My Teenage daughter wont listen to me anymore!!
By Rachel
@RachelleDD (823)
Canada
February 26, 2007 12:11pm CST
I have always had a wonderful relationship with my daughter. This year she moved from a junior high school to a regular high school. Last year I needed a stick of dynamite to blow this girl out of the house, she had few friends, didn't go anywhere, didn't hang out anywhere. I tried to encourage her but she just wasn't interested. Now that she is attending this new school everything is different. She is popular like she never was before, she has many girlfriends and a few boyfriends to. She will be 16 in a few weeks and is a bright beautiful girl, but now she won't talk to me, I don't want to snoop, I respect her privacy and her space. I told her last night I couldn't remember the last time she told me she loved me. So I pounced into her bedroom and pinned her on the bed and tickled her until she said it. Lame? Don't know but I know she does even if she doesn't say it that much anymore. I know I'll keep telling her. Never looking for a quick fix when dealing with parenthood, just would love to hear a few suggestions. Thanks!
4 responses
@romance88 (29)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Aww... the life of a teenager... I went thorough a stage where I hated everything and almost everyone... my mom and I really had to give each other space, and in the end, we are still close.... so it will work out give it time... oh.. and one more thing... if you snoop, you will never be forgiven!
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@RachelleDD (823)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
Thanks for the advice, I wouldn't dream of snooping, she deserves her space and privacy. I just have to wait and pray that all the things I have taught and instilled in her over the years has stuck. :)
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Welcome to the world of teenagers were we get old and they become cool all in one single swope. Don't worry so much this happens to all of us. I had just posted about being sick and I was surprised because my son was in his own world before I got sick but he came to my aid and has helped and made sure I was ok. It touched me so deeply. Just make sure you are always there for her and don't stop telling her you love her. I know when I call my son before I hang up I tell him I love him and sometimes he says it back and sometimes he doesn't. They are trying to find themselves right now. We have become the old people that don't know anything but they will be back to normal as long as you continue what you have always done.
@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
26 Feb 07
She is nearly 16! They think they know everything then and tend to think that mom will cramp their style. I can seak from being 16 that the last thing I really wanted was my mother "bothering" me. Not because I didn't love her but I just thought I had it ALL figured out and didn't want a boss lady. heh we go from sweet to brats to sweet again. Just know that this is a phase and don't get too bent out of shape over it. :)
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@RachelleDD (823)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
Thank you for your comment, I try not to be so overprotective but I know that sometimes I am. I tell her she will understand one day when she has children. Today she skipped a class and her school called. Not quite sure how I should handle it when she gets home.
@coolsid2007 (1030)
• India
26 Feb 07
Ah!! i think this happens all the time, its just that you should advice kids to do ... you should more like guide them through examples... they are more into talks and activities then listening... you can just try giving some examples that went wrong by ignoring in there early age... also try to let them fall and learn... i know being a parent this is the most difficult situation.. but i do believe that you should just guide them instead of trying to reiterate all the same points over and over again
they think they know and the world has already changed from the time when you lived... they dont have much of habit of showing emotion of what they feel... they just want to be left alone all the time... i think you can leave them alone but only after proper guidance ... this way you wont feel like you never stopped them and they wont feel that you are interfering in their life or trying to steal there own little privacy
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