Who should be embarrassed?
By WeenitsMom
@WeenitsMom (492)
United States
February 21, 2007 9:29pm CST
I'm fat. I admit it. I don't like it, but right now, there isn't really much I can do about it. NOw, that said, I have a thought. I use to work with the Develpomentally Disabled, residentially. One of the tasks I neede to perform was to to the weekly grocery shopping for them and once, while I was shopping, a woman came past me and while I was turned away getting something from the freezer, she removed all the treats from my shopping cart and then she tells me, "Honey, you really shouldn't be eating like this. I'll just return these items for you." I was stunned that someone would be so rude! So here's my question -- do you think I should have said something to her? Should I have been embarrassed? Should she? What's with that? Even if it HAD been my groceries, don't I still have the right to eat what I want to?
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
I just can't believe how anyone could have that much nerve. Without a doubt it's good for her she did that to you and not me because she'd have been told to keep her fingers off my groceries. Have you ever seen a mouth big enough to hold two sets of lips well that would have been me my friend. Embarrassed NO you shouldn't have had to be embarrassed. I'm like you, I'm fat, I admitt it, I don't like it either but my medical problems and what I eat is my bussiness as it is yours in this case. Don't let people walk all over you like that. You might be fat but you're still good stuff. How would she like it if you approached her and said oh here is some cookies, icecream and a couple pies, you need to eat ? NOT !!!
@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
22 Feb 07
That's actually rally funny! Thanks. I was just so shocked that I just stood there and looked at her with my mouth open. I'm sure I looked like a complete idiot. After that, I was (and am) so very self-concious of what I have in my cart.
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@dragonstar13 (1465)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I think it was exceptionally rude. I would have told her to put everything back and then given her a lecture on touching other people's food with her filthy hands and how that can spread germs and diseases. Then I would have walked away leaving the shopping cart full of food and complained to the manager that I didn't want the food a stranger had touched. What a cow!! Why do people feel it is ok to talk down to overweight people and why do they always assume it is because we are pigs when it comes to food.
Sorry for the ranting, but you touched on a really sore subject with me.
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Ranting is acceptable. It's a sore spot for me, too. I would have thought that she would have seen the other things in my cart and even if she didn't figure it out she should have seen that the vast majority of the food was very healthy. I don't know. Maybe she really thought she was helping, but it certainly seemed odd to me.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
22 Feb 07
lol, this is really funny, you should have just said "yes mom, then what should I eat". Its really funny something called weight policing. I would have started really laughing at her face. what a nerve-may be she was a dietician or something who took her work really really seriously.
@RogerTheRabbit (1271)
• Portugal
22 Feb 07
Now that the situation is over it's kind funny, but in the heat of the act I don't think it would be so funny.
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@littlepurfly (10)
• United States
23 Feb 07
well, I would just tell her, please put them bak, thanks for your caring, but those food are not for myself.
People just like to assume about something that they think it would be. not only in your sitution.
My husband and I are having a hard time because he lose his job since last June, and I am applying for my green card so that I cant work just ywt. and people just assumed that we are lazy and dont plan on how to spend our money etc. We spend our money very carefully if not, we would have survive that long. yes, wo do need some helo, but the thing is it is not not because we are lazy so we dont have enough money, it is only because we are just married, (and mt husband lose his job 2 weeks before our wedding)........
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
23 Feb 07
People tend to make a lot of assumptions. But you know what they say about asuuming things...
I'm sorry that you are have a difficult time financially but I really do believe that things will start to look up for you soon. Good luck!
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@lovesfreedom (1245)
• United States
22 Feb 07
That was completely ourageous and totally uncalled for. We seem to live in a world of intolerance don't we? This woman needs to look in the mirror, a good long look and try to imagine had she been in your place. Before I lost weight, I was 230 lbs at 4'11" and the cruelty of people astounded me. It is true, some seemed to be saying I did not have the same rights as they did to eat in the same restaurant. I had some young men follow me in the mall making oinking sounds and calling me the other white meat. While it may have been funny to them, it was devastating to me. What if I had been in a depressed state? What would that have done?
You have every right to be upset and angry about this. Always know you are beautiful.
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Thank you. I wouldn't say I was beautiful but I don't drink out of the toilet either. Thanks for your support!
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@lovemydsdominik (282)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I think that it was rude of her to do that- you are in charge of what you eat, if you decide to eat two boxes of krispy kremes or a salad is your own damn business, definitely not some strangers in the market. I would never take something out of someones cart!Sorry you had to deal with such a rude person!
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I appreciate that, thank you. I just can't fathom what she was thinking.
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@disvachic (10117)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Darn she was bold and really rude.What in da world, she didnt even know what type of person you could have been and just snapped on her tail.I dont think you should have been embarassed.She would have been embarassed because i would have told her off because one, she had no business removing items in your cart.Maybe she didnt mean any harm but still some things you just dont do.She didnt know you from jack.Like you said if they were your groceries AND? THATS YOUR MONEY who is she to tell you something you probably already know?
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
22 Feb 07
She really had nerve. I would have told her to mind her own business. There is no way you should have been embarrassed. That was horrible for her to say.
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@mikeyr6000le (2123)
• United States
22 Feb 07
There are so many ways to respond to this so i will try and keep it to the best ones. Actually first, did she actually take the items out of your cart? If so i would have just followed her and when she put them back I would have gotten them again. If she tried it again you could have said. Thanks for help but I know what I'm doing, do you?
You could have found soemthing about her, like her clothes or hair or makeup. Then you could have said here let me help you, this looks terriable on you, I'm just trying to help you.
I'm a larger person and I always have that fear too. I know I buy stuff I shouldn't but the heck with it, it's my money and my life. This woman was so far out of line she wasn't even in the same country as you.
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I did think that I heard a spaceship landing in the parking lot that day... LoL
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I don't care if it was your food or for someone else that woman was wrong. She should have been the one embarassed to act like that. Why is it so many people think they have the right to stick their noses into other people's business? Who made them God and made them so perfect that they think they can tell others what to do? If it had been me I would have chewed her up one side and down the other and then I would really lay into her. Some people need to learn that not everything in this world is their business.
You had nothing to be embarassed about. I don't care if you are the size of two semi-trucks put together or if you are the size of a pencil. You have the right to buy what you want. She had no right to act in such a manner and is obviously in need of some help.
@sabertooth (19)
• India
22 Feb 07
thts true.if a person is consuming junk which is indeed not good for him,its his damn responsibility!its none of the business of the other people to act in such a rude manner.and i feel tht u really shud have reacted to her behaviour.
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@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
24 Feb 07
That's just plain rude and uncalled for. Geez what did she think..she was the Fat Police. How ballsy of someone to do such a thing. Even if it was for you and she knew you it would be rude. I probably would have just stood there in amazement myself. But after regaining my senses I would hunt that Biatch down and give her a piece of my
Fat Mind. Grrrrrr that kind of stuff really gets me going.
@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Oh, that was good but you should have gone one step further. I would have then turned and pretended I just noticed her and said "oh look here's the woman now"..lol Some people are just idiots that's all there is to it.
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I agree, but, sadly, the's jusat no cure for stupid.
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I really wanted to, but then I thought that puts me on her level. What I did instead wasa to wait till she was headed for the checkout and I managed to get in line just before she did. The checker recognized me and said, "Shopping by yourself this week, huh?" And then I said, "Yes, I might have been out of here sooner but some crazy person started taking their treats out my cart! Can you believe that?" I don't know what she did, because I didn't even look back at her.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
I find it rude and it's not your problem that other people have problems with your weight. There is nothing to be embarassed about it. Being fat is not a sexually transmitted disease that you have to be ashamed of nor is it a crime. Some people may express some concerns but not that forward and i find it bad manners without even asking that if they're really yours and even if it's yours, she should not have taken them from your shopping cart. As long as your happy about your life and is taking good care of yourself to stay healthy, then there is not much to worry about.
@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
24 Feb 07
You are most welcome. Thank you for your comment!
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@chasserdesreves (142)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
You really can't avoid rude people in this world but you should've told the person something. I mean who he/she thinks he/she is right? You have every right to eat whatever you want to eat, besides you're paying for it and you want it.
I'm kinda gaining weight also and even if a lot of people are telling me I'm FAT, it hurts but the doctor said my body is fine.
I'm asthmatic so the medicine has something to do with me gaining weight.
@mom2chriskel (1060)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Uggh...she deserved to have a few words said to her. That was uncalled for. I think I would have taken them all back from her and told her to mind her own dang business and then walk up to the customer service desk and tell them you have a customer who is being rude and taking all the stuff out of your cart. They don't care what is in your cart, they just want your money...lol
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@earnwhilelearn (269)
• India
22 Feb 07
you are fat that does not means you should get embarrassed. you have the right to say anything to anyone. of course you should take care that whatever you say should not hurt the other person however it should make the other person understand that what he is doing is also not absolutely correct. so you should explain the other person in a polite manner if next time you encounter such a situation.
@aristotle517 (14)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
that lady is really rude! she was not bestowed any right to regulate the kind of foods you want to eat. in the first place, you're not concerned with her so she should not have minded you. just enjoy life no matter what situation you're into.
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@SolanumThur (170)
• Brazil
22 Feb 07
Well, i think even if you are fat or something like, you can go shop and buy what you want, no one has the rights to just come and say 'HEY I DONT WANT YOU TO EAT THAT SO I WILL GET ALL YOUR THINGS OFF THE CART'.... I think you should've just told a lesson to her since in that situation you would make her feel embarrassed since it's not her business... I think no matter how Fat or anything you are, you can do what you want about what you eat... If you really need help you can look for an nutricionist, not someone who come and get all your things off the cart. :), I think she was very rude.
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@xneuroticangelx (59)
• United States
22 Feb 07
She seems like the kind of person that isn't aware of herself, so she deserves to be told. I would turn around and say to "Excuse me mam, I apreciate the concern but you are being very rude to just grab things out of my cart. I'll eat what I want to eat. You shouldn't be forcing your opinions or advice where it wasn't asked for".
Or something along those lines... You shouuld not have been emberessed, she should have been, because everybody else that saw it happen was probably thinking, "Wow...I'd hate to be married to her!"
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