Sorry seems to be hardest word - is this true for you?

@rosie_123 (6116)
February 24, 2007 8:13am CST
It is only a small word, and yet so many people let pride get in the way, and find it the hardest word to say. As a result of this, arguments "fester" over time, and families and relationships can be ripped apart. I admit that I am pretty stubborn, and it is not easy for me to admit that am in the wrong, and apologise, but I will always do it. How about you? Do you find it hard or easy to admit you are in the wrong, and apologise for it?
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34 responses
24 Feb 07
If I know I was wrong and realise it afterwards then I don't really have a problem with saying that I am sorry. However, if I don't believe I'm wrong I won't say I'm sorry even if it means that the other person will stay mad at me for longer.
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@rosie_123 (6116)
24 Feb 07
Yes, I am also like this, though I can't stand the bad atmospheres that ensue when people are mad at you for a long time - especially family members of those in the same house as yourself. Thanks for your answer.
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@mmiller26 (1932)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
I don't think it's difficult to say I'm sorry. If I've messed up, or if I'm wrong, I can acknowledge it. It doesn't cost me anything to tell somebody that I made a mistake. And hopefully I learn from it.
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@rosie_123 (6116)
24 Feb 07
That is very wise advice I think. Thanks for responding.
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24 Feb 07
I don't think so. Sorry is easy enough of a word to say and those who don't say it well. that does tell you something =) For me it's one of the easiest words as I do mean it and I think there's people who will say it and not mean it. I don't see how it's hard and I wished more wasn't so stubborn. Five letters and 1 second that's all it takes. ~Joey Kudos
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@shambuca (2560)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I have been saying sorry a lot lately- menopause has causing me to have a quick temper, so i fly off the handle at people whe i should have more patience, i just seemed to have lost it and can't find it again.. lol. My husband woudl definately say that sorry is not in his vocabulary, he is like Fonzie from Happy Days.. the word just can't come out.. lol, but he will do something in place of it like ask me out to dinner or something- and i will know what he means and that he is trying to make nice.
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@rosie_123 (6116)
28 Feb 07
Ah yes - menopause has so many things for answer for! It doesn't make me lose my tempper - I just cry:-(( But I guess it's all the same hormones that are doing it, it just effects people in different ways. Thanks for your response. And I hope you husband buys you flowers as well as taking you out for dinner!
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
26 Feb 07
It is hard to admit mistakes - but i do own up whenever i know i am wrong (its not easy for anyone to make me realise that,though..lol.) so if someone does succeed in making me realise my mistake, i will say sorry. if it's not my fault but someone wants to blame it on me - no way will i own up.
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@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
25 Feb 07
Indeed 'sorry ' seems to be the hardest word. But I think everyone will have to get over saying sorry. Its only being responsible for your own actions that you will be willing to step up and apologies. I personally feel that people who are willing to admit their mistakes are the people who have the ability to succeed in life. Of cos, this doesn't go to the people who feel sorry for themselves. To those people, I can only say buck up and get a move on. Life pushes you around and will normally push you in the direction you are thinking.
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• India
25 Feb 07
absolutely not ....i go around saying sorry & thx easily ......well i hav never encountered problems regarding this as yet ....& hope i dont ......but i see many of my friends find it very very difficult to say sorry ........it is something they cant or wouldnt want to say ....well they r & probably will remain proud of this attitude of theirs ....but i personally feel ...this is no good ..........
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• United Arab Emirates
25 Feb 07
yes you are 100% right that sorry is the hardest word in this world. Sometimes its ok , if u make small mistakes and do apologise by asking sorry its ok. but when it comes to bigger blunders and then you say sorry to othes then its really hurts others because after sorry he/she will not be able to say any thing to u but in the heart he will says i will kill you. what a word kill any body and say sorry it was a mistake. it really hardest word. is't it.
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@lingli_78 (12834)
• Australia
25 Feb 07
for me, if i did something wrong, then i will definitely say sorry... it is not that difficult for me and i won't let pride to get in the way because it is just right and it is not worth it... i value people and relationship more than my pride... so, i will always say sorry if i really need to say it...
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• United States
25 Feb 07
There are alot of times that i find it very hard to apologize when im in the wrong. Sometimes it can be an easy thing to admit. But mostly its difficult. i dont find myself in the wrong often at home so its kind of a big deal admiting when i am wrong.
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@rosedust82 (2070)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
Most of the time, it's easy for me to say sorry. Especially if I know it's my fault. Well, there are times when I say it even if it's not my fault. But there have been times when I had to swallow that word, not because I didn't want to say it but because I really felt like I would be giving the other person the impression that what they did was right. ***One thing that I'll always remember from my job: People would appreciate it more if we say "I apologize" than "I'm sorry" because you can say sorry to anyone... but apologizing is a whole different matter... It's more sincere and heart-felt... Heheh... Just wanted to share that. =)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
I find it especially hard to admit when I'm wrong, but I do it. I love my partner too much to let my pride get in the way of our relationship. We have some almighty arguments sometimes and as a result, tension and stress runs high. It's always a case of who's going to make the first move with the two of us lol. He'll make the first move but I usually end up being the one saying sorry and sobbing on his shoulder lol. I'm such a wuss.
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@JillyBnt (15)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I find saying "I'm sorry" isnt that difficult for me possibly sometimes too easy but I notice that when I expect my husband to say it, just for the most menial thing he never does and that upsets me. I guess I need to stop expecting him to read my mind but the way I was raised, it's just good manners to say you're sorry when you intentionally/unintentionally hurt someone. He's getting better about it after 7 years but not as good as I'd like him to be
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@sigma77 (5384)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I don't have a problem with admitting I am wrong. I can say I am sorry. I never mean to hurt anyone. I know I am not always right and don't believe I have to be. It is fine to be wrong. I don't feel bad about being wrong. Sometimes, it is enlightening to discover how wrong I might have been. I am not too proud to say I am sorry.
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@JashleyB (1441)
• United States
24 Feb 07
For me it's always been pretty easy. I just can't stand for things to be tense. I alwaysfeel like it's my fault in some way so I apologise very fast...Of course there are times when just do not feel I am the one that needs to say it at all. It does happen.
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@shywolf (4519)
• United States
24 Feb 07
No, I don't find it hard to say that I'm sorry. In fact, I probably say it sometimes before someone is even upset, because I can't bear the thought of hurting someone's feelings or having someone be angry and upset with me. I haven't gotten in a verbal fight, not a real hard fight, in a very long time. I'm incredihly sensitive to others' feelings, can't bear to see others in pain, and therefore apologize if i even think that there is a slight chance that I might have said or done something that came across badly or might have made the other person (or any other person around) feel badly.
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@urbandekay (18306)
25 Feb 07
No, very easy word, personally I find Floccinaucinihilipilification much harder all the best urban
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@rosie_123 (6116)
28 Feb 07
LOL! I guess it is when you think about it! Thanks for your answer!
• Bulgaria
25 Feb 07
It isn't so hard to say that word but to be honest when you said "I'm sorry" is harder. There is a lot of people which said "sorry" but they didn't mean it really.
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• India
25 Feb 07
according to me, words like sorry and thanks do not exist between friends but these are really heavy words when used.
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@hinocki (670)
• Italy
25 Feb 07
Which is the problem? I often say sorry, evenif just for close the comunication. Rarely appens to me that i'm wrong, but i think that if the person i have in front stop making so much listening to my word sorry, I say it without problems. If you are wrong: you have to say. Other person have the ight to listen this word from you.
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