What should she do?

United States
February 24, 2007 12:16pm CST
OK my mother and my aunt have been sisters and friends for many years. Then came the day that I had my accident. Well my mom, of course, couldn't work and stayed with me in the hospital every day. After 3 months, when I was released and she was able to go back to work, their relationship went sour. My aunt thought she ruled the place and gets in a dig at mom whenever she can. Not to mention, my aunts daughter, my cousin, works there too and she feels the same way. She (my cousin) actually told my mom that they were better off when she was gone! Now my mom hasn't said anything because she doesn't want to start problems with Grandma and Grandpa, her mom and dad. It's a family owned business. She stays there for my grandpa because he is not in the best of health. But it is getting to the point to where she is about ready to explode, and if you knew my mom when she explodes look out! What is she to do? I need your advice. Plus she told me to put it on here to see what advice she could get.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Oh, Sneezy! Blessings to your mom for taking care of you as any mom should do. It seems to me that her sister (your aunt) would have wanted to help her sister out with you and given your mother the opportunity to work part time while auntie stepped up and assisted you part time. Personally I think that things could have been handled differently; but then again, I don't understand your family dynamics at all, so I really should not have even suggested that. What I do know, however, is that if your mother does not speak up (she does not necessarily have to blow up); but she could ask for a meeting before the opening of the store in the morning, at the closing of the store in the evening; or even suggest a huge family sit-down meal or buffet where everyone is present. In an atmosphere such as this, the situation may be able to be presented in such a way that it is non-threatening or accusatory in any way and toward no particular person. If she does not soon express herself, she is putting herself at risk for stroke or heart attack, in which case she will not be able to work again for awhile. It sounds as though you have a wonderful family that has held together a family business for a long time and that is remarkable in this day and age. Good luck and may the god and goddess bless you and your family ~Donna
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Thanks for your kindness and your advice. I will tell her your advice and hopefully she'll listen.