Is having an affair hereditary?

February 23, 2007 9:59pm CST
My boyfriend's brother, father and sister are having illicit affairs. It bothers him so much because the wife of his brother just died of aneurysm. The wife's family is blaming his husband (the brother of my boyfriend) of contributing to the death of his wife because of the constant pain he had caused her. My boyfriend's brother is now repentant and he is trying to change to make things right again for the benefit of his kids. But things didn't stop there, after his brother's repentance, my boyfriend found out that his father is also having an affair. After a few days, his mom caught their eldest sister with her lover. My boyfriend is mad about this because of embarrassment and because of the pain that her mom is feeling now. Is having an affair hereditary? Should I be scared that my boyfriend will eventually do it too?
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@cybergwen (158)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I don't think that it is hereditary in the sense that it is in your genes, but it is definately learned behavior. Think about it, don't we all do a lot of the things that we saw our parents do when we were growing up? The old addage, "Do as I say, not as I do" comes to mind. Ont the other hand, my mom had an affair and I am still angry about that, but my BF was married when we met and we were together for over a year before he left his wife, so who knows!?!?
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• Philippines
28 Feb 07
So what you said just confirmed that no matter how he hates what's happening now if he happens to come in the same situation he just might grab it? Oh uh, thats scary. LOL. Oh well, I guess I'll just have to pray he won't.
• United States
28 Feb 07
No, I think that it is just a coincidence. I must add that neither, my mom's or mine, have had wwhat I would call sterotypical outcomes. She married hers and I intend on doing the same, so it wasn't just a forbidden fling for either of us.
@vanities (11409)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Feb 07
i dont think so..but the idea is maybe..coz if you found out that your father have an illicit affair then you think its also good to have one its i think goes with the saying that if my father can do it then why not me also..or whatever it is..nope you must not be scared..just trusts him ..anyway hes not you husband he still can choose whose to be with.. if he chooses..
@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
28 Feb 07
No it is not heriditary at all, it is a learned behavior. Some people have a conscious and would never cheat, while others do not have a care in the world and cheating is nothing to them. Every cheater has their reasons.