Why DIDNT or DONT you ever want kids???

United States
February 24, 2007 11:08pm CST
I have heard people say before that they dont want kids, I use to say it when I was really young (16-17). But I know that so many people would give their left arm to have a baby, and I was just curious as to what makes someone swear off kids? Is it the fear of being a bad parent? hereditary disease maybe? If you dont want kids, why not???
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@lecanis (16661)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Feb 07
I didn't want kids because I wasn't sure I would ever be able to be a good parent. I lived with a lot of abuse as a child, and lived with various members of my family, not really being raised by my parents at all. So I was afraid of being like my family. In my case, I met someone who would be an excellent parent, who was wonderful with children, but who had also grown up with abuse. So I learned that it was possible to overcome that, and decided I really did want a child after all. We have a nine-month-old now, and we're so happy that we have him. On the other hand, I don't think everyone who says they don't want kids will change their mind, or that they should.
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@cjthedog64 (1552)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I never DIDN'T want to have kids, but I was never really excited about it. It took me 23 years to get a boyfriend - who I married BTW! - so kids was the last thing on my mind. He had 2 already, but agreed that when we were ready, we would have one. I was fine with one, cause I'm an only child. I never went ga-ga over other babies, never sought out to hold babies, etc. Yeah, they were cute, but that's as far as it went. I started getting more interested when I was pregnant, and now that DS is 14 months, I find that I have common ground to start conversations with pregnant women or new moms.
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• Canada
25 Feb 07
I just don't have the patience or the desire to raise kids. I also don't want to bring them up in today's corrupt world. I can't imagine bringing up kids in today's society. It was hard enough for me, but now things are worse in the world. I couldn't bring another human being into that.
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@sunnypub (2130)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I always swore that I didn't want kids. I think it was because I didn't want the responsibility and I didn't want to lose my freedom. I never consciously accepted that I wanted kids, but my subconcscious did decide that, and one time convinced me to not use protection. Of course my husband didn't want to say anything so we ended up pregnant. Now I look back and can't believe I didn't want kids. Being a mom is the best thing I have ever done in my life, and I get more joy out of my duaghter than I ever thought I could get. She teaches me something new every day, and she makes me be a better person. Having kids is the best thing and brings so much more to your life than you can ever imagine.