Help! I need your advice! All Breadwinners in the Family!

Hi! I experienced being the breadwinner of the family for three years (I'm the oldest), until my younger sister (the second one) finally got a job, too, so she helped me out. My (step)father was overseas at the time and he wasn't sending money. My parents were having marital troubles at the time, so I stopped medical schooling and became the one being depended on for basic needs. My mom would do some occasional business on the side but wasn't stable enough to pay the bills. I think I just got lucky when my father came back and I was able to finally think about my own future. If I were in your shoes, I will try to talk to all my family members and discuss the possibility of lessening the burden on me. A support system would be good because they have to realize that you also have dreams and goals to achieve for yourself. They have to realize that you also need a life, and you have already sacrificed a lot. I'm not suggesting that you turn your back on them, but try to sit down together and discuss the possibility of helping one another improve the family's finances so that you can also achieve your goals. You're a breadwinner, you have the capacity, so you can still go further. Don't limit your capacities. Just my opinion. Happy myLotting!

I understand exactly how you feel. I'm a breedwinner, too. So the responsibility also lies on my shoulder. Fortunately, for me, my father has a job so they don't depend on me for all their needs. All I do is support them. However, I have to support my younger siblings in college. This is quite hard for me because I am married and already have a baby. Besides, my salary is not enough to support both of them and my baby. So I'm really having a hard time. I almost couldn't even buy something for myself. It is hard, I know, that you have to work for your whole family. Maybe you could talk to them and let them understand that you have to get a life for yourself . You need to save for your future, too. Besides, you won't be there for them forever so they, too, should work for themselves and not rely on you fully for financial support.

Maybe when I could also have my own job,I could better understand you or I could behave the way you do. My parents frequently told me that I am the only hope of our poor family since I am better in intellectual capacity compared to my other siblings. I'm not the eldest(I'm the second child), but it seems that I have a very herculean task ahead of me. Right now, I am very much dedicated to really help my family and rescue them from poverty. But then, there will always come a time in my life where I'm tired and I'd realize I also needed time for my self. In your case, I understand you since being in your situation is never easy. I think you just have to understand your family if they're so dependent on you. Whenever you get annoyed by their relentless demands, just think back of those long years when you were still depending on them for everything that you need from financial,social,emotional needs,etc. and they cater to each need of yours. It will never be that easy but still I consider you a lucky person because of everything you have and everything you've proven for your self and your family. So, don't fret and live life to the fullest. Have time for your self and enjoy your youth. Keep smiling and stop knitting your brows as it could only worsen the matter.