Sharing your email account

Identity thief - Identity theft
Canada
February 22, 2007 8:32pm CST
Would you let some other person access your email account. Personally, I think that email is and should remain private. If you are or willing to share your account, then what level of trust should this person cross to get this privilege. In other words, when will you allow a person to read your emails (and access your computer account)? After a few weeks of knowing this person? A few months? Or it will take you years, before granting him/her such right? Also, assume now that this same person, that you've been seeing for just a few weeks, has used your account to send messages on your behalf (and thus impersonating you). What will be your reaction after learning this? Will you prevent him/her from accessing your computer? Or will you just ignore the incident, and move on? By the way, this post was inspired by a true story, that happened a week ago.
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26 responses
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I wouldn't want someone else accessing my primary email account. If I had a secondary account, I might be willing to share that. I would be a bit upset knowing that someone was using my account for purposes unknown to me. I feel they should remain private, unless you wanted to share them with your partner.
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• Canada
23 Feb 07
Pretty much true. I am sometimes overprotective when it comes to my primary email account, the one I have with my service provider. First because of privacy issues and second because I do not want to be flooded with spam.
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@anonymili (3138)
23 Feb 07
Firstly I would never share an email account in which my friends send me personal emails. And by personal emails I don't mean anything suspicious like of a $exual nature but stuff that friends and I have discussed such as going through a difficult time at work, or having problems with their partners or feeling unwell or even miserable because they're single. My husband has no interest in reading my emails as he'd be bored rigid by them and I have no interest in reading his emails (although he barely logs into email and tends to get emails only from his siblings or relatives in USA and India and sometimes he goes weeks before logging in). My friends know it's easiest to contact me by email and if they need advice or a morale boost I tend to reply the same day (unless I'm on holiday) - I set up an account for my husband and I but he couldn't have been less bothered and if someone wants to contact both of us they drop both him and me a line on the same email. If by any chance I found someone was using my email to send out emails and it wasn't (say) a random hacker just messing around for the fun of it or even malicious, but it was someone I knew, I would be pretty damn mad about it. I have 100s of people in my contacts for my main email account; friends, relatives and colleagues and ex colleagues, even my director at my current job and previous managers too. Imagine someone sending an email from my account to these people purporting to be me? How awful would that be, let alone embarrassing and potentially harmful to my current job?! I suggest if it happens to anyone reading this, the first and foremost thing to do is change your password and then decide on what to do about it before any further damage can be done :)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
Changing the password is the first thing to think about. Unfortunately some men are so controlling and they will oblige the woman to give them her new password. If she refuses, then they will accuse her of cheating or keeping some stuff away from them. Some people have absolutely no respect for other' s privacy and some others do not care a bit about their privacy until the day they get into deep trouble because of their lax attitude.
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@vanities (11410)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Feb 07
at first even in as if situations i wont let anybody used my email and thats for sure unless hes my husband..no ifs..but if you really want my opinion..i would be in rage to that person and i will change my password and keep it secret and i wont him let again used it
• Canada
23 Feb 07
That is exactly my point of view. Married people generally share credit cards, bank accounts...So, it would be ok that they share an email account or a computer password. If the persons are not married or are not in a long-term relationship, then I think that everyone should preserve part of his/her privacy. It would be foolish to share everything since day 1 in my opinion.
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@Thomas73 (1467)
• Switzerland
6 Mar 07
An email account is a bit like a toothbrush: it's very personal. I wouldn't let a close friend or even a member of my family access my email, let alone a perfect stranger! *Goes to check if no one has hacked into his account* ;)
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• Canada
15 Mar 07
I second that too, the analogy is nice.
• Canada
23 Feb 07
You bring up some good points My ex and I each had our own e-mail accounts as well as a joint one for the whole family to use we called it the houses e-mail where all the junk stuff would go and things like that. We both had access to each ohters personnel account but we also trusted each other at the time. Now i would still have a joint account but still keep one private just for myself and not share with anyone for sevearl reasons but would allow the other person to look if they felt they needed to.
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• Canada
23 Feb 07
It is really a good idea to set a joint email account while keeping 2 other private ones.
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@suedarr (2382)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
Hubby and I have our own separate computers, and email addys. Our desks are side by side though so we are never far from each other whilst online. Hubby does have access to my PC if he wants as he is an IT professional, and trust me when I screw something up I need him to fix it ... LOL! We DO respect our privacy to a point, but at the same token we have nothing to hide from each other, and he oten asks me to read his email out loud to him whilst he is doing something else. If you are in a committed long term relationship it should not be a problem. On the other hand no one else has free access to my computer or email.
@LittleMel (14036)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
My husband never uses the freedom I gave him to access my emails. He keeps forgetting the password LOL If this is a stranger (you only met him or her several weeks ago) I really suggest you shouldn't. The thing is that the name that goes out will be yours so it's just appropriate that you alone will use it. I will not prevent him or her accessing my computer but yes to my accounts and some files I have will be protected from viewing by other people.
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@palpalsky (900)
• United States
14 Mar 07
well i agree .i wont share my email account with anybody except with one person ..and may be the person i trust the most ..
• Canada
15 Mar 07
The problem sometimes is to know if some people are really trustworthy.
@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
26 Feb 07
No I have never shared one and don't intend to start. I have several email accounts and would not want anyone to go into them and mess them up. There are enough free email accounts around so that everyone can have their own.
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• Canada
1 Mar 07
I agree that there are so many free email accounts. Unfortunately, some people would insist on sharing email accounts and not only the free ones. Otherwise, they would accuse their partner of trying to keep some secrets away from them.
@boldriq (201)
• Slovenia
24 Feb 07
I've created another what I like to call public email account, so if for any reason mail that someone really needs can't be delivered, there remains a copy in my outbox at least and it can be accesed by that person. Other than that I do not share the mail I have privately.
@6sa6an6 (115)
• India
24 Feb 07
I think letting other people to share your e-mail ID is not so bad for you,especially your close friends.
@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I do share my email account with my boyfriend. He even knows my ATM password and I guess all the private info that I have. Well, I love him enough to entrust to him all my important stuffs and we're planning to get married this year or early next year. :)
@7nicole1 (1634)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
Well first thing is first and no I would'nt let someone else ever access my email account. To me thats just as personal as a credit card almost. So if you have let someone access your email account and now they are impersonating you Im sorry but you kinda get what you deserve. Change your your password fast!
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• United States
23 Feb 07
That is true. Email passwords should be kept to yourself. I have a friend who I would trust to look at my mail for me. I haven't had to do this yet but maybe someday i'll ask her. She is also the one I would trust with all my passwords if I die. Someone said you should have one or maybe two people that you can trust to give all your passwords to. That way if you die they can manage your online stuff and alert your online firends. I think it is a great idea.
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@jimotman (633)
• Indonesia
23 Feb 07
I will never ever share my email account with anyone else, not even my family / my wife. Email is a private thing, for me, like a diary, and if you let someone else to use your email account, then who knows if s/he use it for something wrong like spamming and you'll get banned..
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@caraj444 (1080)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
the only person i would ever allow access to my email account would be my husband and we still have our own as well that we use and dont have each others passwords but i would give it to him if he wanted it for some reason we just trust each other and dont bother with each others email accounts. There isnt anyone other than him though that i would give out my password to. If i had given someone use of my account and they impersonated me i think id be apt to end the relationship, trust for me is number one in a relationship so i wouldnt be able to get over that and trust the person for quite some time after something like that.
@Alphasee (389)
• United States
23 Feb 07
there's no reason I wouldn't let someone use my email to send an email or two if I knew them. There's no reason I wouldn't trust them online, because I trust them in real life.
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I could not share and email account with anybody unless of course it was my husband. I look at like a bank account in the wrong hands it could cause a lot of damage. Even though my husband has access he never goes into it. So it's cool. I never go into his either. Unless he tells me to send an email to one of his clients. Emails are free nowadays unless it's from work. I don't even see the sense in sharing one.
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@Anixie (89)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
The only person that I'll allow to access my email is my husband. I won't even let him have access to it unless he really needs it. I'f a person I've recently met accessed my account on my behalf, I'll be infuriated and I'll let him/her know that he/she has violated my privacy. As a form of punishment, I won't let him/her near my computer or even my room again. I'll probably start to lock my door and change my passwords.
• United States
23 Feb 07
Well call me selfish ...lol...but I don't let anyone into my email.It's mine and it's my business.I think that's terrible that someone actually did that to you or someone else...that's just plan nosey and an invasion of privacy.
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