how does it feel to have an affair?

Philippines
February 23, 2007 7:05pm CST
how would you feel if you can noticed someone having an affair with somebody else?is it natural/normal for you anymore?what makes them do that?how about their spouses?
3 responses
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
24 Feb 07
sometimes problem in a relationship make one cheat but love make you not do it again if it did not stop you the first time if you do it more than onv=ce then its a behavior pattern that will not stop but for the reciever it horrible for the giver if that person realy care it hurt when you find out but if not he plays nice for a week or so and then starts again or just start to blame you for them cheating but don't ever blame your self for that its there brain that made the choise not you
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• Philippines
24 Feb 07
thanks sidoney!! but if you were the spouse,is it forgiven?
@LittleMel (14036)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
I would lie if I said I never fantasize someone else, but I know my husband is devoted to our relationship so I hold my self a lot to keep the fantasy stays fantasy. Our life has grown hectic and stressful since last year so that keep me busy and his support has made me love him even more. I have a friend who has an affair with someone because her husband can't satisfy her sexually. I have no idea why her husband allows this, but well I guess to each their own.
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• Philippines
24 Feb 07
thanks LittleMel!! more power to you and your husband and Wishing you the best.
@cybergwen (158)
• United States
4 Mar 07
It is very isolating to have an affair. You can't talk to anyone about it. I have been the "other woman" and the guilt and fear are a lot to deal with. The few people that did know were always telling me to end it. I didn't listen and it has worked out for me. I am not proud of how we started, but we are both happier than we have ever been and wish nothing but the same for his soon to be X wife.