i have still not learnt to say 'NO'!!!!

Even I am very poor at it. I know it is a pity. The thing is I consider people and relationships very important. I can't see sad faces around me, but I know I have to learn to say no, because at times it costs me something precious, maybe my time, my money, my efforts.

you sound just like me.. or rather who i was before i found out who i truly am. i was a mother hen... i always had to take care of someone... trying to save the world as my grandma put it. i could not say no for anything in this world. if i had it and they needed or wanted it, i would give it.. even if it left me in a bind. i lived for making others smile. i was taken advantage of constantly. i got mad at myself for not saying no when i knew exactly what they were doing and yet i still could not say no. then i found this site and there was a description there of me in bold print... turned out my mother hen tendencies and the inability to say no are two of the identifying characteristics of a submissive. since then i have found a wonderful Dominant who has stopped the stress and shame i was feeling for saying no. He says no for me. the decisions i cannot make or that i struggle with, He makes for me. my life is so much more peaceful and stress free.