how to deal an unromantic husband??

I feel for you, because my husband is totally unromantic too. I have also made little suggestions to him and this past Valentines Day he asked me if I wanted him to get me some chocolates and I told him I wish he would just do stuff without asking me so that it would be a surprise. I think that some men just don't get it! it's like they need to have a how to be romantic class or something. lol.

My husband is the world's least romantic person. One year I bought him a ballon bouquet for Valentine's Day, hoping he would get some ideas. He came home and said" Oh I see you bought yourself a Valentine's present." See he realized it was V-Day, just didn't bother to get me anything. I could not believe that 1. He didn't even think to stop at a gas station and get me a card or flowers. I mean you just can't avoid Valentines presents, they are EVERYWHERE. and 2. He thought it was ok for me to have to buy myself a Valentine's present. When I told him they were for him, he gave them to the cats to play with! So I got pretty mad. My birhtday is 4 days later. He told me if I wanted to avoid this scenerio again I better tell him what I wanted for my birthday. When I did, he told me he couldn't remember such "useless data". I was so mad I didn't talk to him for days..... But the next year he remembered and made a very big deal out of Valentine's Day and my birthday. You just have to get through to him how important it is to you. Some men don't understand the emotional side to gifts. My husband always used to say " just go buy yourself something" which wasn't the point at all.

This is a pretty difficult one. I don't think men are naturally romantic, i think most of them are pressured into it. Have you tried telling him how you feel? Straight out? Explain to him that being romantic is a way of showing how much you love someone and his unwillingness to do so is making you feel a little undervalued? I think that's pretty much all you can do.

Unfortunately, we really have to spell it out for the men in our lives - and I mean literally, spell it out - like by leaving a note that says "buy me flowers for my birthday". My sister-in-law was amazed when I bought my own b-day gift last year. I told her it was the best way to ensure that I got exactly what I wanted. Maybe as women we could redefine our definition of romance. To me, one of the most romantic things my husband does is run a bubble bath for me. He ALWAYS gets the water just right, almost too hot to get into, the bubbles are just right, etc. He also ALWAYS makes the bed in the morning. I find the little things the most romantic. I never want flowers, and think that they are just a waste of money because they just die a few days later - get me something practicle that will last - or better yet, money is always good! But, if you really go for flowers, chocolate etc., and the traditional definition of "romantic" - I think the best way to avoid heartache and disappointment is to really let them know what you want and what you expect. They truly don't get it and don't remember how much you gushed over the flowers last year or the many ways in which you showed them how much you appreciated the box of your favourite chocolates or the bottle of expensive perfume. They have to be reminded every year for every occasion. - Maybe that's the best gift we can give to our selves on those occasions, reminding our men what to get us!