good self esteeme?
By poppoppop111
@poppoppop111 (5731)
Canada
February 26, 2007 12:48pm CST
is having a good self esteem about yourself sometimes views as conceded. i'm not the best looking person out there but i'm very confterble with myself and i'm happy with myself. some poeple tell me i'm really conceited. but isn't it better to be happy about yourself and pleased then always saying i'm not good enough or pretty enough.
which is better? having too much self esteem or always putting yourself down and expecting other people to pick you up.
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4 responses
@AuthenticPeach (283)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Yes. People are unknowingly drawn to people who have great self-esteem, for they are fun to be around and are able to make others feel good about themselves by being in their presence. I know this because many tell me that I'm conceited. I have good self-esteem and I don't look for people to tell me things about myself I should already know and because of that I am told that I am full of myself or vain. But a friend of mine told me that I was a joy to be around because I didn't pity myself or thrive for people telling me that I was pretty. If you didn't have good confidence people would get tired of having to tell you that you are a beautiful person or like others keep you around because they love people who are depressed for it makes them feel good. I think that having to much self-esteem or putting yourself down is both horrible, but finding a middle ground where you know that you aren't "the best" but your up there.
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
i think i've found a happy medieum. i'm surely not the best and i know that but i'm completely happy with myself and i have some people who admire me becuase i'm so comfterble with myself but i had someone tell me i was too conceited., but this was comming from someone who always put herself down and expected me to say good things about her all the time and that drove me nuts.
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
28 Feb 07
I think that's such a good place to be, you are happy with yourself and strong in it. I admire you very much.
Often people will try to through you off centre. It's mainly because when they see you, they see that they are not like you. It shows their inability to like themselves.
You are not conceited. Stay strong and don't let anyone try to hammer you down. The more comfortable you are with your self esteem, the more you can 'shine' yourself. People will love being around you if your heart is shining.
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@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I guess I am conceeded as well. I am not slim and blonde but I am nice looking in my opinion. I have a great sense of humor. I like me and if no one else does that is ok with me. I do not think I am better than another person however, I am not worse than them either. I demand respect and refuse to act dumb for any reason. I have been wrong before and I have no problem apologizing when I am wrong. That is the difference between conceite and self esteeme.
