How to teach patience to a toddler?

@wmaharper (2316)
United States
February 22, 2007 9:08am CST
I have been trying to teach my two year old not to interrupt me while I'm talking. (yes, I know, easier said than done). He isn't doing so great with it. I wondered if anyone else has any ideas on teaching them to wait until you can give them attention?
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• United States
22 Feb 07
I have taught my girls that when they need to speak to me and I am already talking they need to put their hand on my arm. Then I will put my hand on theirs to show them I understand they need something. Then as soon as I can get a break in my conversation I address their need. HTH!
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
22 Feb 07
That's a good idea. I had read something similiar, but didn't know how effective it would be. I'll definently give it a try! Thanks!
• United States
23 Feb 07
It has been a process to teach them and they still slip sometimes, but mostly I think it works well. Consistancy is the key.
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@CRiley27 (984)
• United States
22 Feb 07
My kids are now pretty good with their manners. They both say excuse me when someone is talking. If they are rude, and just remind them to say excuse me. Now it was not all that simple, just keep teaching them, they will learn it after time. Now, when I am on the phone, they feel it's their God given right to act like animals, so I am still working on that one. LOL
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• United States
22 Feb 07
lol my mom always says that children are born with an instinct to act out when the parents are on the phone! she said me and my brother did it when we were little.. and now im watching it with my son as well! best of luck with that!
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@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
you have to be patient with the toddler first. if you want him to learn, let him see you as a godd example.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
20 Mar 07
yes, great advice, thanks!
• United States
24 Feb 07
Just like with everything else in life teaching your kid to remember phone manners, be it inturrupting a conversation or on the phone themselves, practice makes perfect. You just have to remember that you will have to remind them several times and also make sure that when he does say "excuse me" that you acknowledge him so he is aware that you know he is waiting on you. Everytime he uses his manners affirm his good behavoir. I tell my children "thank you for saying excuse me and waiting for me to respond, what do you need." This way they have been praised for what they did and knowing they are doing it right and that you are proud of them reinforces good manners. Good Luck.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Thank you, those are all great points. Thanks for responding!
@AskAlly (3627)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
Patience teaches patience. I had 5 boys clamouring for my attention all at the same time some days. Gentle reminders and putting them on "ignore" (for lack of a better word) seemed to work. But repetition is key. It is a learned thing. Don't get frustrated, just be calm and remind gently to wait untill mommy is done. Then give your undivided attention.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Thanks for the advice Ally! (:
@debbrion (22)
• United States
22 Feb 07
All I did was tell my son to say excuse me. I think it's harder for them to just wait, so if they are polite about it, then it's okay. I have to stop what I'm doing and answer him or he'll keep interrupting, but I'd rather him learn the "excuse me" at this point and work on timing when he's a little older and understands it a bit more. Good luck!
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I have taught him excuse me and he uses it when he burps (something his daddy taught him was funny *sigh*). I'll definently incorporate it in this aspect of his life as well. Thanks for the input!
• United States
22 Feb 07
well im having the same problem with my son! it can be so frustrating! what i do with him is let him know that he needs to stop interrupting people while they are talking as well as talk to him about patience. i think he just doesnt understand the whole concept yet, which may also be the problem with your son. when i was little i had no patience either. and im sure it drove my parents insane, as i didnt learn patience until i was in my late teens! my suggestion to you is to just keep letting him know that he needs to wait until you are finished speaking with whomever before he can talk and just hope he 'gets it' sooner or later! best of luck to you!
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Yes, patience is a difficult virtue to learn, but important nonetheless. I know it's hard for him to grasp sometimes, but he's doing better than he was, which is all I can ask for really. Thanks for the response!
• Spain
22 Feb 07
i feel 2 yrs is bit too early to teach them all this.They r so young and naive that they r just unable to understant that why mummy cannot listen to them. Give him atlest 1 or maybe 2 more years
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I don't know that it is or not. He seems able to Listen at times, and then unwilling to do so at others. I do agree that he problably isn't able to be compliant 100 percent of the time, as he is still only 2 (actually 2 1/2) and lacks the self-control needed to do so. But, I would like to start teaching him about it, so It's not a rule imposed all of a sudden when he is older.
• United States
22 Feb 07
I am having the same problem with my 2 year old and my 4 year old so I will be checking back to see if you get any good Ideas. It is hard for them I know but there has to be a way.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Yes, I agree, there has to be a way to teach them. (I hope at least!) (: