It is hard to be a single parent..

Philippines
February 25, 2007 11:21pm CST
It's so hard for me, being a single parent. Like i dont have the partner to talk to about my baby..My boyfriend left me, when i'm still 3mos. pregnant. It's painful and it's so hard to have adjustments being a single parent..But i'm trying my very best to take good care of my child.. Are you a single parent? How hard being like me?
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@owens07 (325)
• Puerto Rico
26 Feb 07
Heck yeah, it's hard. I have a seven year old who's extremely active. Lots of times I wish I had someone to help care for him and be responsible for him. The only good thing is I don't have to compromise in the decision making. But that wouldn't be such a big deal probably
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• Canada
27 Feb 07
i hear u loud and clear i have a 5yr old and 2 yr old both boy's and they can be extremly hyper at times and sometimes I wish I could have just a lil help....But i tend to not dwell on the help thing to much am very independent....
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I was a single mom at one time. I am now married but when it was just me it was very hard. I was lucky to have my mom for support and transportation. I am married now but my bestfriend is a single mom of 3 children and it is very hard for her. She took a job as a bus driver so she could work but still be available for her kids when they needed her. I recently moved her out of a hole in the wall appartment and moved her right next door to me to a bigger one. This way my husband and I can help her when she needs it and at the same time she can help us. It drives me nuts to see her struggle and with us being right next door she has a support group and a male to help with the handy work and at times the kids.
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@deebomb (15322)
• United States
26 Feb 07
God bless you for helping a single mom. I was a single mom of 4 but mine were older. the oldest was 13 and the youngest was 8 at the time.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I was a single parent with two little ones (my son was 18mths old and my daughter a newborn..I was single until they were 2 and 3.5)and at first its hard but then I realized it was the greates thing to happen....I didnt have a partner to share my bed with but I had fabulous friends to talk to and share things with....Plus it gave the kids and I time to really connect and bond and now that they are older (almost 12 and 13.5) we have an amazing relationship with each other PLUS they know that staying in a situation that doesnt make anyone happy isnt a necessary thing...its ok to stand up on your own and walk away with pride from a bad scene...
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I also wanted to say....its only hard if you MAKE IT hard...change the way you look at your situation...dont dwell on the "woulda/coulda/shoulda" dont dwell on the past..take this time to set the right path for yourself in life and to enjoy your precious time with your little one...they dont stay babies forever ya know..enjoy getting to know your little one...take the time to get to know yourself....Whats done is done..you cant change it so dont let it hold you back...make sense?
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• Singapore
26 Feb 07
Don't worry we're on the same boat. I know it's very hard to be a single parent. Physically, emotionally, spritually & financially demanding. However, I guess despite of this, we should not forget to be greatful for what we have. My daughter gives me strength to go on with my life everyday. I know even her will face the judgement people have for illegitimate children. Just pray harder and do everything for your kid. Just remember that some people are having a hard time conceiving. God gave this blessing to us because he knows that we can handle it. Just pray!
@mistym (18)
• United States
26 Feb 07
It can be extremely difficult being a single parent. I have been a single mom 2x now. My first one was about 3 when I remarried to my third husband who is now gone. Thats a discussion all on its own. Here is where I find solice. There are tons of community resources to help with just about anything you can think of. Most people don't know where to find them. The courthouses, shelters, etc...are a good place to start asking. My Pastors have been awesome to help with advice, etc...God does help the fatherless and single parents. You can believe that. You can believe that.
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
But all the pain and difficulties would just vanish into thin air when you see your little angel.
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
i agree, thanks! it's that your baby? boy or girl? very cute..
• India
23 Mar 07
yes it is even more harder to be a single parent.i wonder even if it is a couple, then it is very tough to carry child then hw tough would it be for a single mom.well adjustments are a part of our lives and we need to adjust to the circumstances.Well you are a brave girl who is caring her child like anything.many mothers use abortion as a source to get rid of that problem.Well i am not a single parent but i know how painful is it to be single and lonely when you need someone right beside you to give you love,affection and support.It is very hard to be brave like you,it takes a toll out of our bodies.anyways,best of luck for your life.
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@aaqibs (8)
• Pakistan
26 Feb 07
It is very very hard to be a single parent. and i must say its too much shameful for one who has left his wife or partner and new looked back to take a biot care for atleast his or her children. and most of the time its guys who move on and left for nothing except the pain and problems for their children. My elder sister had some problem with her husband when she was having 5 months preganent. she gave birth to baby, a very cute son. but baby;s father never looked back, she stood whole the night to carry the baby when he was sick, she cried along with the baby and abused a hell of time in her heart to whom who was enjoying his life somewhere and she was only one to suffer. Now i am the uncle of the baby, and he is also having his grand parents that are always there for him and for their daughter, but my sister still feels incomoplete and she most of the time thinks that may be she is not providing everything what is required for her son. we all love him and we try to provide everything him, toys, food , clothes everything, but its true, we cant replace his father. now my sister has started working and her son is more than 2 years old. she is still suffering cause in the morning my mum can take care of baby but when she comes back home after her work in the evening, she needs rest but she cant cause she has to do alot of work for her child. its realy very very hard for a woman to be a single parent. i wish all the woman that they can get a good man to marry who never leave them for his own good. not all the times we should live for only ourself. if we do something than we should go till the end.
@nijawife (43)
• Nigeria
26 Feb 07
I sympathise with you but life has to move on and just ensure you take care of yourself and the baby,make friends,go out to the park with your baby and you will begin to feel better,its not the end of life.
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@vangie79 (198)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
I'm haven't experienced yet being a parent but i know how hard to be a parent. You know what, I have this big admiration to all single parents in the world who've raised their kids and have given them good life. I salute you for taking care of your child. Prove to your child's father that you can give your child a good life that he can't give and looses the chance or opportunity to feel how happy to be a dad. Wish you all the luck and have a healthy life to you and to your kid! Take care!
@beaniegdi (1966)
26 Feb 07
That is so sad for you. I can't imagine how hard that must be having to deal with the pregnancy and birth all on your own. I have 2 sons and my husband left us when my son was about to turn 10 and my eldest was 12. It was nt easy especially on the boys and the youngest never really got over the shock. They still see him but they never will have respect for him for what he did. I know it is hard to believe at this time but you will meet someone else who will love you and your child and you may have more children. I dated someone for a year after mine left but when it didn't work out I decided to stay on my own and I have often been asked out but alwys say no. That is how I know there will be someone else for you if you want it. You are not destined to be on your own forever, so enjoy this time with your child and take good care of yourself.
@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Yes being just pregnant alone is hard enough already- i am also a would be single mom- in a month or so approximately, and i know how devastating it feels like to be pregnant all alone, you dont have that person whos gonna support you emotionally, physically and even financially. I currently suffering prenatal depression but i think im starting to feel better since i now have some people to talk to, but still the depression still haunts me- like all of a sudden i was feeling ok then this sudden gush of loneliness would strike and i would find myself bitter and crying again for the same reason over or for no reason at all- I do hope however, that when the baby comes out all the pain will go away...
• Canada
26 Feb 07
I am not a single parent and give you credit for being able to do this . I can't imagine trying to raise my children on my own . Not having someone there to help out when times get tough and trying to do everything on your own .
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@shila07 (514)
• Bhutan
26 Feb 07
ITs sad to know that your boyfriend left you when you were 3 months pregnant, iam sure he is cruel human being, he donot have sense of responsibilities. Its shame for him. May be he doenot khnow the value od being expected father. Iam not a single parent, i have a husband with me to raise our son, but when i read your discussion, i felt sad and imagined how difficult it would be to be a single mother. IT will be very difficult for a single parent to raise children. Iam so sad for all women who faces such problems,Its really sad part.
• India
27 Feb 07
yes i can imagine as even if we both are there sometims we find it difficult to manage the things i unsderstand
@cuddleme01 (2727)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
yes it surely is hard to be a single parent. well, i am not yet a mother, but i have friends who are single parents and i can tell by their experiences that being a single mom is hard, very hard. without the support of the people around them, their family,their friends, they are likely to face a hell like life, raising all by themselves their babies.
@geeta151 (312)
• India
27 Feb 07
yes it is difficult!my neighbour lost her hubby to cancer .i know how it is to manage every thing single handedly.
@Macthedj (630)
27 Feb 07
It will be hard for you but something will happen because you are a single parent. the bond you will create with them will be more strong that most families can dream of. good Luck
• Brazil
27 Feb 07
It believesin the word of GOD all pain and difficulty will go to disappear , CERT!
• United States
27 Feb 07
This must be a very difficult time for you. I wish you all the best.
• United States
27 Feb 07
I was a single parent for a good 8 yrs. I had alot of support from friends and family though. I have total respect for all single parents, It is not easy, but well worth it! Good luck to you and remember, it will get better.