Would you still accept someone who beat you up?
By pamsofivikal
@pamsofivikal (15)
Philippines
February 23, 2007 10:20am CST
I had a college friend who lived with her boyfriend and got her pregnant. Two months after she gave birth, they had a big fight that left her beaten black and blue. She got away with her baby, never talked to each other, except about their daughter for seven long years! Then, last year, when they finally started talking casually, they got to talk about being married. The guy asked and she accepted!!! I was really shocked! She told me she's happy, her family is finally complete....I have my misgivings and I am still scared for her...If I were in her position, I would never accept him back, least of all get married to him, even if we had a daughter!!!
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
23 Feb 07
OH HELL NO!! Man the only thing that would happen if my ex and I were to get together would be so I could beat the everloving crap outta him after all these yrs (I was 15 at the time) but there is NO WAY I would take him back let alone marry the guy! Forget it! He didnt respect me then what makes me think he'd respect me now...not to mention abusive ppl are the sneakiest b@stards around! So sure maybe he'd be all peaches and cream but sooner or later the truth comes out ya know....Not to mention this guy beat her black and blue just after she gave birth to their child!! no, no way would i want to be back with someone like that..I couldnt and I wouldnt take the chance of subjecting my child to it either...
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@justreal (2364)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
There's a saying that says "beware of your friend and be closer to your enemy". I believe in that saying and it makes sense. With friends, you never know if they are honest with you or not, but with enemies, at least you know why they have something against you. The enemy never hides his bad things that he has for you and a friend might have. So your discussion makes think about that.
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@earth2jacq (1502)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
No I wouldn't accept him either. It's alright that we stay as friends but as husband and wife I don't think so. The guy has once shown his violent side. How long would he be able to control his temper when domestic problems arise.I wouldn't marry him for the reason that the family may be complete. I wouldnn't want my child to be beaten. As they prevention is better than a pound of cure.
