i dont know where i stand with him... should i keep hanging on????

Philippines
February 20, 2007 9:40pm CST
i have this guy friend and w've been communicating for almost 8months now... (thru phone) w've known each other coz his a good friend of my sister. we enjoy each other's company even though thru "txt"his always checking me and asking me how i was doing everyday w're like boyfriend and girlfriend but........ W'RE NOT! there was like no formality, & i dont even know if he feels the same way i do for him, im afraid to ask him how he feels towards me coz he might reject me & avoid me which i dont wanna happen coz i've fallen too deep... what should i do?????
6 responses
• United States
21 Feb 07
It's best to ask him now, before you fall any further. If you guys are talking everyday, chances are he wants more from you too. In the event that he doesn't want more, but only wants to remain friends, don't look at it as a rejection. Instead look at it as a step forward, for then you may seek other avenues of intimacy.
@cherhost (1072)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Ok so you have only talked to him by phone? THat is what it sounds like. But if that is the case just ask him. You never know if you dont take risks. If he does not feel the same for you then hey you got yourself a great friend. If he likes you he would not contact you everyday. Good luck hon!
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• Canada
25 Mar 07
You need to find out!! If you want the answer, you have to ask the question. You really can't stay tied to a dream all of your life. If he's not what you expect, you need to move on.
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
i definitely agree with all the previous response. you ahve to find a way to ask him.. what would you choose, get hurt if he dont feel like you do? or regret it for the rest of your like? remember i been there pare! and i may say that until now i still have that little remorese or regret of not confronting the situation. and to tell you honestly and truthfully.. it really really really hurt me so bad even more worse.
@trinihd (996)
• United States
13 Mar 07
It's past February 14 or I would suggest you send him a Valentine card! But all the previous responses are on target. You must ask him, either in person or by text (if you think you may chicken out in person) and trust that yout friendship can survive whatever will happen after you reveal how you really feel. Trust me, it is better to do it now and get it over with than to keep waiting. Some men are too shy to make the first move, and they really hope that you will. Even if that is not the case, it is obvious that you want something more and the only way you can get it, is by taking the relationship a step further and you cannot do that if you don't take the risk to ask for what you want. I know I wish I had done that 5 years ago, instead I am still waiting, and my fear is not less, but greater now. So don't wait too long to find the right moment, or you may end up with regrets.
• United States
21 Feb 07
Ask your sister ? They are friends right. It's not easy getting involved in a phone/text relationship. I'd ask your sister, or just ask him. If he does what you say he's doing he most likely likes you.