Should I tell this to my Mom?

India
February 24, 2007 11:03am CST
My cousin fiance is my ex-girlfriend and we had an affair years back, but I didnt know that she got engaged before I know. When I was out of station for my studies, when I latter saw her pic I was embarrased on this. Should I tell this to my mom or family member, about the same? Since the date of marriage has been fixed in May 03, 2007 what should I do Please help me out with your suggestion
5 responses
@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
Im sorry i just wanted to know if i understood your situation correctly, you had an affair with your cousins Fiance? was this before or after they got engaged? if in case you had an affair with this girl BEFORE she got engaged with your cousin, then its ok, no harm done, you can tell them that you used to date the girl before she was engaged with your cousin, i dont see anything wrong with that. BUT if in case you had an affair with your cousins fiance AFTER they got engaged then that's gonna be a hard one, should you really feel like telling this, maybe you should tell it to someone whom you can really trust, and you should also talk to the girl about this- so you know if she wants people to know about the affair you had with her.
• India
25 Feb 07
My cousin is very close to me and trusts me more than their family, share each and very thing with me. So it will betraying my close one, and as far the affair goes it was before the engagement, and she may not be knowing that he is my cousin. But I feel for my cousin he talks to me daily praising about her and he really love her from his bottom heart, if he comes to know this in the latter stage then it would be disaster to our relationship and his heart would be broken into pieces. So what should I do? I real cant understand. For nights I haven't slept to find the solution.Thanks for our suggestion
• India
25 Feb 07
You may be wondering what I m talking about , this my narrated by my colleague way back years ago. So I narrated with untmost care the same thing. I thought what should i be thinking if i were in your place? tell becoz one of my colleague is going under the same turma the best thing would be that go to the ex-friend of your's and tell about the matter separately, it necessary becoz the matter would be leaked only by the person who is involved in the affair, rather than going to any trusted person about it. This is necessary for the relationship, becoz my colleague did the same thing.
@vivien_9 (229)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
Do you have any feelings left for your ex-girlfriend? then, if not then tell it to your mom.
• United States
24 Feb 07
do what you feel is right... personally I would tell someone, just to get it off my chest
• United Arab Emirates
25 Feb 07
well, what I do think that you have to do nothing, because you talk about this to your mom it will become a big issue and may be because of this their marriage will stop or might they get some problem in their relationship also, don't worry man, there are many girls to become your life partner, just remember her as a good friend or as a love as good time and cheers up
• United States
24 Feb 07
If you need to get it off your chest, tell someone who is good at keeping secrets.