What is more important - family or career?

@JuliaPan (564)
Canada
February 24, 2007 5:56pm CST
What do you think is more important for a woman at the age of 30 - a family or a career?
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18 responses
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
One could not really tell because everything will depend on the situation. Usually, at age 30, woman must have a family already so as not to grow old single. BUt it would still depend on the woman herself though. It comes with what's her priority at age 30. If she still prioritizes her work and also financing other people's expenses, having a family might be her last option. There are also women that are already stable in their work and wants to settle down already. It's actually a woman's choice.
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
I'm glad you yourself know what's your priority. Maybe at that age, I would also prioritize my family. I still have long years to go. I'm still 21. At the age of 30, I must be able to have a stable job already and married too with at least 2 kids. lol :) Thanks by the way for marking me as Best Response. See you around at mylot! :)
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@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
Thank you :)
@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
6 Mar 07
Fully agree with you, it's the question of the priority at this age. For me, it's my family.
@sylvrrain (659)
• United States
25 Feb 07
That would depend on the woman. Some women find that they want children so the family should be more important. Other women find that they get satisfaction with the careers that they have and have no interest in a family. I chose family. After my children were born, I continued to work, but soon decided that my children were more important, so I became a stay-at-home mom. That was over 20 years ago, and I would not change a thing. My children are grown now, but I am still young enough to have a rewarding career.
@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
Great. After my child's birth I quitted my job and now I'm staying at home. A thought of a necessity to look for a new job makes me sad. Luckily, there's no absolute need for it now, so I enjoy taking care of the baby. I do hope I will have the same feeling as you in 20 years! Thank you for your reply!
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@sellj75 (208)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I'm 31, and my family is the most important thing to me.
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@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
I am with you :)
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@Starline (681)
• United States
2 Mar 07
It depends of course. I'd choose my family if I had to (husband since I don't have kids yet) but hopefully I'll have a carreer going on to .
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@wendy82 (437)
• United States
2 Mar 07
To me it would have to be the career first then the family. Because if you didnt have the money to support yourself then how are you going to support a family. Because you can always grow and educate yourself. But again sometimes it is family over career because if you lose the job your family is there to support you.
• United States
2 Mar 07
I would say that depends. I would think that the family would matter the most. Some people might say that the career is. I think that it all depens on the individual.
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@weemam (13372)
9 Mar 07
I am 64 and My family have always come first , but I suppose it depends on the individual , I was married at 18 had 2 boys before I was 23 then had another son when I was 38 , My family has and always will be first in my life xx
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@lvhughes (545)
• United States
24 Mar 07
i am 30 and for me at 18 i choose family over career and today i still feel the same. if i could go back their is alot id change but that is one thing i wouldnt dream of changing. my kids are my life. i married at 17 and had my first child a year and a half later. for me age hasnt made differents in my choice.
@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
4 Mar 07
i think that not only at 30, but for your whole life, family must come first...careers can come and go and are never a definite thing, but as long as you have your family you will always have someone who is important to you...after all, family is real, careers are just jobs..
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@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
23 Mar 07
i do not think others idea,but for me ,when i am 30 years old,the family is more important than my career.but i will say that ,at present,my career is more important for 20-30 old.then some years later,when i have my own family,and when my career would be steady,i will pay my most attention and time to my hubby and my kid.lol...
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
23 Mar 07
For me I would have to say that family is more important. I think a career is important too, don't gt me wrong, but I would be completely lost without the support of my family.
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@mehale (2200)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I am 30+ and my family is far more important to me than my career. My husband and I are working toward making our ranch profitable enough that we can come off the road and work from home so we can spend more time with our family. The main reason I have my current career is to make enough money each month to support our family. I do enjoy what I do, but woudld rather be able to be at home instead of being away for the better part of each month.
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@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
I think it's good to have a business together with your husband. I know for some couples it would be too hard to spend 24 hours together doing some work together. My husband and I are thinking of running some business in future (in very far future I suppose) and I do hope mutual business will only tie us more together. I wish you ever success!
@RobinJohn (203)
• India
20 Mar 07
everone has its own choise, and its all depends upon the way you handle, for someone it may be his/her career and for others it might be the family, but believe me everthing is interrelated, yes to have a good family life you need a good career and you can have a good career if you a good family ( ie emotionally, physically and financally strong) so, if you work put you heart and soul into in and if its time for your family then don't bring your job there.
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@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
As my husband always says, "God forbid that I ever bring my work into my family". There are people who upon returning home still think about their work and all the difficulties, quarrels, etc. they've had at their work. I do appreciate my hubby's attitude. But for me, family is still on the first place. Thank you!
• United Arab Emirates
5 Mar 07
Irrespective of age, I think that the choice is up to each individual. I had a very successful career, the only drawback was that my husband and I lived in different countries due to our job postings. When I was pregnant with our daughter, I gave up my job, and moved to be with my husband. We decided mutually that I would stay home until our daughter started school, as it would be the right environment for her. A lot of people leave their children with babysitters, or maids and a lot of times it is not out of choice, we were lucky in that, we could afford to have me stay home and bring up our child. When our daughter started school, I rejoined the workforce, I am not anywhere near what I had when I left my job, but, I don't regret anything and if I had to do it all over again, I would do the same thing. I love my family and no amount of money or fame can take that away.
@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
6 Mar 07
I do hope that with years I will feel the same way as you - no regrets. I gave up my job when I was at the 8th month of my pregnancy. And I'm not going to look for a job in the near future and join this army of moms who have to rush between their work and family. I'm happy I'm given an opportunity to stay with my son at home and to pay much attention to my family. Thank you :)
@beckyomg1 (6756)
• United States
4 Mar 07
What is in thier heart. I always said the my family came first but still worked. But if something needed to be done for my family it would come first.
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I think it's probably different for every woman depending on her preferences in life. For me I have to say that family is the most important of the two.
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• Pakistan
4 Mar 07
I think her family is more important fore her as she canswitch to her jobs but can't switch families.
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• United States
4 Mar 07
my family is way more important than ay career. I would lay my life down for my family.. I just now went back to school becase of my kids and everything. Now they are all in school so I go to school and hopefully I do get a career.but I never would put that first.My family always comes first.
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