would you keep your mom/dad?

@aretha (2538)
United States
February 22, 2007 2:10pm CST
the kids next door come over alot to play with our kids and my son told them that his mamma was in that box and pointed to it. you should of seen those kids faces as they look at me to see if it try. i laugh and said yes that it was true so of course they had some questions. then they came back over last night and said that there aunt said it is wierd to keep it. growing up we had talked about this and she wanted to be cremated. i said that i was gonna keep her till i died and we would be baried together. so from a little kid i had always said this. and that is what i did i kept her and we will be baried together. would you or am i really wierd?
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@yvonne1968 (1063)
• United States
28 Feb 07
no i dont think its weird. But i am sure what im going to say you might think im weird. We had a very loved and dear family cat just pass away last summer. I am sure either when my mother passes away or when i do, that this loved cat will be barried with either my mother or me.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
28 Feb 07
lol. if you weird then so am i. we had a cat i was very close to when i was younger about 15 and i wanted to have her cremated so i could keep her cuz i didn't want to bury her, i was afraid something would dig her up or what not but we didn't have the money.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
2 Mar 07
you changed your picture! thought i was lost for a minute. thats kinda cool we couldn't afford any of it,my mom took care of it though. i wish we could of though. thanks again
• United States
1 Mar 07
most of my pets are burried in the back yard. But this one was so special and we had gone through alot with her and her sickness and i didnt want her burried in the back yard with the rest. You wouldnt belive the cost of the (oh what shall i call them) vases to put the remains in the animals ones are about as expensive as for a human being. But thankfully about a couple years back i had bought my mother a candy tin with candy in it, the strange thing it was shaped like a cat and looked just like her, so there is where she rests
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• United States
2 Mar 07
My stepfather, who was more of a father than my biological dad could ever have dreamt of being, was cremated. My younger brother and I were supposed to have "shared" custody of him as we both loved him dearly. One of my older sisters, who never lived with him and was not anywhere near as close, showed up took his ashes before we had a chance. She offered to split them up, and we all thought that was not right. She refused to give them up and this upset us greatly. To this day I have no idea where his ashes are, as I was never very close to my sister (17 yrs between us). So no, I dont think you are wierd and it was wrong of those kids aunt to say that to them.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
2 Mar 07
oh my goodness! she is so wrong why would she do that? thats really bad i can't believe someone would do that. i am sorry for you and your brother. i am an only child for my mom so i didn't have the worry of that. my father i am sure will be buried but like yours he is not and never has been a good father. thanks much for the respoonse and i am sorry that happened
@beckyomg1 (6756)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I dont think that it is weird i think that it is very nice. and not weird at all.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
28 Feb 07
thank you very much
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
28 Feb 07
OK I was totally confused reading this- I think I have it now. Your mom passed away and she was cremated. You have the box with the ashes in your house. Gotcha- Nope I don't think this is wierd- Would I personally do it? Nope. I too want to be cremated-- But I want to be taken to the ocean and thrown out into the water.. I don't want to sit in my daughter's house. But that is your decision- I think it is kinda neat that you want to be buried together. I just hope your next of kin know this so that when you pass on your wished are carried out.
@aretha (2538)
• United States
28 Feb 07
everyone knows my whole family knows and my hubby so i think i am good and as my kids get older they will know to. thank much for the response
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
As for me I have a emotional and physical attachement with my mom and we never knew who would be the one to end her journey on earth for as long as my mom is with me I will really keep her and take good care of her for I want to show the same love that she showed to me when I was a young girl. I really think that keeping our mother and father is a noble thing to do as a loving daughter.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
28 Feb 07
i was also very close to my mom. we travel alot so its nice to have her along if i was to bury her i would not beable to visit and put flowers and clean up around the grave site. thank you for your response
@abhiteja (146)
• India
1 Mar 07
ya i am really wierd ,and u r also the same.it is the diff kind of thinking at tat age.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
2 Mar 07
thank you for your response