls, then I say so be it.
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