Frustration!!!.....
By Gwapako_28
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
Philippines
February 21, 2007 7:25pm CST
Did you ever feel this way? I wasnt able to pause my tears after i find out that my xhusband dont have a job until now!He left us to pursue another course in other city and keep telling that he is doing it for our kids better future. Then he already pass the board exam last December and until now, he is not finding any job? He had a LOT of reasons why! He is too irresponsible for the needs of his kids! Its almost 4 years that he abandoned us! Its too much frustration that he caused me!
What is the best thing to do and feel to ease my pain!???
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6 responses
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
I know prayer is powerful.But i am afraid that God wont allow what i want and it will just give me more frustration and dissappointments.What i am trying to do now is to accept the reality and working hard for our needs!"THY WILL BE DONE"...Maybe God is preparing something which is more best and worthy for me soon!
@lonewolfnan (4366)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
For the last 4 years,you say you have been raising your family without his help?He has made no emotional/financial support to you and the kids?He has not been working and is irresponsible?So,now after four long years of you being the bread winner and parent,you want some outsider to make a decision you already know has to be made??
Four years ago,you basically got an unwritten divorce from your ex.You have worked hard to support him and your family.I do not know what your stand is on an actual divorce(religious or personal),but I still ask why you would want to keep this person in your life??It can't be for the kids that he does not see/support.It can't be because you still love him after all these years of torture.Is it because of fear?Loneliness?pride??
Whatevere you decide to do,please do it in the best interest of yourself and your kids.After all this time,I think he has shown you what his interests are all about.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
You are definitely right!Maybe because i still love him after all this years! I keep the faith and hopes for the two of us! We are married in a Catholic church and our culture here in the Philippines is to value marriage! I guess,the relegious orientation and cultural patterns contributes a lot of the decisions i have now!Am i stupid to keep hoping for the sake of our children? To have a complete family?
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
Maybe its time for you to make the moved for your children. If he could not provide well for the kids then there's no other option but for you to move. I hope you have a jobe to provide for your kids. Do not depend on him as you've said its bee sometime and he is not capable of providing you. Enough of hoping that he will soon. Your ex-husband will just do that sonn hopefully but don't wait for it anymore. Easing the pain is just to let things go and not hope for it to come. I guess the pain would just go if you stop thinking what causes that pain which is frustration. Stop frustrating and face the world without him around.
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@Lush_heidi (994)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I am so sorry you have gone thru this, concentrate on your kids and maybe a new hobby or job, meet some new friends and people near you who can encourage you and be there when you need to talk. Make sure the x pays child support for you to take care of the kids. You've really gone thru a rough time and I believe things will get better for you! Hang in there! **hugs**
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
Im sure, everything will get soon! as long as my kids are with me, i will be fine! God is godd and He is a good provider!I have a job anyways and i am earning units for education so i can have a part time job in the night thru teaching after my office!I hope i wont get sick!Lol!I need to be a super woman!
@m0thakap0p (105)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
Try thinking of nicer things, like ummmm try taking a nice hot bath or something to relax you every once and a while. Dont worry every thing will get better soon.
Your freind,
M0thakap0p
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@driver_erning (98)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
One thing you should do is not to put your hopes up or expect anything from your exhusband. If he gives you money for your children then thank him but if he doesn't, that would not be okey but then just keep in mind that you can support your children on your own because you love them enough that you did not abandon them.
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