If my daughter doesn't have surgery by the time she is 8 she will not live

United States
February 20, 2007 7:33pm CST
The doctors said she will die by the time she is ten if she does not have open heart surgery... She was born with this condition and they just now found it... I have been beating myself up, asking myself where did I go wrong... What did I do??
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@Meg109 (95)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Oh wow, I'm sorry to hear that. How old is your daughter? Also, don't beat yourself up, it isn't you fault at all, and try your best not to worry, as hard as it may be. Personally, I would do the surgery as soon as you feel comfortable and as soon as she does. Try to talk to the doctors and surgeons to feel more comfortable. Good luck. :)
• United States
21 Feb 07
she is only 4
@Meg109 (95)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Yes, I would definiately recommend waiting, if thats what you want. Good luck with everything.
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@spr1967 (208)
21 Feb 07
You should have the surgery done..if it was my kid i wouldnt give it a second thought Good luck
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• United States
21 Feb 07
They don't want to do it right now. That makes it hard on me, because I have to watch her while she is playing. She could get over exausted and just fall over... What if I don't see it? I have an upstairs and a downstairs...
@sensesfail (2251)
• India
21 Feb 07
I'm really sad to hear that.I suggest that you get the surgery done by all means.A child's health is definitely important.
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• United States
25 Feb 07
She will be having the surgery done by some of the best doctors in Chicago... It has something to do with one of her arteries not giving enough oxygen to her lungs... I don't really understand it myself... I have a paper to explain it to me, but I can't understand it either
@quatelmon (955)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I would get the surgery as soon as you can. Sometimes these conditions don't present themselves unless something else is wrong. Doctors can't see everything and don't look for everything, so don't blame them. And definitely do not blame yourself! You did not do anything wrong. The best thing you can do is get her the surgery, and be there for her recovery. Good luck, and I hope everything turns out well.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
The day before I found out I was prgnant I went to a bar, I din't get drunk, but still. I had no clue I was even pregnant... I stopped smoking as soon as I found out, cold Turkey... I wish I never drank
@shekharj (296)
• India
21 Feb 07
hey, better u follow the doctor's advice. don't worry! everything will be alright. god is with you and your child. all the best
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@tad1fan (3373)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
First of all Make,what id=s the condition?There are so many out there that can go without but some have to be done.....please explain your little girls condition more...
@xeron0719 (812)
• Hong Kong
21 Feb 07
I think that it is a must for your daughter to do this surgery, if noy, you little daughter may die! Stop asking yourself why, take the action!
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@gunnchri (57)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
yes
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